Tubal Ligation - Greenville, AL

I have the Mirena IUD as well. I did have some bad cramping for a few days after I got it, but ever since my periods are really light and not near as painful as before I got the IUD! I also love the fact that at any time we want, I can go have it removed so that we can have more kids. Plus I don't have to remember to take a pill every day!

Hi J., I am sort of in the same situation. I do want another baby and I think deepdown my husband does too. I have an IUD right now that is working great for the next 3 years. When that time comes, we will decide whether to have another one or 'get fixed'. Honestly, I would talk to your doctor and have him talk to his doctor about both procedures and see what the differences are as far as healing time. I know people that have had both and the wife always has a longer recovery time because they have to cut you open. (unless they can do it laproscopicly) which they probably can now. But the husband actually has one incision and he is done for the most part up and going the next day.
I would definitely talk to your doctors together and see which is going to be the least painful and quickest recovery time.

K.

I personally had my tubes tied after baby number 2. My husband was completely for getting a vasectomy, but since I was having a c-section, the doctor suggested it would be easiest for me. I have a friend who didn't have a c-section and had a tubal and I can tell you that she was 100% recovered in a matter of a weekend and it takes weeks to recover fully from a vasectomy. Usually your insurance covers the tubal if done during delivery and often they don't cover the vasectomy. However, an early tubal can lead to Post-partum depression. You have to decide what is best for you. I guess I chose the tubal b/c he was willing to do the vasectomy so I didn't feel forced. Also, I figured if something happened to me, he could remarry someone younger who may still want to have more kids. No matter what happens to him, I don't want to have anymore regardless. Hope this helps.

I assume you have both decided your family is complete.

Why won't he consider a vasectomy? It's *much* easier on him than a tubal would be on you.

You might check out the side effects -- both acute and long-term -- of both procedures before making your decision.

I am on OB nurse, and here is my opinion. Unless you end up with C-section for your last delivery, I would advise you all to opt for a vasectomy for your husband. During a C-section, it's not a big deal to also tie the tubes, but if you don't need surgery, there's no reason to do it. A tubal ligation is more of a major surgery than a vasectomy. A tubal requires entering the abdominal cavity, and also general or spinal anesthesia. A vasectomy is more minor, can be done in an office setting, and requires only local anesthesia.

Hi, My husband wanted me to get my tubes tied after our 14 month old was born. But I told him no I was too young to make that huge decision. He also refused the vasectomy. I got a mirena iud and I love it. I can keep it for 5 yrs and then get another one for 5 more, for eternity. But, if I ever were to decide to have another baby, it can be taken out at anytime and studies show that fertility is the same as if you never were on birthcontrol. I'm very happy with mine and know several others who are happy with thiers too.

Hi J.:
I was in the same situation as you. I wanted my husband to ge a vasectomy and he wanted me to get my tubes ties. I was also expecting my third son at the time.

It is a much easier procedure for a man to have a vascetomy than for a woman to have her tubes tied. I have cousins who had their tubes tied. They plead with me not to have the procedure done. They said, their period was much heavier and they experience bad cramps and a smell. One cousin said it cause her cancer. I asked a friend who is a Gynecologist about these concerns. He said, there was no reports on this, but he has had too many women in his office complaining about the heavy periods. As far as the cancer. He said tieing your tubes will not cause cancer, but if she had something else. The tube tieing may have triggerd the cancer.
I decided not to have it done. I use the rhythm method. Its gets a little scrary something. It has worked for 8 years.

We went the vasectomy route when my dh was about 45. NO REGRETS at all!!!!! The surgeon was a good friend of ours whom we were visiting from out-of-town. My husband was up speaking to a large group of people 2 days after the vasectomy...very easy recovery!!

Hi J.. I had the procedure done about 8 years ago and it was a breeze for me. My husband was like many men who didn't want to have a vasectomy done so I had my tubes tied. I haven't had any side effects and have been worry free for many years now. Good luck with your decision.

J. D - I'm with J.. I had a Mirena IUD last October and it's great. My insurance also paid for it completely (minus the $20 co-pay) - I guess they figured it was cheaper than BC Pills in the long run.
The best thing about it is that you can change you mind if you want to, or just buy yourself 5 years of not thinking about it.
The only downside: about 6 days of cramping for me and now I never get a period but I still get the lite cramps and spotting (I'm just not as prepared as I would be if I still got my period).
Good Luck!

Hello J.!

I am a soon to be 39 year old. I have two wonderful teenagers, my son is about to be 17 and my daugther just turned 15 in June. I really don't have any other alternatives to tubal and vasectomy but I did want to say this to you. I had my tubes tied when my daughter was 6 weeks old, I thought it was best as I had a early miscarriage and with my daughter I was in bed for 6 months with premature labor and had her 8 weeks early. Me and my children's father divorced when my little girl was 2 years old. I have recently remarried after 6 years and my husband is the greatest to me and my children, however, I have found myself longing to have another baby, and the option really isn't there for us to do that w/o going through invitro or other options. So what I am saying to you is to make sure that in your life you will be happy with that permanent decision. Birth control is not so bad to deal with when you start thinking that if you wanted to have another baby you certainly could no matter what your age.

