Last year I got married and my husband's father brought his wife that he had been married to for quite a while. She is in our family wedding photos.
Shortly thereafter they went through a bitter divorce and because of the things that happened we really dislike her. My husband and I get angry when we think of the things that she did to him in this divorce.
We are finalizing our wedding album and getting pictures printed to put around the house. I'm really good at Photoshop and could easily remove her from the pictures. Should I do this? Is it weird? We don't have any family pictures of my husband and his parents without her in them. We also took a beautiful photo of us with both our families, but there she is--spoiling it!
What say you, mamas?
I guess Photoshopping people out of pics isn't such a weird idea after all! My husband thinks we should do it so I will! The woman his dad married was never a stepmom to him and he wasn't close to her at all. I think we'll all feel better looking at the pics and not having to remember she was there!
I would say do it, but keep the old ones and save the photoshopped ones under a different filename. They originals are a record of a time when they were happier together, and it might be sad to lose that forever. This way you can have your cake and eat it to, and when the hard feelings are less painful, it'll be good to have access to the originals.
I see nothing wrong with taking her out.
First of all, be 100% sure that this divorce is 100% her fault and she is 100% out of your lives before you erase her from the picture. Will she EVER see these pictures? If so, she will be so deeply hurt by YOU and cause an un-easy relationship between you and her for possibly forever.
I say it sounds weird, as normally family is not 100% out of your life ever. You will have plenty more pictures of you and hubby and his dad. This is just a wedding picture. I say leave it how it is. (You don't plan to hang it on the mantel do you? If you don't see it every day, not a big deal in my book).
Do it, DO it Do it. We did this for my brothers wedding. My SIL's sister was in them and honestly she so didn't want to be there. She backed out of being maid of honor a couple days before, sat at the back of the church and came to the wedding dressed like she was going to a funeral with a sour expression on her face the whole day. This was all because she was jealous of her sister. My sis and I actually helped organise the wedding and took my sil out for a spa day before the wedding, paid for her to get her nails done and made all the favours because her own sister was doing nothing. I love my sil so much and she is so nice, so i was mad. We got her sister removed from the pics. Its amazing how they do it, you would never know she had been in them. GO FOR IT!!!!!
Just as long as your husband is okay with it; I say go for it. We did the same to our family photos that had my psycho biological father in them. We totally cut him out of the photos and no one knows that he was ever in them. We want to remember happy times not a person that brings misery. I say go for it as long as your spouse agrees to it.
DO IT :-) you don't want to think of Her every time you look at your Beautiful Wedding photos! Thats something you want to bring a Smile to your face every time you look at them! you want Happy Memories !
I think if everyone agrees (including your FIL) and you have the skills to do it, go ahead.
