Ok, I've Had Few Drinks... Teach Me to Be "Sexy"

It's hard sometimes. My hubby (still) likes a strip tease. These are usually easier done after a couple of glasses of wine ;)
The ol' adage "men love their wives to be a chef in the kitchen and a wh*re in the bedroom" rings pretty true for most men. Once in your bedroom, alone, together, it's the one time you can be that "crazy" chick--- and no one else knows about it but him and you.

You can do it. Fake it until you make it.

My brother told me many years ago that what makes a woman sexy is CONFIDENCE!! It does not matter what her body looks like.

If it takes a glass (or two) of wine to lose some inhabitions, then so be it. Be confident with your body. If he thinks you are sexy, then he is right. Stop trying to analyze it and just go with it! Don't look at yourself....look at him and see the look of desire in his eyes and let that drive you.....

Men are easy to please, especially the ones we're married to.

Heck, I'm 5'2" and over 200lb and my husband was copping a feel after I came in from mowing the lawn yesterday! I was red and sweaty and icky, weird man! I love him!

Let the embarrassing work for you. You'r heart is pumping, your blood is flowing and go for it. If you trip, laugh and go again. That's the great thing about being married, he'll be there the next night and the night after that. I don't know how many times things have gone all to giggles in our bedroom. We just kiss and keep petting.

Keep up the private dancing, keep watching yourself, keep telling yourself that you do look good. The confidence will come.

If bra and panties is too under-dressed for your comfort put on one of his shirts! Candles! Everyone is sexier in candle light. Also a blindfold can be fun, you can wear it and dance so you can't see him, or he can wear it and lay back while you get acquainted with him.

Hey - yep of course you are normal, especially after being a Mom!

A couple of things have worked for me.
in no particular order
1/ turn your internal conversation with yourself into positives.
"I love this" "this is sooo much fun" "I feel so sexy"
2/ I was at the library and Cosmo(politan) was out on the table in the kids area and it had an article, "50 things men wish you would do during sex" or something like that. Probably the June issue maybe May. But honestly it had some really good advise. What to hold, what to bite, some ideas of good things to say.
Mainly it is desire and that "no fear" confident attitude.
I loved the suggestions of 'wrap your legs around me tight', and 'claw my back.'
Certainly do always tell them what YOU want - for in the end I think the whole act is far more satisfying for both parties if the gal gets her's first, it's just way easier to be sexy when you are feeling it radiate in your core!
3/ get your endorphins going by exercise. Gym or just take 40 minutes each day to seriously walk fast. That's it! In a few days you just feel better more 'groovy baby'!
I hope you get a lot of replies there are so many ways to approach it.
Men are just so different from us. They don't see what we see, so try to see it like he does - "it's ALL good" "I'm alone in my bedroom with a naked woman - it's ALL good" Oh, and don't be afraid to laugh, like be silly. You know how we are silly with our kids...only for the two of you! oh and shadows are sexy, easy to feel sexy when you have a shadow, but a candle shadow - ixnay on the ightlay! :)

Years ago when I was a teenager, and thought I should starve myself to be attractive and spent hours in my lifetime exercising my brains out, purchasing sexy clothes, doing whatever I could to be attractive I found out those are not things that make you sexy. After I got divorced from my first husband who never seemed to notice me I married my second husband. The man thinks all women are beautiful (but I know he loves me!!) and I learned that sexy can be all kinds of things. You are so normal, just listen to those other mamas-they know what they are saying. Fake it, just do it, whatever it takes. Your husband will sooooo appreciate it and you will have fun, too. Just giggle and let it go. Take a shower together or whatever it takes. Glass of wine and go for it. He married YOU and that is awesome!

Don't be afraid to do it in front of him. He will love it more than you believe. If he wasn't attracted to you then he probably wouldn't have married you. I have huge self image issues that I struggle with on my own but my husband ALWAYS makes me feel confident when we are intimate. When I wear lingerie for him I refuse to look in the mirror because I'm so critical of myself but in front of him he makes me feel so gorgeous! If i were you, i would set the mood and just go for it. Turn on some candles and wear a sexy outfit. You will not fail, trust me. Good luck!

You don't have to be a DD and have the "classic" ideal figure (36-24-36) to be sexy for your husband.

"A model needs perfect lighting, designer clothes, and professional makup to look as good as the average woman does to the man that's in love with her."

If you have a hard time being sexy or naked in front of your husband, then do what many thereapists/counsellors suggest, Go naked/nude around the house. Start when your husband is not at home. Two to four weeks later, then when your husband is at home.

To learn how men think about their wives and intimacy, read the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." Its written about 75% for women and 25% for men, but it is not only about intimacy.

If you feel embarrassed about intimacy on your own, get the book, "101 Nights of great Sex." There are 50 nights for the woman to lead and plan and do and 50 for the man. AND there is nothing that says you have to do a certain one. If there is something you don't feel comfortable doing, then don't do it. Barnes and Noble sells it so you can look at it before you buy. Want to really thrill your husband? Give it to him for Father's Day.

Good luck to you and yours.

Yes, you are normal for feeling that way, BUT I hope you change your mindset. No matter how small you are on top nor does it matter how small your behind is, it's really not those physical things that make you sexy. Sexiness comes from within. If you walk with your head held high, speaking and carrying yourself with confidence then that's what others will find most appealing about you. So, please stop being hard on yourself, maybe 5 years from now you will look back and realize how smoking hott you were at THIS TIME and wish you enjoyed it. :)
All you have to do for your husband to find you even sexier is flirt with him. Kiss him, touch him, tell him you want him, tell him how good he looks and he will love it and be so turned on. ;)

Confidence = sexy.

Sounds to me like you're insecure. Why??? Sounds like you're exactly where you want to be physically, and your husband loves it! So let it fly!

If you're not confident, that will show through in anything that you do.

You are just going to have to do it. The first time will be the hardest, each time after that will get easier and easier and then it will just be second nature!! He will LOVE it, you will be the only one thinking anything is wrong ~ just go for it, you saw yourself in the mirror and saw that you ARE sexy, tell yourself that, and then go jump his bones!! Men Love a confident woman, so don't let him know that you feel uncomfortable. You can do it!!

Something that helped me was dressing to feel sexy. On impulse I bought this great pair of red heels that I love. They make me feel sexy and my hubby LOVES it when I wear them. When i first bought them I wondered what I would wear with them, but now I shop with them in mind. :) I now have a few go to outfits/shoes that are tasteful enough to wear out, but make me feel sexy and turn him on. :)
Also, if I am thinking about him and sex all day, it helps me confident and in the mood when he gets home. If I let him know I am thinking of him, email or text, that's even better.
Wine helps my confidence immensely!

Usually when my man says 'be sexy', all he means is 'be naked'. I don't really have to 'perform', haha! He's most impressed when I 'perform' orally, but that's easy. Maybe your'e reading too much into what he wants. It really doesn't take that much to turn our men on- honestly- I can be three days out from a shower, sweaty, and sick, and Josh can get randy in a second! I don't get it, but that's the way they are. Give yourself a break and do what you are comfortable with. He will love it. Over time, you will get more and more confidence to do more.

There is a Christian book that helps us women in this area too.....Intimate Issues. This book helped me understand what God's view is on sex and intimacy. Seriously, He truly desires a husband and wife to enjoy each other and this book helps reveal the truth behind the myths we have been taught to believe.