Seeking Advise - San Jose,CA

Well the only thing to do is simply "ask" your husband what is wrong. If he does not respond at all or if you think his response is false, the truth just might end up surfacing anyway. Be a little patient, or do some "silent investigating".
As for your 2 year old. Usually you can bring them to the hospital with you and your husband or whoever will be there for the delivery. My daughter was with me at the hospital with my husband and then her cousins came to pick her up for a "fun" sleepover!!

Hi E.,

When my daughter was born, my son was not yet 2, and we have no family close by, so we had to tackle that problem too. (I'm assuming you don't have family near either.) What we did was ask a couple we know well at church if they would help. Our daughter was born in the middle of the night, so our son was at their house from the evening until the morning of the next day, when my husband could pick him up and take care of him. (He was busy with me at the hospital overnight, of course.)

It turned out great--my son thought is was a grand adventure, even though he had never spent the night away from us. We joked for years that the only night my husband and I spent without our kids was the night our daughter was born, and that doesn't count! But really, choose a friend nearby, pack a special bag for your son, and try not to worry too much--you'll have enough to worry about with giving birth.

About the moodiness with your husband, for us the hardest time in our marriage was probably our first year with two children. I was so weary from taking care of a baby and toddler that I didn't have much time or energy to give my husband. Perhaps something similar is going on with you? Being pregnant and having a toddler is a big job, maybe he's feeling neglected?

It really helped me to get a new perspective by reading a few books and having some heart to heart talks with my husband. Here are some of the books that helped me:
"The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
"For Women Only", by Shaunti Feldhan
(this has a companion book that my husband read: "For Men Only")

Best wishes,
N.

Hi E.,

How far along are you? Where's your family? Do you have a good friend your little one can stay with when you must go to the hospital? Naturally, your husband should go with you when your time comes. You need to make plans for who your other child will stay with for a couple of days.

I am concerned about your husband's anger? He's not pregnant and should be more understanding of your feelings right now. I'm not sure how old the two of you are, but it appears that there is some immature behavior happening on both sides.

Sit down with him and let him know EXACTLY how you are feeling and especially your fears. If he does not respond in a positive way...You should pick a responsible back up..because that baby will come "ready or not".

Blessings.

My husband is the same way with this pregnancy. I found out that giving him more attention helps. I'm sure he is worried and has a lot on his mind too. Be patient with him,cook his favorite or instead going to bed early because you're tired spend more time with him watching tv or talking about your day. Hang in there it's almost over.

My daughter will turn 2 in October and I'm due in April. I have no close relative around here, but i have 2 good friends that she will probably be staying with when i go into labor. Your son will be fine don't stress yourself over it.
Good luck

Try talking to your husband about what you have observed. Mine acted similarly while I was pregnant with #2. Turned out he was taking on a lot because I was ill during the pregnancy and he was feeling very overwhelmed and also thinking about finances with 2 kids. It helped a lot to talk to him - he just hadn't wanted to burden me anymore than I was and was having trouble handling the burden himself. He was much more tolerable once he un-burdened. :)

For your son - I would start getting him excited about the baby coming instead of working yourself up into dread over leaving him while in the hospital. Kids pick up on even the smallest emotion and magnify it. Explain to him (when the time is close to baby coming - I'm not sure how far along you are) what will happen - you will go get the baby and be gone overnight but someone special will stay with him - and tell him who that person is. I also had my son pick out a gift for my daughter and I picked out a special gift for my daughter 'to give' to my son when he came to visit us after she was born.

Best of luck to you and your family!