Worried About Leaving My Daughter During My Honeymoon

First, I would like to congratulate you on your upcoming wedding. What an exciting time for all of you. Sounds like you have had a rough time of things early on but that things are going well. So, congrats.

I just had to write and say how shocked I am that your own mother would go against wishes, especially given your reasons. I have to ask. Has your Mom always been this way? Is there a reason that she feels that she needs to "indulge" your daughter? Maybe you could have a heart to heart with her to explain that this "long" vacation is a bit different than the usual weekend visits and that it is important that she has a similiar structured environment that she is accustomed to. I don't know. I am having a difficult time understanding why your Mom would let her run so wild and am hopeful, for all of you, that she hears your wishes and tries to follow them for the sake of all of you.

At the end of the day though, I wouldn't worry too much. Worse case, your daughter runs wild for a couple of weeks. You can get her back on track once you are home. This is *your* time with your hubby. You guys need and deserve this. Make this about the two fo you. You will have plenty fo time to focus on yoru daughter when you get back.

Hope this helps.
N.

I think almost all grandparents tend to do what they want to do when they have their grandchildren, and as long as it's not dangerous or abusive, I'd not worry about it. The relationships children have with other important adults in their lives are valuable.

Especially since she's going to have a new stepfather in a couple of weeks - whatever security and comfort she gets with extended family, let her enjoy it.

Your Mom will not ruin your baby. So your Mom spoils her rotten. Let her. Enjoy your honeymoon and know that your baby is being spoiled, but well taken care of. Your daughter knows the rules in your house, Grandma won't ruin her. Have fun!!!!!!

Are you at the mercy of grandma being the only person to watch your daughter?

Do you want to go on your honeymoon and enjoy it or do you want to go on your honeymoon yet micromanage your daughter's behavior from a distance?

It sounds like dear old grandma is going to do whatever she wants with your daughter despite any instructions you give her. I've had that happen to me before and it's annoying and frustrating, so I get where your coming from. However, if grandma is your only option you might just have to deal with it. Otherwise, try to find someone else who can watch your daughter.

The other part to it is this: if you are gone for a week on the honeymoon and grandma does let her eat the panful of brownies, maybe grandma will get to experience just how hyper and 'energetic' your daughter can be...and that could be just what grandma needs to understand why 'strict mommy' doesn't like daughter to eat too much sugar!

As far as being away from you, I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like she has a ball with grandma, so totally hype it up and sell it in that way to her. Tell her that she is going to have her very own special vacation with grandma and that they are going to have such a wonderful time and so much fun. Of course you'll miss her, but if you play up the whole 'fun and special time' instead of making it a weepy 'I'll miss you, do you feel rejected?', then she will be just fine.

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials and, for heaven's sakes, take some much deserved time to celebrate your new life together with your husband :)