How Often Do You Say No? or Are You the One Being Turned Down?

I think it is pretty much equal.

What I find funny is I am more a J. before bed kind of gal and he is more of a smile on my face on the way into work kind of guy.

Here is where it gets funny. I will come on to him at night and he knows it but falls asleep because he is too tired. So this keeps M. up so I am really tired in the morning. He on the other hand feels bad for falling asleep so he wants to make it up to M. in the morning, ya know, when I am now really tired. This seems so self defeating. :p

Then again this is why I say it is pretty much even, I get the no at night and then he gets the no in the morning.

I say no more often!

We have been together since I was 19, that's 15+ years and I can count on 1 hand how many times my husband has told M. No and more than half those times were when I was asking for round 2 :)

I've NEVER said "No" to my wife. I've always said, "No thank you, but I appreciate the offer" to "other women" when asked.

My wife is the one to say no.

Good luck to you and yours.

I say no more because if my husband had his way, it would be a morning, noon and night every day kind of thing. Ummmmm...no. He only rejects M. when he's in a depression cycle.

Hmm...neither of us said no, or vary rarely. If he was hesitant, I could J. flash him some skin and it'd change to "yes". If I felt like "no", I would provide (non-intercourse) alternatives that satisfied him. We were quite well matched, and got to know each other's good times and rhythms, so no issues there.

I'm the "noer" in the family. Hubby very rarely turns M. down! If he did, I would get worried!!!

We don't keep score.

Neither of us really say "no". We are pretty much equal sexually which is a nice change since my ex was like a damn dog wanting to hump my leg every second! LOL!

So I have never turned him down. I think we both are pretty good about "reading" each other, we J. know when we will and likely when we won't, if that makes sense.

It sounds like you guys are sort of playing games with each other. Next time you want sex, J. say "hey, I'm game for some action right now, are you?" and see what he says, instead of assuming he's getting that hint from you. I think its a bit rude on his part to see you naked and probably wanting some action, he's selfish and does his own thing, THEN when he's ready hours later, wakes you up for some action. Have you talked to him about it? I would J. be honest with him and see if you guys can figure out how to communicate better so you can be more on the same page. Good luck!

We've been together for 25 years and I have to say that it's pretty rare that either of us turns the other down. We're always game and we try to "show up" even if we're not 100% feeling it. Once in a great while I'll get a really bad headache (for real) or J. be dog tired. I've actually learned that sex is sometimes good for my headache (don't tell the guys this if you use it as your "out").

I'd say each one of us might turn the other down a couple of times a year, on average.

I say no more often because of health issues. Fibromyalgia sucks.

Weirdly enough, I get told more no often. I honestly think hubby has low testosterone (not J. a lack of libido - but other symptoms too). He's always too tired. We often go 3-4 weeks between. And no, he is not cheating. In my first marriage, we fought about sex constantly, I rarely wanted to, and he would have gladly been a multiple times a day guy - lot's of issues there.

In the past I was told no more. now that I'm a mom of young kids, I say no more.

I usually only get told no when I ask for round two. I don't say no too often.

I do, simply because my man has Psoriasis and it often effects him in inconvienent places ... So, I ask "how he is doing" and when he is all good then we are pretty much a go but often (oh why oh why) when I am in a mood so is his condition! We are seeking new/different treatment options but most of them take time to work well long term so he is on one for a good 3-6 months with little to no change then we take a break and go back to what does work but HURTS (man tears) so ... I J. deal with being turned down and make the most of what we do get to do!

I get told no more often!!

I was the one but that was because he would wait too late to say or do anything. Now, he works a 2nd job till 9:30 3 days a week and I have to be in bed by 10:00 during the work week so we don't get to do that very often any more which really really stinks. The times where I say I want it to him and some how he missed the invite, I will get undressed in front of him in the morning with my lingerie on from the night before and show him what he missed out on.

My husband never says no, very rarely I will. The timing has to be inappropriate for M. to say no.

My husband is gone most of the month for work therefore my situation is different.

You're welcome! I think the being told 'no' comes out of our mouths evenly. Not very often, but evenly.