Update

Wow, what a rocky ride you have had! I wonder how you are feeling emotionally after having gone through so much. I suspect that you will be recovering for a while and hope that you have some support while you are going through this, while having a preemie at home. Please let us know how it is going, and if you need some advice, you certainly know where to turn! All the best, and congratulations on the birth of your little girl! What did you name her?

Lacey,
I will say a pray for you. I'm so glad that your daughter was able to go home with her dad. I had a C-section 4 years ago when I had my son. I stayed in the hospital for an entire week because I had a temperature. You will be home soon. Try to get some rest and stay off your feet for a few days. Your recovery will go quickly.

I'll keep you in my prayers. Please send an update to let me know how you are feeling as well as the baby.

God bless
C. Lewis
Elizabeth, NJ.

Hi Lacey! gosh, I am so sorry all of that happened to you and your daughter. congrats on the birth of your daughter.. I hope everyone is healthy and happy now and you will all be home together soon.. good luck!!

Congratulations on your new baby! Thank you for letting us know how you are doing and sorry to hear you have been through such troubles health-wise. With very best wishes and positive thoughts for you and your daughter to get better very soon. Early motherhood can be hard enough even if you and the baby are feeling well so make sure you get as much rest and help as you can in these early days.

wow you poor thing well congratulations! glad you girls are doing well now how is your daughter now? how much does she weigh? if you need any advice just reach out

good luck keep us posted on your daughter's status
happy holidays
D.

OMG Lacey! How scary!!! I hope you and your baby are doing okay! Please let me know if you need anything at all!!!!

God bless,
Lynsey

Welcome to motherhood. Not such a fun introduction for those of us who get the medical drama version of labor and delivery rather than the perfect fantasy version. My son had breathing problems at birth and was on a respirator for 2 weeks (even though he was full term). It was difficult and scary at the time but it didn't last forever. My son is almost 3 and is thriving (he was doing pretty well after only a few months and off all medications and everything before 9 months). I have known a few friends with premature babies who did do well after having some time to catch up. You got a more difficult beginning than most but you can still be a great mom. The silver lining for us was how much emotional support we got from friends and family and how it brough my husband and I closer.

Please do make sure you take good care of yourself. If you can find a way to get some extra help (doula, baby nurse, even a neighbor or friend who can be a mother's helper) in the first few weeks do it. It is so much harder to deal with a baby when you are exhausted and not feeling your best.

Oh, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I will be praying for you and my mom wasn't well enough to know that I had all three of my boys and now she went home to be the Lord, but that's okay she knows. Anyways, you take care of yourself while in the hospital and to remember to take care of yourself when you get home. A healthy mother can take care of her healthy baby. If you're not well, then who will care for your baby as well as you? Also, before you leave the hospital, find out where mother support groups you can get connected with because motherhood is hard, but with support, it makes it bearable and get information for hotlines to call if in stress at the moment at home too. My oldest who was early was born on Dec. 9th as well. How about that?!!But, enjoy her because she's part of you :) I am sooooo happy for you and get well and I will be praying for you and lifting up prayer for you as well. Jesus loves you and your baby girl and Jason. IF you want to chat, e-mail me and I'll get back to you.
If you need someone

Dear Lacey, Welcome to your new little girl...Devyn. You have been through so much and so has she but you did it. My prayers are still with you as you heal and your baby grows. Keep us posted as time goes by. Grandma Mary

Congratulations Lacey! Hang in there. That is wonderful news that your little girl is already going home with daddy. Hang in there, and may you quickly recover. You are so brave and will be an amazing momma. If you need anything, let other Mommas on Momma source know. That is what this is for!

Lacey- What a rough time you have had! Congrats on the birth of your daughter! Take care of yourself and you will be home with her before you know it. I know this has been a long hard journey for you, but believe me when I say, it will be worth it. Motherhood is the single most amazing thing I have ever experienced! Good luck to you, and keep the posts coming if you need support! God bless you and your family.

Ah, Lacey, for however hard and scarey it's all been, you have made it through and both you and your new daughter are on the mend. It sounds like it's been very very difficult, and I'll keep you in my heart and prayers. God bless...

Lacey, I will keep you, your fiance, and your baby girl in my prayers. I hope that your recovery goes well, and that every blessing will be upon your daughter and the two of you as you begin your new family.

