For the 5th time my 3.5 daughter peed on her bed when I sent her to time out. since xmas she started having a lot more accidents while playing. we chalked it up to being too busy to stop and go potty, but now it seems intentional. When I tell her I am very disappointed she says it was an accident.
I am beyond frustrated! She potty trained herself at 20 months, and literally did not have an accident until xmas.
Thank you allvery much! We set a timer for 3 minutes, so that is not the problem. I thought maybe she was so upset she went, but she is not crying when it happens, so I think it is more intentional.
Time out in a different location sounds like a good alternative. I will start that today.
Thanks again
When my daughter was that age every time I put her in a time out she yelled, "I have to go to the bathroom!" we solved that problem by making all time outs in the bathroom -- at age four it was only for four minutes.
Hi K.,
Give her the time outs on the potty or potty chair, then she can have an "ON PURPOSE." Time outs are only 5 - 10 minutes..right? No more disappointments and no more accidents.
The time-out on the potty suggestion given by the other moms seems like a reasonable suggestion. I just wanted to add that many child psychologists advise that young children should have time-outs with as many minutes as their age. So your little girl's time-outs should be between 3 and 4 minutes.
Good luck!
I agree with the other moms - make timeout in the bathroom!
Does she get really upset when she is sent to timeout? Some kids lose control of their bodily functions when they have a meltdown. If that isn't the case, it sounds like she is peeing to spite you. First thing to do would be to change the locale of her timeout, so she is not peeing on her bed. Timeout for us is a stool in the corner of the hallway. No toys to play with, no one to interact with. Next would be to make her responsible for cleaning up her own mess, the first couple of times you can talk her through it, after that, don't interact with her at all, just check when she is done to make sure she did an ok job, if not, she has to go back and do a better job. If she is having regular accidents, you may want to get her checked for a urinary tract infection. My son started having accidents after being potty trained for sometime, and turns out it was because he had an infection. He was holding his pee because it hurt to go, but then a little was leaking out at a time because he couldn't hold it in with the infection. He never once told me it hurt to go until after the accidents had been happening for over a week. I thought the same thing, he was getting too involved in what he was playing. If it is not an infection, I would suggest scheduling regular potty breaks throughout the day where she has to go into the bathroom whether or not she needs to go. It won't take her long to get back on track. I saw others recommended making the bathroom a timeout place, but you don't really want the bathroom to have the negative association. Plus, if you are somewhere else, you may not be able to use the bathroom for a timeout, and you don't want her having an accident out in public.
