Ladies You Were right...cheating Husband!

Mama, I agree that it doesn't seem appropriate for him to have been there, but IMHO it doesn't sound like enough proof of cheating to proceed with tearing the family apart at this especially vulnerable time. I think there was much wisdom in the advice of the moms who advised you to wait until after you have given birth and gotten established to decide to proceed in either direction.

That said, it is not healthy for you (or the baby!) to be harboring such anger and living with a man who you resent so. If you want him out, have him leave and live elsewhere for now, but I really think this is a TERRIBLE time to act on proceeding with a divorce. It is a deception to think that it will magically make everything easier and you are very wise to recognize that. It's just not true - it's not that easy or fast. This man will always be part of you and your children's lives. Divorce will not erase him.

Get some space and surround yourself with loving friends and family if you can. Make sure your other children are feeling loved and safe. Take care of your physical needs so you can be strong. Prayers and hugs to you. Good luck.

I just wanted to send you hugs. You didn't "allow this to happen". You did your best but life happens. Do your best to reassure your children that this isn't their fault and just continue to love on them.
Good luck to you. *Hugs*

Every other weekend and dinner twice a week. He takes them out someplace, or his new place, not dinner by you. As much as you hate him right now and are very very very hurt, it's not fair to your kids to have them lose their dad to just a few days a month.

I would stress to him that you don't want you kids around him and any other woman, but know no judge will put that in your visitation order. Hopefully he will put his kids emotional needs before his own and respect that.

It sounds fair to me. Maybe him leaving for a week will give you both time to process what's going on (or not going on) between the two of you and then start figuring out where to go from here. It does not seem appropriate to me that he took the 7 yr old along to see another woman - unless of course you were informed of this and weren't feeling up to going or something. ...A coworker was a few months pregnant when she found out her husband and neighbor were having an affair, he stayed in the house until the baby was a couple weeks old. Her other kids at the time were about 8 & 12. I don't know if that really made things any easier though. When it's over it's over and when the trust is gone I personally can't imagine having that person in the house. This a tough spot you're in without being pregnant! So sorry!!!

Wow, remember that You did not allow this to happen! Do NOT blame yourself! It sounds fair, but are you letting him live there on weekends or visit them on weekends?