Thank You - Irving,TX

with friends like that, who needs enemies? I think she's punishing you for whatever happened before.

Good grief, I wouldn't consider her a friend, you don't deserve to be made fun of, she is quite childish and mean. Step away from this "friendship!"

She sounds like a jerk. Personally, I would find new friends to hang out with and let her go. Who needs that kind of negative-ness in their lives!

She doesnt sound like a very Nice person to me :-(
She does NOT deserve your Friendship !
she's not 'letting it slip'... IMO she's doing it on purpose - getting little jabs in here and there at you!
Screw her
She can go make fun of other people. dont take that from her !

It isn't really a joke unless everybody can laugh. You're not laughing, are you? No, I didn't think so.

If your friend wants to make fun of a real person, she needs to make fun of herself.

But she's making innuendos about your character, not to mention your clothing, and she wants you to know it. That indicates bitterness. If she were my friend, I wouldn't chew her out (and give her more ammunition); I'd get very busy with my own life, put distance between us, and look for better people to be friendly with.

She's not a friend. I would personally drop her, not return phone calls and just move on.

With friends like that, you don't need enemies! Time to get new friends!! I get that husband and wife sometimes tell each other things but those things should not be repeated, especially to the person they are talking about. Very rude and hurtful ~ makes me wonder if it's intentional!?

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oh honey-this is not ok. Please bag these friends immediately. They are laughing AT you not WITH you. Their joking is offensive and mean spirited-nobody deserves to be treated that way.

no you're not being too sensitive. that is ridiculous behavior in a "friend".

You can find other friends. A friend would not treat you like that. She is not a friend.

She's not behaving very much like a friend who has made up from a falling out. She's being very Mean Girl. Dump her. You're not being too sensitive and it's not normal what she's doing to you. Don't tolerate it, and don't invite her to your wedding.

I wouldn't be her friend anymore, just stop answering her phone calls and distance yourself. Surround yourself with positive people. She can go bug someone else, and it honestly sounds like shes getting her fun watching you squirm too. She's even making fun of your child and making jabs of you sleeping around? That is not typical joking around with friends type humor.

I think she is a pretty crappy friend to make fun of you behind your back then tell you she is making fun of you. Me and my husband often say what stupid thing a friend did but I don't go tell them hey me and my husband were laughing about your hair do. That sounds a bit shady.

I would say "Wow, I'm flattered you and your husband think about me all the time - but I don't think that's appropriate." Then I'd follow that with "I know some people don't have a filter between their brains and mouth - but you should REALLY work on yours, some things you just don't share."

If it is making you feel bad, it is not OK. However, it is important to communicate how you feel. Tell her it hurts you. If she is a true friend, she will stop.

I think it is normal for husband and wife to talk about EVERYTHING behind people's backs. After all, they are your best friend and you can tell them anything - but this sounds a little much. Sounds to me like she is not over your "falling out".

She sounds like a jerk. If she is letting it "slip" that she makes fun of you, imagine what she is saying behind your back. Time to say goodbye to this friendship....it's not working for you!

Wow...

There's a reason you didn't speak for a long time & it sounds like you never should've made up. Point blank, she's not your friend. She's an immature mean girl. How old is this person, anyway? 14?

You're not being too sensitive (what would make you think that?!). If I ever found out my friends were doing that, I would cut them off that second. I can't fathom that any adult would think that was an acceptable thing to do.

When she "lets it slip" that she said something about you, don't laugh it off. Instead, in a straight-no-smile kind of face, give a looooonngg moment of uncomfortable silence and say "wow, that's really rude and hurtful!" Then give another long moment of silence. After she is feeling very awkward and uncomfortable you might make a polite reason to leave or get off the phone.
I also wouldn't consider her a friend....time to let this one fall to the wayside.

Here's what I do when a friendship has fulfilled it's usefulness. I still act as if nothing is wrong, I am pleasant to the person and if they ask for us to plan something that is enjoyable I'll make the time to do it if possible. I don't go out of my way to interact with them, I let them call me, I sometimes have other plans if the activity is something I can do without, I invite them to activities if it is something other people are coming to...like a kids birthday party or a hostess thing like Tupperware so their feelings don't get hurt.

I just don't say see ya later and be done with them. I never saw the benefit of that. It is hurtful and just unkind. Take the high road here and limit your interactions to what is enjoyable to you. If they really don't like hubby to be then don't plan on them being dinner date companions. Pick activities to do with them where you have minimal interaction, like a movie date night where you sit by your hubby and she sits by hers and you are all quiet.

Eventually the friendship will dwindle away without hurt feelings and hardness on either side.

I would make a decision to remove ALL negative things and people in your life. Not only would this take care of this problem, but in the big scheme of things is really a great attitude to take anyway. I did this 4 years ago when I turned 40. My life has only gotten better for it. So I would just tell her that her that it appears you don't have the friendship you were hoping for and that you are starting a new life (new husband) and you want to start it off being positive and with people who are happy for you and truly care for you. So tell her that they are no longer welcome to attend the wedding, delete her from Fb, phone, email, etc. and be done with it. And do this with anyone else as well. Good luck.

Maybe you could give us more example of her "making fun of you" the example you gave, was just a funny "what if" - you didn't actually do that, so how is that making fun of you??

