Facial Hair on 10 Year Old Daughter

Self esteem is so fragile at this age and peers can make or break it. If she is showing darker facial hair then no she is not too young. Kids are so cruel these days. I am of Armenian heritage so I understand facial hair and the emotional damage kids can dish out. Waxing might be an option too for her upper lip since the sun will shine and make it show up even though it is no longer dark.

No, It is not to young at all :) A quick brow/lip wax and she is good to go!
She will feel like a new girl!!

I don't think she is too young. One of my girls looked like she was developing a uni-brow last year and we cleaned it up a bit with tweezers. We do it every couple of months. A friend takes her daughter for waxing her upper lip every other month. I think she started when she was 9.

Don't make her suffer like we all did, take her to get waxed or help her with tweezers and bleach.

Thank you so much for bringing this to others attention. My 12 year old granddaughter has a moustache. She just wants to ignore it yet others are beginning to say things to her, hurtful things. Sad... I too will benefit from your inquiry.

God Bless,
K.

Please help her out with this! She isn't too young, especially since it's facial hair. Wait on the leg shaving if it softens the blow for you.

my daughter is Asain... adopted from Korea.. so when she came home in 2nd grade... because the boys were laughing at her.. i was upset.. i called the dr.. and talked to her. she said the time to take care of things is when the child asks.. so we started bleaching.. not to good because the hair would then turn very blond.. and with her olive skin.. it showed more.. we went to waxing.. and she hated it.. we did it 3 times.. and she really cried.. she asked me about nair.. so we tried it.. she is now in 5th grade.. 11 yrs old... and she does nair about 1once every month.. or when needed.. sometimes its 5 weeks.. she loves it.. goes on easy.. comes off easy and she does it herself.. i am leaving her eyebrows alone for the time being.. i told her if they realy bother her then we will take care of them with waxing.. which won't be as bad as her upper lip.. it won't hurt as much.. good luck.. A. ____@____.com if you have any questions..

We had this situation with one of my daughters. It was extremely severe. Her docter referred her to an endroctrinologist who diagnosed a harmonal imbalance that was causing the unusual facial hair growth. This imbalance also affected other areas of her life, especially her emotions. I don't wish to alarm anyone and a small amount of facial hair may be normal. However, the other responses dealt with fixing the symptoms and sometimes there is a root cause that needs to be addressed. Hope this is helpful.

H.

I would take her some that does threading or waxin, yeah it is painful, but the sting goes away pretty quickly. I do not like bleaching because certain lighting emphasizes it.

Just be honest with her about the pain, and let her try a few options.
I myself prefer threading, I often breakout and have reaction to the wax.

M.,
if this is bothering her and she is aware ofvit, I don't think she is too young by any means. I wouldn't do bleach though. Try waxing. The results will last longer and over time the hair will soften as a result. Good luck

If your daughter has hair and it bothers her, then she isn't too young. My 10 year old has been tweezing, snipping and shaving for the last year. I recommend using a cream hair removal system. It doesn't hurt like waxing does. If your finances allow, then permanent hair removal is best.

I would go ahead and get rid of it, maybe look into laser hair removal if she would like. That really sounds like a hard thing to deal with and it does make people stare even if they aren't inclined to make fun.

I would take her to have threading done or waxing. I wouldn't use the bleach. To harsh of a chemical. These methods do come with some discomfort but ...no pain no gain! LOL!

Not too young. But do take her yourself to a professional to do it right. Like some of the ladies said she will try doing it herself, and will probably make it worse. Believe me!! I never told anyone but I did do it myself when I was younger. My mom never showed me how to wax. So one day I was sick of having a moustach, and a uni-brow I took one of my dads razors and got rid of them. Wow!! what a mistake. So ya, take her yourself and show her how to do it correctly.

NO!! She is NOT too young. I got picked on for that reason too and it really screwed up my confidence as a young person. I bleached for years and then had it removed with the laser. If I even think I see a hair in the mirror all of those awful teen age feelings come back again! I love my thick dark hair....on my head!! She shouldn't feel insecure about something so easily fixed especially since it's a VERY common problem. Check into threading. I haven't tried it but have friends who think it's awesome.

I think this age is so hard for them. My son is 10 and has his share of issues with friends. Nothing major, but he seems to be more sensitive lately. I don't think she is too young. As long as you are there doing it with her/for her so that it is safe, I think it's fine.

What's the problem? If she needs it, go ahead and relax. The joy of feeling comfortable should out weigh the moral dilemna.

