When to Start K-garden

Updated on January 30, 2009
S.O. asks from Temecula, CA
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My son is 4 now and will be 5 next November 23rd. K-garden starts august here. I have been told wait till he is 5 to start. That would be another 1 1/2 and he would be 5 going on 6. He knows his abc's and sounds. He counts to 30-40. He speaks well and plays well with others once he knows them. (which usually doesn't take long) haha. He is starting to add and he cuts paper good. He is currently in Pre-K 2 days a week and in daycare 2 days a week. His day care lady has been with us since he was 2 mos and she teaches alot of real life lessons. His only hold back I could see is he is very shy at first and scared. He is intimidated at preschool but by the time I pick him up he's raving about his friends and what he did that day. I don't want to start him too early if he is not ready mentally/emotionally. But I also don't want to hold him back if he IS ready and that initial shyness/scared feeling is normal at first. He has been in pre-K 5 mos now. He seems ready in every other way. I still have 8 mos before school starts to figure it out. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. I want to do the right thing for him...also he is a tall strong boy. He already looks 5.

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L.K.

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Do your son a favor and hold him back until he is 5. He will be so much more successful with anther year under his belt. He may be ready now but remember that he will be going to scholl with children who are already 5 by they time school starts and he will be 4 for the first 4 month of school. I am a 1st grade teacher and i have had a young class and an older class and everytime i have an older class they are much more succeddful and capable. Good luck!

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M.S.

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It really is up to you. My daughter's Birthday is Nov. 1st. She is 6 and in kindergarten. She was more than ready academically, but wasn't where she needed to be socially, plus she is on the small side. We are very happy that we didn't push her. She is doing great and will do wonderfully next year in 1st grade.

Just don't think of it as "holding him back" you really aren't. CA is one of the few states with a Dec. 1st cut off date. Most states are Sept. 1st.

Where my daughter is currently attending kindergarten, it seems that a majority of the parents did/are doing the same. What's the rush anyway?

Best wishes whatever you decide!!
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L.S.

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I have a lot to say on this matter because we just went through the exact same thing with our son last year...

My son is 5 and will turn 6 at the end of July. I had assumed that I would put in in Kindergarten this past year since he was very ready academically and his b-day was in July. However, his preschool teacher from last year recommended that we wait one more year and start him in Kindergarten this coming year when he just turns 6. Socially he just wasn't ready last year. His preschool teacher last year has a son (now in his 20s) who was the same way. He was very bright and academically ready, but not quite ready socially. At the time she didn't know what to do so she put in in Kindergarten. His K teacher told her that she recommended that he repeat K one more year because socially he was having a hard time. She didn't want him to be bored so she moved him ahead into 1st grade. He ended up repeating 1st grade because he just couldn't handle it. Even to this day, she says that her son says he wasn't smart enough and had to repeat a grade. She tells him that it wasn't that he wasn't smart enough. He just wasn't ready socially. Now she says that if she had it to do all over again, she would DEFINITELY wait. So that is why she recommended that we wait with our son.

I didn't know what to do because I didn't want my son to be bored in another year of preschool. He was already starting to read and do simple math at the end of last summer. I talked to a lot of people about it including my neighbor who is a kindergarten teacher and my mom who is an early childhood development specialist. What I heard from most people was that if I had ANY question in my mind, to wait and start him a year later. That is what we decided to do. He is in preschool now 3 days a week and will start K in August. I cannot tell you how glad I am that we waited. I think he will do so much better starting in K in August.

Every child is different, but from what I understand, most boys mature a little slower. Now-a-days Kindergarten is like 1st grade when we were little. They have increased the standards so much that if they are not ready, they can fall behind quickly. I think it is better to wait, than to have to have them repeat a grade later on.

I know you will hear lots of opinions, including mine, but you should really follow your heart and do what you think is best for your little guy! God bless. *Ü*

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M.S.

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Sounds like he's academically ready for kindergarden. You could send him if the school accepts him, some schools have cut-off dates (like in my kid's school you have to be 5 by October 2nd to be accepted).

However, if you see (or are told by his teacher) that he's not ready socially you should take him out and try a year later. If you keep him in kindergarten and he's not ready he will feel miserable. Send him to Pre-K full time instead if you can afford it.

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M.E.

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My son started Kindergarten at 4 and turned 5 in Sept, so he was only 5 months older than your son. He is now in 6th grade and gets very good grades and is in GATE. He excels in every subject. I suggest you try it and worst-case, he repeats Kindergarten.

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