I say things to my husband in jest I would NEVER repeat. Totally inappropriate. It sounds to me like she's not over whatever you two had a falling out about. This is her way of getting her digs in. A true friend won't make you feel bad about yourself. He/she will be honest if you're doing something harmful to yourself but making fun of you? Def not.

these are your FRIENDS?! OMG, with friends like that you really do not need any enemies. Honestly, it sounds like they are jealous of your relationship. I think if it were me I would quickly add them to the "acquaintance" list and start looking for different friends.

Sounds like they are quite jealous of you, your upcoming wedding, and your nice new house and this makes them feel a little better. You should be flattered but if she's taking it too far...

That dependson you.

Are you normally self-depricating,and do you make jokes about yourself in the same capacity? (That's how I am.)
If you do, you can't really expect other people to discriminate when you would find things funny or not.

But if you're not normally like that....I'd say get new friends.

That's not really making fun of you. It's personal attacks on your and your fiance's character. It's not good and it appears nothing is really "patched up" as she is not respectful of you one iota.

Maybe she isn't over the fallout last year and is taking it out on you now. Sometimes women get passive-aggressive and make snide remarks, in the name of "just joking," when they are really angry about something else. And when you call them on it, you sound petty and too sensitive. If it really bothers you, you have to decide whether this is a friendship that your self-esteem can put up with. I don't really if mind people make fun me since I do it myself, as long as I know it is good-natured ribbing and not a hidden-agenda! Good luck!

I would not consider her to be a friend, more of a friend-enemy! I don't know what's going on in her life that she feels the need to not only make fun of you with her husband but to also TELL you about it, but that's ridiculous. I haven't heard of that since middle school. I would begin to phase out this woman and put your energy into someone who likes you and your fiancé.

I'm sorry but that's not being a friend. Not a true one anyways. If I were you I would just tell her that I'm sorry but it hurts my feelings to know that you are doing this. Tell her how it makes you feel. If she doesn't sincerely apologize and stop the behavior immediately then I would pull away from her completely. A true friend wouldn't do that. You deserve better than that.

Not normal to make fun of a friend constantly and definitely NOT normal to then tell that friend about it. She's NOT a friend.

UGH! I wouldn't have the patience for this. You are a saint not to have confronted her about this. unacceptable on any level. Even if a stranger, she and her husband should not be making these types of rude comments for their own pleasure.
What miserable human beings. I liked the comment that said, continue to be polite, but don't go out of your way to hang out with them. I might even start saying "Gee, we can't make it." a lot more often.
So sorry for you.

You are not being at all sensitive. I say, "With friends like that who needs enemies." A good friend is someone that has your back, not talks behind it. I am appalled right now at your friends so-called personality. She is saying things that hit below the belt and are down right offending. If she means a lot to you, I would tell her that you do not appreciate it in a nice and tactful way, but after that and it still continues, then I would be finding me a different friend without a doubt. Sounds like she has got a low of growing up to do.

I have a friend and we make fun of each other but that is just how our relationship is , but this goes both ways and its not just her that is making fun of me..

Only you know how yalls relationship is so if you feel like its uncalled for then it prob is.

Hey no worries you are a adult and you can pick and choose your friends , not like when you are younger and the kids at your school is all you have to choose from. Tell her to either stop or she can go find another friend she spends all her extra time making fun of.

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You are not being too sensitive! It is your friend who is NOT being sensitive, and is most likely jealous of you. The only other explanation is that she is just a deep-rooted mean person. You don't do that to true friends.

I don't know how old you are, but you will learn in life, especially as you get married, that friends start to fall into 2 categories - the "True Friends" - these are the ones that will stick by you through thick and thin, and I mean through everything - and then there are - "The Christmas Card Friends" - the ones you feel you ought to keep up with if only by card once a year, but you really don't care and neither do they.

Honey, She is a Christmas Card Friend.
If she is someone you have been friends with for many many years I would drift apart slowly, but not too slowly for your own mental well-being. Sometimes, sadly this happens anyway after you get married.
If she hasn't been a good friend too long, just cut her off - she'll figure out why, and if she's too stupid to - there's your chance to tell her what an awful person she is - just remember to do it with class :)

Good luck and Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

I would ask her, the next time she says something like that, why she and her husband spend so much time making fun of you when you aren't there to defend yourself?
If you two are just now patching things up from spending a year not speaking, and she is telling you to your face that she makes fun of you behind your back, I think it's time to say "see ya" for good.
No one needs "friends" like that.

I don't believe in being "too" sensitive. If there is something that bothers you then it's valid. Just because it may not affect someone else the way it affects you doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.
As for your "friend": Drop her. This chick is not happy for you. And she's not happy with herself which is why she needs her hubby to put you down too. Smh. There is something catty that comes out of a lot of women when their friend or relative is getting married. I guarantee that if you confront her she's going to try to twist it and act as though you are the one whose done something wrong. BTDT. She's not worth the effort. Focus on the people who are true friends and are happy for you. Congrats on your upcoming wedding and best wishes to you.

hmmm I think its time to let this "friend" go. A true friend wouldnt make fun of you to anyone.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????
Run!!! This person is poisonous!
~A.

I have not read the other responses; however, these people are not friends. It sounds like she is jealous and an unhappy, spiteful person. I would disinvite them to the wedding and find a new friend.

In an ordinary calm relaxed moment between the two of you you should say maybe you are teasing me about the way im building my home or planning my wedding or about my husbands sexuality but I am sensitive to these things and it hurts my feelings. If she doesn't make an effort to understand then she is NOT YOUR FRIEND girl life is short keep people in your life that add to it. Get rid of those who don't!