I am going to leave my fiance/boyfriend. We have been together for 9 yrs. We have a 6 yr son. I don't know how to bring up the subject to my boyfriend. This will probably be a suprise to him. I have been unhappy for a long time and I found out that he cheated on me and the girl is pregnant. I also don't know what to say to my son. There are many other things involved so, I am trying to keep this short. When I leave I know that he will not help with the care of his son. I need to make sure that I have somewhere else to move before I can bring the conversation up. I guess what I am looking for is some moral support. Thanks in advance ladies.
If this guy cheated on you and got someone else pregnant, it shouldn't be a surprise to him! That just really disgusts me. You are making a good decision to get your child out of there and away from such a bad role model. Sorry about that little rant, but it really upsets me when I hear things like this.
That said, the Lilac Tree in Evanston may be able to help you. Stay strong!
thelilactree.org
K.
Hey S., I'm very sorry this happened to you. I too went thru this very situation (probaby worse) years ago, and I can say confidentally that this horrible story can have a happy ending. But there are a few things that you would need to do. I see a suggestion to go to an organization out in Evanston, and I see you live in Cicero. I'm VERY familiar with the Cicero area. Are you God believing? I know a really good church in Cicero that should be a great support system for both you and your son. I got pregnant and married right out of highschool to a man that I later found out would cheat and beat on me for years. What did I do? Left, sought counseling to get healing, and then prayed that God would open a door for a better life for me. I'm now happily married to an amazing man and had my second child with him. My new husband treats my first child as his own and we've been a stable family now for years. I know many people that live in Cicero- matter of fact, I know a family that has a little apartment available. They're a great family from that church and I'm sure if known the situation would def. be very helpful. Let me know.
S.~
I wish I had some words of wisdom for you.
But instead just know that you are doing the best thing for you and your son.
I'll send some prayers your way :-)
