Sick and Tired .

I agree, let it go......I am still friends with my ex daughter in laws, but they do not take over from the girls my boys are with now........if they don't come around, then that is their loss..........and you're boyfriend should be the one to talk to them, not you. It's up to him to stand up for his family against his family........and you, he and your son are now HIS family. Maybe you should talk to him about it if you haven't.

Good Luck and hang in there.......

I think its best to leave well enough alone. The more you say to her, she knows that your going to do whatever it is she wants. Sounds like she needs attention and she's getting it from you. Don't fall for it. If your b/f family follows suite so be it. You can't please everyone. As long as you please your b/f and he loves you and you love him, thats' what matters'. If your b/f is okay with this ovbiously he knows his family. Be happy together, I think his family is jealous because he has found someone to love. To bad. Let them come to you. Karma has a funny way of doing things. My motto "what goes around comes around"
Don't stress yourself about it, life is to short to worry about others when they don't worry about you. Think of what you have, not what you haven't.
Good luck and best wishes!!

Wow- ok, I didn't see your first email, but here goes:

If this is just your boyfriend's family- well, there is no ring on your finger, sweetie. Of course you want to be POLITE to them, and it sounds like you have tried your best to do so. But seriously, let it go. These people are not 'your' family if you aren't married.

Even if you do get married, you will NEVER be able to please some people. All you can do is KNOW that you have behaved politely and tried to be nice- and let it go. I know from personal experience how hard that is.

But if you don't let it go and keep worrying about it, then you will just make yourself crazy and it will hurt your relationship with your BF as well. I don't know how HE has handled it- but he needs to pick up the ball from now on and deal with HIS family.

I am not saying either of you should be rude or mean, but if I were you, I would have a talk with your BF. Say that you understand this is his mother and he loves her etc. but that you have tried to be nice and his mom just doesn't seem interested in that.

If he wants to go see her, fine, but you should not have to be subjected to nastiness and don't need to go. If something really needs to be 'said' about his family's behavior, he is the one who needs to man up and say it.

But you're right- good for you for recognizing that it's hard and he IS in the middle. Just remember- YOUR little family is what is #1, most important here. Relatives can create all kinds of drama, its true. But as long as you, your BF and your son are good and all together, THAT is the most important thing.

Just have your family over if they are loving and supportive of you and focus on that. Be polite if you talk to your BF's mom or sister, but I would not feel obligated to go out of my way to invite them to things or call them up if I was you. Above all, don't let their attitude affect you- be strong and focus on the people who love you! Good luck and God bless!

I think the best thing to do is just to let it go. You cannot control this woman or how she responds to you. What you can do is be the best partner to your boyfriend that you are capable of being. Show him everyday that you are who you claim to be - the woman that loves him. Go on with your life, be respectful to his mom when you see or talk to her. I have a motto that I like to live by: If there's going to be an a$$ in the room, make sure it's obvious to everyone that it isn't you.

Focus on being happy and leave the miserable to her.

L.