Would You Hire a Young Beautiful Nanny or Is It Intimidating?

I would think that as long as she was properly experienced and has good references it wouldn't matter. I trust my husband and would be more likely to be angry with the woman more then with him if something ever did happen. I know him and someone who was "gorgeous" would be intimidating to him, not appealing.

I don't think I would hire a "hot" nanny. I do trust my husband completely and I know he would NEVER stray. But, if I had two woman in front of me who were equally qualified and one was hot and one was not....call me crazy but I would choose the non-hot one. As mothers we are too busy sometimes to focus on ourselves. I don't have time to dress up and I don't have time to put tons of makeup on everyday. So there are days I know that my husband comes in the door and I look a little "haggard". Why would I want some young hot girl in my home to make me feel even less "attractive" in comparason.

And some men do stray. Woman are worried that their husband might hit on the nanny. Not me...but some woman. It does happen! My good friend was about to get married and her fiance left her for the stripper that he met at his bachelor party. I know that is not the same thing...but lots of men ARE pigs. You get my drift. I totally understand why a woman would not want a hot nanny!

um... i would hire the competent nanny, who honored my rules and had a personality that compelemented mine and that of my kids. (duh?) looks have nothing to do with it.

What about placing them with single moms? Assuming the young women you are talking about are just beautiful and not acting "sexual" it shouldn't be a problem but I am sure some women are insecure or don't trust their husbands. One of my daughters is working as a nanny right now for a single Mom who is an big shot executive so needs someone to be there for her child when she works long hours. Not to brag--but my daughter is gorgeous wether she is trying to look that way or not, like even in sweats and no make up. I thinks she actually prefers to work for a single mom--she was a bit concerned about working for a couple just didn't want to worry about possible lecherous men.

I guess it depends on what she wore and how she was made up. If she came to an interview conservatively dressed and made up, I would not have any problem with it. If she was dressed provacitively and made up, I would question her values, and would not hire her.

Our son's first babysitter was beautiful, inside and out and I did not have any qualms about hiring her.

M.,

It depends on the individuals marital situation. I would not care how beautiful the nannie was. I just want to hire someone that is highly capable to care for my children (3). Although, if you have a rocky marriage...I can see if someone is not ready to hire Pamela Anderson to come into their home.

Definitely would not hire a hot nanny. She can be attractive, but not deliberately sexy. She should not come across as being overly concerned about her sex appeal. That means she should not wear plunging necklines, overly clingy clothing, or dramatic evening makeup.

I don't think it is unreasonable to expect a nanny to dress modestly and have a nurturing motherly or teacherly demeanor at work. She certainly can be "naturally" attractive, but the sex appeal and any appearance of flirtation or trying to be sexy hot is a justifiable reason to reject a nanny. She does not have to deliberately make herself look frumpy or ugly! She just has to be appropriate for the position and the families have a right to hire who they feel comfortable with.

I think you should talk openly and honestly with your nannies and if they are indignant or offended and not willing to do what's necessary to get a job, then that isn't the right job for her.

There are lots of jobs where certain physical attributes work for or against you and that's just the way it is.

To begin with, I don't think I'm like many women (although posts to this response could prove me wrong, who knows!).

If I ever entertained the idea of hiring a nanny, my top priority would be to find one that loves kids, is intelligent, has training and experience in dealing with early childhood developmental issues, and someone who could follow my rules. Looks are not even on the list, unless of course she is exuding constant sexuality that would interfere with her ability to take care of the kids (in other words, she's constantly acting inappropriately around the kids).

If she's hot - fine. If she's not hot - fine. It wouldn't bother me in the least and I certainly would not feel threatened. In fact, it might even be fun for my husband to be able to brag to his friends that he has a hot nanny. We'd both get a kick out of that! Both of us are very secure in our relationship, both of us work closely with members of the opposite sex (some of them hot too - oh my goodness!), and personally it wouldn't bother me at all. Of course if the hot nanny tried to seduce my husband, the trick would be on her because he wouldn't go for it and he'd fire her.

M.,

As it happens, many career women are insecure as far as having a sexy nanny in the house. My friend is a professional nanny, and she has seen many instances where the Mom gets into territorial wars on who is the better mom, who does the best housekeeping, who cooks better, who gets to do what with the kids, and the nanny is not to interact with Dad at all.

What to do? A woman with kids and a career is already trying to juggle it all, might not have enough time to spend with hubbie, much less time to herself. Obviously feels threatened by a woman who gets set, established breaks from the kids every day to pamper herself, exercise, and actually RELAX with FREE time.

K.