Why Is It So Much Harder to See on Paper?

I remember getting a similar report. Even though I knew that we wouldn't be able to do it on our own (8 years of trying had told us that), and I knew that we would need assistance of some sort, seeing the words in writing made it tangible. More real.
But, after I got over the initial ouch of it, it also gave us a reason.
It was no longer just because we weren't in my cycle, the wrong position, my husband was wearing the wrong underwear, the wind was blowing the wrong direction, or that a higher power didn't think we deserved to be parents. There was a real reason and we could move forward.
We eventually did IVF twice and have two beautiful medical miracles.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find some peace in this.

It makes it more real, with detail to it. It is like taking to someone on the phone and then hearing it in person. Makes it more official and real.

The encouraging thing is if they told you they can do something about it. That helps get to the next step.

That stinks, I'm sorry for you. I know what you mean though - it's like until you see it, you can still hope they made a mistake or switched your results with someone else. But you got through this part, that's good! Just take it one day at a time, and don't worry about a year from now, or even a month from now. And don't worry about venting, this is the place to do it!

It feels much more official than just word of mouth on paper than when the doc just says it ... that's why it's harder.

It is a shock and I really have no explanation as to why it is so much harder to see in writing. We went through 3 1/2 years of trying and three doctors. By the time we saw the third doctor, and she read the test results. For us we had no idea exactly why, other than hearing I had high prolactin levels. We had gone through so many tests, just as you may be going or have gone through. The one thing she did not do was put me through them again because she said it would be worthless. She told us she was going to get aggressive. She/we decided I should have a laparoscopy to make sure there was nothing blocking that was not picked up on another invasive test or correct something before beginning IVF. She found nothing. Long story short, we were getting ourselves prepared to begin IVF and we actually got pregnant. We asked her how and what we were doing wrong in the past, she said that is the hardest part of her job. There was no answer for us. When my daughter was a year we started to try again on our own. It took us another year. At that point I said, I was happy with just one child. I was not prepared to go through it all again. I found out a month later on Christmas eve that I was pregnant with our second.

I told you a condensed version of my story because even though you are probably feeling like you are the only one and reading and hearing test results are very difficult, I think you should sit down and figure out a plan. Research & visit the best doctors in your area because you have results to show them. You are not living in the same state that I was living in when I went through this or I would recommend my doctor to you. The one thing you MUST not get sucked into is everyone's opinions! I heard things like, just relax and it will happen, start the adoption process and it will happen, don't eat this or that and it will happen, etc. Just try really hard to ignore those people.

Please if you need support, PM me. I felt like the only one in my whole circle of friends and family who went through this. I know how you are feeling.

All the best to you!

sometimes venting needs to be done......will be sending happy thoughts & prayers your way.

I wish you Peace.

It is hard to see it on paper. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. But, look at it this way, now that they know what the problem is they can do something about it. Better than trying and trying and keep getting that negative pregnancy test, right?
My brother and sister-in-law were more or less told that they could not conceive and after they adopted 2 beautiful children, they found out they were pregnant.
Keep your head up! Now you KNOW what your dealing with and can get some options :)