my daughter is 3 years old.she turns a deaf ear, when we call her. she doesn't want to associate herself with other children in the kindergarten.she talks least.i am very worried about her, even i doubt that she is a autism. what should i do??
I have a friend who's daughter has sensory disorder, (that's not the exact name but close)...basically some kids have a problem with their 5 senses-it's treatable with therapy. Maybe look into that.
Sensory perception disorder I think it's called.
My son slowly lost his hearing over several months due to repeated ear infections that were treated with antibiotics and were cured. What I didn't know was that lots and lots of liquid had built up behind his ear drums that were not draining at all. I discovered he was reading lips and was virtually deaf. One day he turned up the TV real loud and then I caught him sitting about 12 inches from the screen. I came around behind him and in a normal voice told him not to sit that close to the TV as it wasn't good for his eyes and ears (he was about 2 1/2 yrs. old.) He showed zero response and he always behaved. So I walked up right behind him slowly and in a loud voice yelled his name, he did not respond at all. I had to touch his shoulder and he had to look at me to know what I was saying to him. I took him to the best ear, nose and throat specialist I could find. They did surgery and drained his ears, removed his tonsils and adenoids. He was much better after that and regained all of his hearing. But you may need to be aware that as they grow and their brain grows, they go through developmental periods where her ability to hear and learn social skills are important. A good ear, nose and throat specialist can tell you if it is a hearing problem, and if it isn't, they can advise you what to do next. One other thing.... if she likes and can respond to music at a normal volume level, then it probably isn't a hearing problem and may be something else. You can actually do some informal hearing tests yourself, like standing behind her where she doesn't see you and make sounds to see if she responds. Also, the music at normal levels... things like that should tell you if she really cannot hear you or is just not responding to you when she hears you. These are clues you can share with your doctor.
get her ears checked, also help through a public school they will help her with the children and test her to see if she has some other stuff going on with her as well
i totally agree with gail.get her ears checked.mine is hard of hearing we dont know if its permanant or temporary yet. but he wont respond to me but will his daddy sometimes. he has a deeper voice. he cant hear you from behind. where she said her son learned to read lips mine hasnt.what he has done is associated a sound with an item he has it memorized. we dont think he actually hears the word tippy but he has memorized the sound to the item. not associating is part of the hard of hearing even though mine knows no strangers. how much does she talk for example mine is 2 1/2 andsays less than 30 words of which only about 6 or 7 are now clear.
he doesnt say the easy words like mama. eat comes out teat. he doesnt say drink he hands you his tippy and whines. if hes hungry he brings you his plate or a bag of flour or whatever he can get ahold of a can of cat food. its his way of communicating. he only says 2 two word combinations whats that and good boy. now you know 4 of his 7 words. mine will react to music we think he hears the bass. he babbles but doesnt talk but a few words.
if you clap behind him or make a loud noise he doesnt generally react. depends on the depth of the noise he wont react to clapping at all. he will not respond from a diffrent room. even to his daddy. he doesnt talk in a normal voice he hollars everything. its like a constant screaming. not fit screaming but yelling about everything like he cant hear himself talk. i use a water bottle to get mines attention. i have also had a flash light suggested to me.
if it is temporary loss tubes can fix it and if not you have 2 surgery options but I think her hearing needs to be checked. if she wonders away not real far from you in public and you call her does she respond? selective hearing will follow commands about 70% of the time hard of hearing like my son responds about 20% and tries about another 20%. if you ask her when she is looking at you to bring you a toy of your choice does she? does she try but cant figure out what you are talking about? mine cant but does attempt to bring you what you want he will bring you everything he can see till he gets it. make a very big issue of it if she does right. if she does wrong keep trying. make her look at you when you talk to her. you will forget to do this sometimes I still forget and try to sign the words you are using. i also forget to do this too sometimes. :) I also forget sometimes he cant hear me. in all other senses he is typical so I am not used to remebering he cant hear me. so I hollar and hollar and then it hits me duh he cant hear me. I also forget to take my water bottle when I leave the house with him.
but get her hearing checked and make sure there is no fluid on the ears or ear infections. use what gina said and what I have told you as a guide. slam things down behind her and see if she reacts to them. I use the water bottle at the house to get his attention once it hits me duh he cant hear me. I have not figured out yet how to get his attention if he is out of the room other than going and getting him. still trying to figure out if there is anything I can do there. find you a good ent and go from there. tell him your concerns.
Talk to your pediatrician about your concerns.
What does your 3 y/o daughter and kindergarten have in common? She is not in kindergarten, she is preschool aged. I don't understand that.
If you don't think she is talking enough or has some sort of issue, take her to a developmental pediatrician.
Keep in mind she is 3. And the chances of her behaving like that when she is 30 are slim. Don't assume autism or anything like that. She may be learning to assert herself. She may be developing a strong will.
Sometimes the hardest part about parenting is having a child whose personality is far different than yours. Keep in mind it takes all kinds of people.
There should be an early childhood program in your area that will do a free evaluation. They will be able to guide you.
Good luck and God bless.
Victoria
I'm not too sure, but my neighbors son has autism and they said the signs for them (he was then 4 yrs old) was that he did not want to socialize anymore with his siblings. He withdrew. And did not respond to anyone talking to him. They also said he was 100% normal and healthy prior to this happening. Just saw a new study on the news that said people who live within 300yds of the freeway are twice as likely to have children with autism. Always worth looking into.
Why do you doubt she's autistic? These are classic signs. Get her evaluated, and if she's autistic you can get early intervention from your school district and/or your county. Intervention has helped my two mildly autistic sons greatly. Starting early is key.
what does her teacher recommend?
First, talk to her doctor to check her ears and let him/her know the concern. Then, you may check with your school district. They should have some free evaluation for any developmental delay.
On the other note, sometimes, if she is new to preschool, she may just need some time to adjust to the new environment.
