Please Help Me Please!!!!

I had a stillborn about a year and a half ago and I still go to online support groups every now and then. A lot of people will do balloon releases on their baby's birthday. She can write a message on the balloon and send it up to her baby in heaven.

Just send her a card with a heartfelt note. You could call her too, but a card gives her the time to process in private, but still lets her know that you care.

I lost my brother in childhood and I have had three miscarriages, I think that it is wonderful that you recognize that the pain if loss lasts forever no matter how well seem to be hiding it.

Hi S.-I'm so sorry your sister in law had to go through this. You are so loving and kind to think of her like this :) I don't know if you guys are religious at all, but I'm Catholic and I have a friend who had the same thing happen. This year we had mass at our parish said in the baby's name for that day. All you have to do is call the church and ask them, they will even put the name of the intended person in their bulletin so people can pray for that family or family member. Then I sent her a card telling her how we were thinking of their family and that we had mass said in the baby's name. Totally understand if you're not into that, but just thought I'd offer it up.

Everyone is different. Some people would be comforted by talking about the baby, all day long, and feeling good knowing that others remember him. For others, any mention of him will be simply to painful to bear, and will unleash waves of regret about the things they never got to do together.

Is she in the same area you are? If she is, I would call her or send her a note about a week in advance, saying, "Hey, I've been thinking about you. Would you like to go to lunch on the 27th?" If she says, "Yes, that would be great," you'll know that your presence will comfort her. If she says, "Thanks, but no," take that as a sign that being around others would be too exhausting and painful for her.

If she's not local, send her an e-mail, e-card or Facebook post on that day that says, "Thinking about you! Love you a lot!" That way, she'll know you thought about her (and the baby), she'll know you care, but she won't have to talk about the baby unless she wants to. She may just e-mail back or say nothing, or she may phone you, but it will be up to her. She'll know best what she needs.

Bless you for caring!

Hi S.-

My sister's and I always buy each other a baby ring for each of our babies. I have had several miscarriages so I bought myself a ring that I wear on my pinky that symbolizes my babies that didn't make it into this world. Maybe get her something like that, with a kind note?
My heart goes out to your sister and to you on the loss of your nephew.

S.

Maybe you could buy a beautiful rose bush that she could plant and watch grow and blossom in memory of her son. Or a tree sapling.

I just happened across this today - Maura Lynn's Baby Loss Memorial Blocks There direct website is http://maurasmission.com/