I work for a woman out of her house doing Bookkeeping for their company. Through our work relationship we have become really good friends. Tomorrow is her birthday, and while I have had a gift planned to get her, I wasn't able to get it yet because I have been in the hospital. I was sick last Sun-Wed and then admited to the hospital for irregular contractions (i'm also 30 weeks prego) and stayed until friday. Which since being released, I am still having some contractions, but not as many. So I have been told to stay in bed and rest. Nonetheless, I am feeling better for the most part and will be going to work tomorrow (where i sit the whole time anyway) BUT I haven't gotten her gift yet. So, I was going to go get it tomorrow afternoon and give it to her Tuesday. Is this super tacky since I will see her on her actual birthday- or is it ok, given the circumstances? I can't really send my DH to get it because I am not sure exactly what I am getting. I am getting her some Pandora charms, but I am not sure which yet- and I don't want to leave it to him to decide. Thanks ladies.
p.s. I am sure she will understand of course, but I just feel bad because she is one the most thoughtful sweet people I have ever met and I just feel bad not being prepared.
I wasn't ordered to bed rest. Just to take it easy and stay in bed and rest. Doesn't mean I can't go to the store or cook a light meal. Just that when I can, I need to lay down and rest. If I were to be ordered to bed rest- I would be doing that and nothing but that. I did not dialate and my cervix is still very intact. The contractions were cause by my sickness.
Tell her that you have it picked out but couldn't pick it up and that it's coming. She'll understand completely. :)
It's not tacky, just tell her happy birthday and let her know you have a gift planned but haven't been able to get out to pick it up and you're excited to give it to her on Tuesday. She's not a child, she will understand!
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No, not tacky at all. If you are good friends, then she knows exactly what's been going on with you, health-wise, and will be honored that you even thought of her in the middle of all your hospital time!
I agree empty handed for a boss might be a bad move. If a card won't suffice for you (it is the thought that counts afterall), call the jewler today (if they're open) you will be buying these from, explain the situation and have the jewler (they're good at that!!) pick them for you, then have hubby pick them up. They might even deliver them for you as well so they arrive while you are both at work. Or have hubby pick up a gift card from the jewler (if possible) and tell her it's so she can pick out her own Pandora charms. Then all you'll need to do is bring a birthday card and gift card tommorrow.
One other option is to see if the jewler has a webpage/online catalogue you can look at, then have hubby do all the running around.
I make these recommendations because you don't want to mess with contractions. If you were told to take it easy, take it easy. At the very least, if you don't want to show up to work empty handed, bring a card (picked up by hubby) and tell her that your intentions in the card.
Nice flowers delivered are always nice and trouble free too. Or maybe lunch catered in for the both of you.
Stay in bed and drink water! And don't worry about being late with the gift, she'll know you sincerely care if you tell her.
No, it's not tacky. And being the sweet person she is, she will likely be very thankful but hope you didn't put yourself out too much.
She will appreciate your thoughtfulness and the kind gesture.
Don't worry about it.
Best wishes.
I think it would only be tacky if you did not follow through. Like you said you would give her something and then you did not. In my family we joke that your birthday is not over until you get all your gifts. Hehe. So we joke not to give us something for a few weeks so it can "still" be our special day.
Can you call out tomorrow? j/k :). I would just tell her that since you were in the hospital and sick you were unable to get her present, so you will have to give it to her Tuesday. I'm sure she would understand.
Don't feel bad! You have been kinda busy.
If she is sweet and thoughtful, she'll understand. It'll be okay. Just tell her you planned on having her gift by her bday but b/c of your medical issues, its not ready yet.
Giving a gift is but for a moment. You can still help her have a special day by being happy for her,oohing and aahing over her other gifts, helping her eat her cakes :)
Take care of your baby! don't give yourself added stress - its not worth it, even for a good boss.
Im sure she will understand however you were ordered to bed rest baby needs to still be in your womb,just because your sitting anyway isn't an excuse & feeling a little better but still having contactions not as many honey do you want a preterm baby?You were already in the hospital now orders are bed rest but you still plan to go shopping for a present & to work.
UM isn't being ordered to bed rest and being told to go to bed and rest the same thing?
You said both of you have become really good friends. I'm sure she will not only understand but also not want you to go out of your way to get her a gift since you have been "sick". Maybe you could get her a nice card and write a personal note telling her how much you enjoy your friendship and that as soon as you are feeling better you would like to get her a gift to celebrate her special day.
I would call where you plan on buying and seeing if you can get it online and have hubby pick it up.
I personally think it's a tad rude to know you are going to see someone on their birthday but not have something for them...but you do have extenuating circumstances....
URGH!!! I would call the jeweler and see what you can do!!
GOOD LUCK!! Hope the baby is good and all is well for the rest of your pregnancy!
I don't think so. Personally I think it's fun to have the day spread out a little bit ;-). If you want, you can give her a short handwritten note letting her know what you wrote about her being sweet and thoughtful and that you feel bad her gift will be belated. She will understand.
It's really fine! You were just in the hospital and you shouldn't put any additional stress on yourself or do things that are not absolutely necessary. Running around and making extra trips to stores just isn't necessary. No one will think badly of you under these circumstances!
I'm sure this friend will understand your situation. If you feel you must get her a particular item, shop the store online where you would find it, have it shipped directly to her. Or you can print pictures of exactly what you want to get, then have your husband or another friend go to the store to get it. Many stores also have the ability to ship-to-store. You buy online & have it sent to your local store. No shopping required. Just pick it up from customer service or lay-a-way area of the store. Just check the shipping time required.
stop and get flowers on way to work or perfume at local drug store and a nice card or lotto scratch offs
Ya know, I would just say happy birthday and oh gosh I forgot your gift at home! I'll be sure to bring it tomorrow. Technically, yes it's a "lie" but you were planning on doing it, will do it, just didn't have a chance b/c of your other issues. Then on Tuesday say sorry I didn't get this to you yesterday, blah blah, and be done with it. I think she'll understand.
Considering the circumstances, she'll understand. Just tell her you've decided what to get but haven't gotten to get it yet. Better late than never and it's not tacky.