Good luck with the new baby and I hope you you make a sound decision.

if you aren't for sure that you're finished having babies and that's why you are having second thoughts, you could try the mirena iud. it's effective for up to 5 years, and much safer and better than the old copper iud's. if you are sure and you just don't want to have the surgery, you need to remind your husband that you will have to undergo an actual surgery with anesthesia, whereas a vasectomy is just a quick procedure done in an office. and apparently there is some new technique out that doesn't even require as large of an incision. also, if you are planning on having your tubal right after delivery, you will most likely be able to use your epidural or something similar called a spinal for anesthesia, and your incision will be up right under your belly button, and the scar is usually not noticable once it heals. if you do it after you leave the hospital, it will most likley be general anesthesia where you are put to sleep and it will be done laproscopically, so you should have around 3-5 little "hole" marks. in case you're wondering, i'm a surg. tech in labor and delivery, and this has been my experience with the surgeries-- i'm not just making this up :) good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Hey, I'm with all the other ladies talking about IUD'S. I recently had mine removed and the kind I had was good for up to 10 years. Way better than the pill and the patch and if you decided to have another, that avenue is still open. It'll give you time to get on the same page together. And if your hubby is like mine, that could take a while!!!

Good luck, we'll be praying.

I'm a mother of 3 great kids. And I had my tubal after my last little girl was born. Because I thought I'd never want anymore children. Then 3 years later my husband decited he wanted a divorce and I have met this man that is a wonderful father to 2 girls and his biggest dream is to have a little boy. But I can't give him one. We have give alot of thought to trying to get it reversed but it's very expensive and insurance will not cover it(and theres also a big chance that you will not be able to conceive after the surgery). If you are having any negitive feelings about having this done the best thing is DON'T DO IT! If your husband is truely made up his mind that he doesn't want anymore children then he needs to be the one to get fixed. If I had it to do over I would'nt have had it done I would have gotten the IUD also! Hope my life story will help you make up you mind on what you feel is right. God bless

You should sit your husband down and explain that this is a major procedure for a woman to go through.(as if actually having the babies was not enough!!) A vasectomy is a simple procedure done in the office. My husband had one and went to work immediately,with minimal pain. I know many women who have this same issue with their husbands. I think these men all need to grow up and quit being such babies!

Just because this procedure is a breeze for some does not mean it will be for you. It is much simpler for a man.

well i can tell you one thing the doctors will not tie your tubes if you have any doubt about it. i had mine done and they was asking me up until i went to sleep if i was sure i wanted it done, and i have 4 kids, are they crazy!! lol. but anyways you can always use birth control, there are a bunch of different kinds if you don't want the pill the have a patch now and then the shots and a few other things just talk to your obgyn.

good luck sweetie!!

My baby is 10 mos old and when he was 4 mos I got an IUD. The brand name is Mirena. It doesn't have to be replaced for five years and it is very convenient. I have three step kids and my ten month old is my only child. I wan't one more but my husband doesn't, but my step daughters will be out of the house when it is time to take the IUD out. So this for me was a nonpermanent solution to the vasectomy question. And in five years we will be able to make a decision about another baby. And if the answer is no then this was a non surgical option that bought us five years.

Hey J. Congrats on the third addition. I was in the same situation about a year ago. I have been married for four years also and I have 3 children 1,3 and the other will be 2 soon. Anyway, I talked to my doctor as I suggest you do there are alternatives to not getting your tubes tied. I have been using a birth control that is not a pill or patch and you don't have to worry about it for five years and the best part is if we decide to have another child before then we can. You control it! It does not control you. Talk to your doctor about all your options first. You are probably young like me and don't want to make a life changing decision that you most likly can't change later on down the road. Good luck to you and your family. I hope this helps;)

Hi J.. My husband and I had this same dilema. My husband wanted me to have a tubal after the birth of our last baby (Dec. 2006) I wanted him to have a vasectomy. My doc told me that he didn't want to do a tubal on me as it is an invasive procedure. A woman must be put under general anesthesia for a tubal. A man does not go under for a vasectomy. They use local anesthesia and the procedure takes about 30 minutes. Plus, the recovery time is so much easier for a man. My doc also told me that a tubal is NEVER 100% - 1 out of about 50 women get pregnant after a tubal. My husband ended up getting the vasectomy and was fine within 2 days. Maybe if you bring up the risks for you, your husband will come around to getting a vasectomy. If you have any doubts about getting a tubal - don't get it!! You could begin to resent your husband after the procedure. Have you thought about Mirena? It is an IUD that works for 5 years at a time. It can be inserted during a regular gynecology appt. and is relatively painless (there is SLIGHT discomfort when it is inserted). Good luck with this! And, congratulations on the new baby.

I was in pretty much the same situation. My and I are each other's 2nd marriage. At the time my 2nd son, who is now 5, was born he had a 16 year old daughter from a previous marriage. He was sure that he did not want anymore children, and I was pretty sure. He refused to get a vasectomy and I refused to spend another day taking hormones to prevent pregnancy. I talked with my doctor, and he recommended a tubal ligation. I told him that I was 99.5% sure that I didn't want any more children, but that I have a real problem with finality. He said that there are 2 ways to do it, reversible and non-reversible. The reversible way, they just go in and sever the tubes, tie them and cauterize them. The irreversible way they do all the same, but remove a couple of inches of the tube as well. The preventive accuracy is the same. I went with the reversible way. Although I knew I didn't want any more, I still wanted the option and that provided me with it.

My husband and I had the same conflicts of interest as you and yours. However, after we did all the research and asked others the recovery time difference was the decider for us. My husbands procedure was about an hour and a half long. And he says painfree. The next morning he was a little sore but as the day went on he was fine. All he had was 3 small dissolvable stitches. I hope this helps you in some way. Please let me know if I can answer any other questions.

Hi J.,

I just had my second child, and had a hard time figuring out what sort of birth control I wanted. My fiance actually wanted to get a vasectomy, but then I heard about Mirena. It has a higher rate of success than all other methods, including vasectomy and tubal ligation! I noticed that it has been mentioned quite a bit here, and I would have to agree with all of them when they say it is the best. It is good for 5 years and you can get another one put in when the old one if taken out. I would definitally at least look into it before making any decisions! Good Luck!