Potty training...I Am So Ready to Just Stop (For good..lol) HELP!!

Out of 3 kids, 2 wre very hard to train, but even my one that wasn't hard to train didn't do it until about 3.5. My first one had an attitude problem, and my other difficult to train one had sensory issues. For the attitude one, I gave her all the opportunities to do it on her own, but she just didn't like change, so it came down to me taking away the diapers and letting her go. A battle of wills, she lost. 3 days of misery though, a lot of cleaning, her tantrums, but she did realize that I wasn't going to give in. She was early 4, at some point the parent just has to say this is it, but it is up to you to determine when that time is. If it is going to be easier on you to put himoutside in the summer, then wait for that.

I'd tell him you aren't going to push it anymore and the must decide when he is ready to be a big boy. Take the battle out of it. Let it go. Sometimes boys are 4 or nearly so when they decide to do this. He's getting something out of holding back on this now, maybe not feeling ready to no longer get baby-type attention like your little one. Spend time with him doing big boy things and have others do that as well so he begins to enjoy that. Believe me, he'll do this before he goes on his honeymoon - just kidding! Relax, Mom. I know this is very frustrating. I had a girl who did this and she's a doctor now.
He sounds very smart, like her, and needing to feel in control of his life.

Try reading Lora Jenson's (sp) ebook, "3 Day Potty Training" (just search the book title, and it will come up). It's about $25 to purchase, and you get the book along with online mentoring through the process. I found it sooooooo helpful. (I think she had 4 boys of her own that she potty-trained, and she was so successful with her own, she's shared it with the rest of us! :)

It sounds like you are living my life. I have a 3 year old and we started training in the fall.... he doesn't throw fits but he just has no clue as to when the pee is coming. He was poop trained but I stopped it all cause he just wasn't getting it. No, last week I tried again and it was worse than before. Now he doesn't want to do anything on the toilet. So I am waiting until summer when he can run naked in the backyard and see how good it feels to not wear a hot sticky diaper. I Pray that works cause I have tried everything else. I am not usually the kind to let my kids run naked but this is a last resort.

It sounds like your son may simply have a hard time with change. At 3.5 I would think he would understand the feeling. These are some other ideas.
Put him in underwear and allow him to get them soiled and let him sit in it unitl it is uncomfortable on him. You may need to do this a few days. You can put plastic pants on him so it doesn't get all over your house.

You can just wait until he needs to be trained (before school begins)

You can ask him what reward he would want for doing something especially good (don't tell him it is potty training). Let him choose then tell him when he can sit with a good attitude, he will get this reward.

I think baby steps of success is important to celebrate for a child who is emotional about it.

They say never discipline for potty issues but because of my experience I am thinking otherwise. I actually stoped training cause I was getting too angry with him. I will pick it up again later and even then he needs to take ownership of it I can't make him. I refuse to battle with him for months over it.

They do say boys are much more difficult to train than girls. Now I see that. I just didn't think it would be MY boy! lol.

Hold on. This too shall pass.