Needing to Spice Things Up!

I say get your girlfriends together or even have couple's come over and have one of those pure romance parties. There are many other companies to go through. I find that at the parties it is so much more fun to see the products and have a fun night even with your husband being there to give you ideas. Plus I say take a trip to Crystal's or whatever sexy outfit shop that is closer to you and pick out something cute to wear. When I get stuck in a rut I find that both of those things combined helps tons. GOOD LUCK!!!!

C.

Hi H.! I applaud you for having the courage to ask this question. You've received some great responses so far. I just wanted to add that you might try slipping your husband a suggestive letter from time to time. You know the kind I'm talking about? If it's tastefully written I think it could really spice things up. If you think your husband is the type who would appreciate the language used in romance novels, try reading through some of the bedroom scenes in some for ideas. It's not for everyone, but I just wanted to throw that out there. And check out some of the ideas on this website. Don't worry, it's very tasteful: http://www.lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Between my husband and I we have six children all but my step-daughter live with us and we have a 4 year old together...my point here is there is NEVER a time when we don't have children. My mother lives an hour away and her house is really small so she usually visits us.
When we were dating we had every other weekend together just ourselves so our time alone in the bedroom (or whatever room we chose) was pretty spicy. But now that we are so stressed and tired we rarely get any alone moments. We've started renting a hotel room once a month. We usually go out to dinner and drinks, maybe even a movie and then we follow it up with some alone time at the hotel. The fact that it seems a little seedy actually adds to the allure. We do have to start our evening early because I like to be home no later than 2 a.m. but we usually allow for a few hours of just us being us and not having to worry about who's coming down the stairs or the phone ringing or a child knocking at our door. We can be as loud or as quite as we want and then we go home and enjoy our kids that much more.
As for what you can actually do to spice things up I'm not really good at giving advice. I know what my husband likes so I just try to save those things for our monthly date. Honestly I just try to act like I did before we were and had a million things on my mind. Oh yeah, and if your husband hasn't seen your good lingerie in awhile, you might drag that out...that was one of my husband's complaints.

Definitely get the date nights going but also utilize family or trusted friends to keep your son overnight to give you more than just a few hours.

Also, I have a family member who sells "adult novelty products" for pure romance. You can contact her to send you a catalog and perhaps you and your husband can pick out something to bring with you to the bedroom that might help spice things up a bit. I'll PM you her email address.

I think that starting with a date night is an absolute must, try for one every other week, but have a goal for once a week. Like, every Friday is your date night, and if you have to reschedule it for something else, then reschedule it fro Saturday night or something not too far off.

This may sound awful, but my husband and I have read the Twilight novels together, and even though it is a little boring at times, it has crated a little date we can do together at home while our kids are sleeping, and it has some sweet romance in it too that we talk about. It has been good for us, but if you are not readers, just having some sort of hobby or card game or favorite TV show that you netflix (like the office) that you do together on a weekly basis can help.

H., I think we all go through this so don't think you are alone! Before my children I started taking exotic dancing classes which not only built up my confidence in the bedroom, but my husband loved it. These are not trashy classes. They offer them in Southlake and were featured on Oprah. They are fun and it helps add a little bit of spice. http://www.artofexoticdancing.com/classes/texas.php

Good Luck!