You have a little Christmas gift.. I will keep you both in our prayers... Good luck... Love A. and family!! Get better soon... and give that baby lots of kisses!!!!

Congratulations Lacey on the birth of your new baby girl.
What a Mighty God we serve!
Now you get better quickly so you can get home and build that wonderful mommy bond.
God bless you and your new family unit.
Please let me know you are home, and all the wonderful details of your daughter. Name, weight, oh you know!!!
Our prayers are with you for a speedy recovery
K. SAHM married 38 years, adult children 37,32,and twins 18.

Our hearts are all with you. May G-d grant you and your child speedy and complete recoveries.

Congratulations on your baby girl! Im so sorry you had to have her in such a manner, when you were already so unsure of the whole thing. But she is here now, and sounds like she is doing better, that's what is important! Use this time in the hosp. to let yourself recover. You need it! I will keep all three of you in my prayers, and I wish you the most wonderful holidays!
Kepp letting us know how you and baby are doing!

Lacey,

I will keep you, Jason and Baby in my prayers. Please follow doctors orders and take care of yourself too! It sounds like you have had a hard time but that you are in good hands. God Bless you All and you can email any time. A.

Lacey- Congratulations on your baby girl!! That is wonderful news! You have been through quite an ordeal, a lot for anyone to have to go through. I will pray that you will be home with your baby girl and fiance ASAP! Please keep us all posted! ~ D.

congratulations on your new baby girl....lil girls are precious gifts from God.......May you have a speedy recovery and may you be home soon with your lil girl....
Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year.....

M.

Lacey, I'm glad to hear that your daughter is better and heading home. What a rough beginning! Hope you did recover well from your C-section and are enjoying being a brand-new Mom (don't you love it when nurses and doctors call you "mommy"?)
Please, keep us posted on how you both are doing.
A big warm hug,

L.

Dear Lacey,

Congratulations to you and your baby girl for making it through! It also sounds like have a wonderful fiance and like you and your little one both got great medical care.

Just a few thoughts about your first few weeks at home: I think you'll do a wonderful job, but caring for a preemie can be hard, especially when you're recovering from major surgery yourself.

I really like Star's suggestion of looking for a senior citizen volunteer, who might want to "adopt" you guys. You might also look into hiring a postpartum doula. Doulas specialize in caring for postpartum moms -- they can prepare special, nutritious meals for you, which will help you recover your strength; they can help with specialized infant care, which your daughter may need. Here's a link for the Doulas of North America: http://www.dona.org/. Doula services CAN be expensive, but try describing your situation. You may be able to find someone with a sliding scale.

Congratulations, and best wishes!

Mira

Hang in there good luck.

Hi Lacey,
I'm so happy that your little girl is home. My first baby came on December 11th without the complications that you've had and it was overwhelming so I can't imagine what you're going through. Be sure to say yes to help whenever anyone offers, sleep whenever the baby sleeps, and don't worry about your TO DO list...it will all still be there tomorrow. One thing that has been a huge help to me as my children have been small is joining MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers). At www.mops.org, you can search for a local group in your area. Most Mops groups offer childcare while you meet with other moms. It's only for a couple hours twice a month but the support network that you develop is unbelievable. Many Mops groups also have a Mops Mentor....usually someone who is older and has raised her children, someone that maybe you could go to for advice,etc. I will pray for you that you are home soon to be with your new family and that everyone stays healthy.

In His Love,
D.

So glad that you're both pulling through! Congratulations and much peace to all of you.
xoxo.

Hi Lacey,

God bless you.
I had no mom or mom figure when I gave birth to my daugther.
It made my husband and I much closer and we're still very, very close today - fourteen years later.
You have your own family now.
I wish you all to grow closer, love each other deeply and never ever take each other for granted.

Good bless, Good bless.

Congratulations, Lacey! Not the most ideal way to have a baby, but as all mothers know, it doesn't matter how a baby enters the world or your life. Motherhood is all about what happens afterwards. So take good care of yourself - and that includes finding a mother's group for companionship and support - and enjoy your new baby. What's her name??

Oh Lacey...my heart goes out to you! I will pray for you and your baby...I hope you are out sooner than later, but just keep in mind that You are a gift and so is your baby and things will definitely look up! Congrats on you new baby girl and Happy Holidays!

