What to Do with My Wedding Ring? (Divorced Now)

After my divorce, a very long time ago, I had kept my ring in a safe deposit box for quite awhile. I worked at a bank. Going through my box one day I looked at the ring and realized I would never need it and didn't want to make it into anything else. One of my co-workers (at the time) commented on how pretty it was. So I decided to silent auction it off at work. At the end of the week I opened the bids in presence of everyone and gave it to the highest bidder. I got some extra cash and the winner got a good deal on a nice ring. A win-win situation for both of us. It may sound weird but it was fun and I never regretted it.

I still have my old wedding ring from 28 years ago. I will give it to my son's daughter when she is older.

Depends on the ring. I had the diamondsv reset from mine into another ring I wear on my right hand. I've had friends that have had them made into necklaces, rings and some that even sold them. If you had a daughter I might have suggested saving it for her but with 2 boys how do you know which one to give it too? On the other hand I also wear my grandma's from her first marriage so granddaughters could also be a place to give them. Take the time to adjust and make your choice after the anger has cooled so you know you are making the correct one.

Best of luck to you and the boys.

I'm not sure why, but I saved my engagement ring for my daughter. It is nothing special as we were teenagers. We were broken up before she was even born. I also saved a love note between the two of us and a few pictures of us when we were together. I guess I just want her to know that we were in love once, and maybe that will help prove how much we both love her, despite our differences.

Since you have two boys that were a very good thing that came out of the marriage why not save it to let them have when they get older for if they would like to some day give it to a girl, or sell it, and spend the money on something for your sons future.

I would suggest to wait at least a year or more after the divorce is final before you make any decisions...... Emotions are usually very strong after traumatic events and you may do something you would regret. So, hold on to it for awhile and then decide down the road if you want to sell it......

I have a friend who had her wedding and engagement ring made into a dinner ring. I am going to do that also. As for just a band; I would say it your boys are close to their father, keep it. One day they may want to use it or have it. It's hard to make the decision. Good luck.

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you can pawn it.

After my mom divorced, she took her wedding ring to a jeweler and had him set the diamond in a black hills gold ring (replaced the flower part of the design with the diamond). When she remarried, she gave me the new ring. I was 13 at the time and I now have something to pass down to my daughters when they are 13. That means a lot to me and I'm glad to have something to pass along to my children and something that was a part of both my mom and dad. So...keep it for now and decide later on what you'd like to do with it. Just put it some place you won't see everyday and see what you feel about it in a year or so.

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You could pawn it and buy something nice for you and your boys, or you could save it and pass it down to one of your boys when they get married, or if there are diamonds in it, save it and let them use the diamonds for their future wives. Divorce is never a fun thing, but you could have yourself a heirloom.Good Luck!!

a- melt it down and create a new piece of jewlery
b- sell the gold, the price of gold is skyrocket right now

I would say pass it down to your duaghter but looks like you only have boys.

Similar to what others are saying, but talk with your ex about his ring.

It might me nice to melt both pieces together and make two charms for each or your boys. Even if your marriage didn't work for you two -- you and your ex are both part of your boys (I am assuming of course).

I suggest you keep it. Your children may want it some day, even if the marriage did not work out.
My parents divorced when I was 2. I no longer have contact with my father for various reasons, and my children will never meet him. HOWEVER, I would love to have my mom's ring because it came from a part of my life and represents what brought me into this world. She had promised it to me, but she ended up giving it to my sister's husband because they didn't have much money when they got married and my mom offered it up so he could use the diamond. Instead, he bought a new ring and my sister kept the old one because it was a free diamond. it doesn't mean anything more to her than that.
Anyway, like I said, one of your kids might want it someday. If they don't, you have a free diamond to sell or reset into something you WILL wear. =)

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Hi Tammy. After my sister-in-laws and my divorces were final we had the same delimia. We took our rings, a few drinks, and headed for Saylorville. We stood at the top of the spillway to the dam, said a few choice words of a speach, and chucked them into the spillway. It was a way of closing one chapter, starting another, and turned a sad and depressing issue into a fun and laughable memory. Not to mention it just felt good!

I took the diamonds out of mine and made it into a necklace.

I sold mine back to the jewelry store that it was purchased from as I needed the money. However, I would have loved to made the diamond into a necklace. Resetting is always a great option.

I would replace it with a different ring I would were. afterall it was purchased for you as a gift, now you can give yourself a 'new start' gift, you can't start new without the past helping in some way.

I personally would not hold onto it for the boys, my mother in law has two rings from and two ex husbands and to be quite honest, I told my husband that I would not wear either one of her rings nor would I use the diamonds from them, I didn't want that kind of 'luck' brought to him and I...as usually when a ring is a heirloom it would hold great history or many many years of happy healthy marriages, or a happy healthy marriage. I would see a ring from a shorter marriage as just a ring.

My sister-in-law and I divorced our husbands at the same time (they were brothers). After our divorces were final, we took a 6-pack of Mike's Hard Lemonade up to the Saliorville Lake Spillway, had a few drinks, and tossed our rings into the spillway of the lake! It was a great feeling!

However, after my second divorce, which was a lot more amicable, and my ex-husband is still involved with his child, I demanded, and received, all 3 rings of our set in the divorce. I have put them up, along with all of the other things I have relating to our wedding, for our daughter to have some day. What she chooses to do with it is completely up to her, but I want her to know that Mom and Dad did love each other once upon a time, and that she was conceived in love. My current boyfriend thinks I'm nuts for keeping the rings and other wedding stuff for her, but I think it is important for her to see some day, when she is grown up.

So, I have done the two extremes that a woman can do, and I was happy with both.

Sell it if you arent' the sentimental type that wants to hang on to the memories associated with the ring. Many people I know that are now divorced sold their rings and at least got some $ for it. Why keep it? I am sure you have other things to remind you of your past.
Otherwise,if you have diamonds in the ring - you can have them taken out and you can make something from it like a necklace or earrings.

sell it, pawn it, ... whatever. what NOT to do with it? i would assume you dont want to keep it. perhaps if you sell it, or pawn it, you could use the money to do something nice for yourself, like a spa day or something.