If it is starting to affect her confidence, absolutely do it. Grade school is difficult enough! I wouldn't bleach the hair, however, just remove it. If you bleach it, it's still there. I would go to an aesthetician and either have her wax or use the "threading" method (the professional uses thread to remove the hair; it's fabulous). If you need a referral, I know someone at South Coast Plaza who is highly experienced in both methods, and she is Asian, as well. If you choose waxing, make sure and confirm that the aesthetician uses a clean wooden stick EACH time she dips into the hot wax. Otherwise, the herpes virus can be spread via this method (by double-dipping).

kids can be very mean at that age, it will help her selfesteem and it wont hurt her to start at this age. Avon, M. kay both have gentle easy to use bleaches and hair removal stuff. Good luck.

checkto see if there is outher ways to remove the hair but teeezeing hair os ok let her do it she will be much happier good luck A. no hills

I got picked on early b/c of hairy legs and remember begging my mom to let me shave. She did and the teasing stopped. It's not that big of a deal when you really think about it. She notices it, others notice it...let her do something about it before it effects her self esteem.

When being teased, you have to think of situation, by each situation. You mentioned plucking eyebrows.... normally, I'd say too young. BUT if they are too much for her face... and she's being teased... I say that emotional trauma is far worse than plucking and bleaching/waxing. Pluck... bleach/wax... Just don't go to the extreme...

I would let her do something about it. Help her out since she's younger so she can't hurt herself. I was teased relentlessly because my mom wouldn't let me shave my legs for the longest time. I have very long arm and leg hair, we're talking 2-3 inches long. It was really obvious. It really bothered me! Self esteem is a very fragile thing. It's a simple enough thing to let her do.

maybe she should have it lasered off..could be better at a young age ..then it never comes back..u can talk to a skin doc about it..but if she is being made fun of i think its fine to handle it..kids are cruel..they'll find anyway to make fun of someone..sometimes i notice that some of my friends could use a laser treatment or waxing...i think if it were my daughter i would take her to the skin doc or a place that does laser and talk to them about it...i know they use numbing creams ...could just get rid of it in one or 2 simple treatments and never have to deal with it again. good luck ..tell her she's beautiful and kids just have nothing better to do than make fun of others sometimes..whah!

I say help her find something that is safe that takes care of the hair. Kids can be so cruel and you want her to be confident and comfortable in her own self.

And, if you don't find something to help her, chances are she'll do it on her own and that may or may not have the best results...

Good luck!
-M

I was also teased in school for the same thing. My mother did not let me suffer. Sally Hansen makes a product that is a hair removal creme. You place a thick layer on the upper lip for 5-7 minutes and the hair is removed.
Waxing or threading is great for when she is a bit older. They can be quite painful. I promise you this works--I still use it today! I am half middle eastern and I have very light olive skin and dark hair.

Personally, I think plucking eyebrows is a big girl activity. But if she's getting teased about hair on her lip I would help her bleach it. Good luck.

I have used the Sally Hansen hair remover cream for the face.
It works for me.

If she needs to, allow her to remove her lip hair... she is a pre-teen now.. and these things can be a big deal to them especially if getting teased. It can really erode their self worth.

all the best,
Susan

I don't think its early for YOU to help her bleach or pluck.the hair. I think its early for HER to do it, just in case she makes a mistake and gives them a reason to make fun of her again. If you don't help, you may find her doing things behind your back.
Kids are cruel, GOOD LUCK in what ever decision you make!

don't bleach it - it makes it stand out more. I plucked but not until I was older b/c it sure hurts when you start out. But if your daughter wants to try it, let her. I'm doing laser hair removal now that I'm older. It's worth it and not too painful.

not too young. use bleach or wax.

You have a lot of good responses. I do threading on my eyebrows and upper lip, and it is painful, so I wouldn't have her do it until she is a bit older. I suggest waxing which is quick, easy, and relatively inexpensive. You have to do it more often, so a good at home wax would be best. Salons are good if you can afford it, but the new waxes they have come out with at home should work for her. Good luck and hope everything works out ok.

If she can take it, once again I recommend electrolysis. It's better than being teased.

I think that bleaching and plucking (whichever works best, is least invasive, etc) is fine. These things can leave permanent scars on children. I saw it as an eighth grade teacher. There is nothing wrong with fixing such a small thing, as long as it doesn't involve medication with side effects.

S. Toji

If you can remember that you were teased then you remember how it made you feel. Let her know you went through the same thing and help her remove it anyway you see fit. (waxing, laser or hair removal) Just let her know that you appreciate the fact she came to you and did not try to do it behind your back. Self confidence at that age is a big deal.

Definately have it taken care of. Don't let it turn into an emotional issue and make her self conscious and insecure. I've been there... and it really hurts when kids in school do that.