Merry Christmas to you, Devyn and Jason,

Although this has been a challenging time, the three of you are together. I will be praying for you all.

Keep communicating with us moms. Motherhood is the hardest job I have ever loved and I need help/support/encouragement practically everyday.

Take this time to rest and eat well. The stronger and healthier you are when you go home the more you'll be able to care for and enjoy your beautiful baby girl. In a few months, when you are both strong, seek out other moms whenever possible. This site may help you find groups in your area.

Many prayers are with you. Best wishes!

Lacey
Congratulations on your new blessing! I am so sorry that it was a harder than usual delivery, but you sound like you are on the road to recovery and so is the baby! Remember, you are stronger than you think and you will be fine! You have all of the Mamas here, you have Jason, you have your beautiful new daughter and as you will soon see, you will meet other moms who have children of similar ages. Before you know it, you will have TONS of girlfriends too! Girlfriends save the day ALL the time! And let us be your Mom figures, we are happy to do it from the outpouring of support I read here. You are going to be great. If you ever have a doubt about what to do, do as Jiminy Cricket says, "...and always let your Conscience be your guide!" Much love goes your way, especially during this holiday season. Remember, you have been given the greatest gift of all! YOU ARE GOING TO BE GREAT AT BEING A MOM!

Congratulations on the birth of your new baby girl. I'm sorry you and your daughter have had a rough time. I had a similar situation with my first. I was in the hospital a week during her second week of life. I almost died....I was lucky because I had great people caring for her, even when I went home. I needed 2 months to fully recover, I was very weak. I imagine you might be in a similar situation. Please take care of yourself, otherwise you won't be able to care for your child. I hope that you both recover quickly and are able to enjoy this special time.
JB

Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl. Thank GOD she is going home with daddy. You need to recover and take care of yourself now so you can be the best mom to her ever. You, your fiance are your daughter are your family now. I'm sorry you don't have a mom figure but there will always be women out there to suppor you. You are a mom now, how exciting and you will be fabulous I'm sure! We all have difficulties, we all get scared, we all don't know, we all feel alone even if we have someone so don't feel you are lacking or that you are alone. Cherish your daughter, yourself and your fiance. Hang in there - you've come so far and things will get better!

Congratulations! Have you considered talking to some volunteer programs in your area? There are many senior citizens out there just aching to "adopt" a grand baby like yours! There might be a chapter of the Retired Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP) in your area. You could also ask a social worker or contact your local community foundation for ideas about how to connect with a senior. You could cheer up an elderly person while getting some of the "family" attention that you crave. Really, you should check into this possibility. It could make a big difference.

I hope that you and your little girl heal quickly. Merry Christmas!

That sounds very scary, Lacey. Thank goodness for the miracles of modern medicine. I wish you and your baby a speedy recovery.

S.

Thanks for letting us know -- I remember your story because I think many women are scared or miss a mom figure but we don't always put that into words. MamaSource is like my extended family of aunts and sisters; they've saved me many tears!

I'll pray for you, Lacey, as you continue to heal and you both care for your new daughter!

Lacey,

First of all congratulations on the birth of your daughter and second of all, you will do fine as a mom - you already are. My mom passed away 3 wks before my oldest daughter was born - somehow u reach deep inside of you and pull out this amazing amount of strength you never realized you had. I sure hope that you health improves because I'm sure you can't wait to be with your little girl.

Keep your chin up and just realize that you are doing the best that you can. Being a mom has kicked my behind (my girls are 11 & 5) but it is the most rewarding thing you can ever imagine. Just the little things that go on when they are so little, the first time they recognize your voice, how they nestle up in your arms, the way they smell and then somehow they turn into tweens & drive you crazy!

Good luck and if you ever need any advice or anything, email me @ ____@____.com - i'm no pro but i've made it this far!

OH wow...this has to be a hard time for you! I'm praying that God will give you peace and healing.

Hi Lacey,
I'm a M. of two grown daughters and now 5 grandkids with another one on the way. If you have any questions we can help you with just drop us a line. My email is ____@____.com

Good luck with your little girl! And I wish you and her good health for the New Year! Enjoy her they grow up way to fast!

Merry Christmas!
Rose