My Husband Won't Follow Through and I Don't Have Anyone to Talk To.

A new puppy is just going to tie you down at your home more. I don't see how that can possibly work out and a new puppy is not like a "friend".. loyal and companion, yes.

Your husband is supposed to be your companion, not a puppy.

I see red flags everywhere in this post because it is not right for you to be so isolated. Where does your family live? Do you have friends from the area where you moved? Try to get a job at a day care so you can take your child with you.

It does not sound like you are in a marriage to me. Please don't get pregnant again. Seek guidance from social services, your church etc.

I really understand how isolated you must feel. I struggled through the toddler/preschool years and have enjoyed going back to work. I love my kids, but I need to be able to spend time with adults.

I think I would be very frustrated, also. This isn't just about feeling isolated or wanting a puppy. Really, this is about your husband's view of marriage. He seems to think that he is the boss, he gets to make all the decisions and you can't do anything without his permission.

Marriage should be a partnership. It should be two people, working together, sharing a family, sharing the responsibilities and making decisions together.

You got bigger problems that feeling alone or wanting a puppy. You have a husband who doesn't have a healthy idea of marriage or family. I think you need to focus on working towards a healthy marriage.

I don't think getting a dog will solve your basic problem of loneliness.
Try to join a Mommy and Me group so you can meet more people.
https://www.meetup.com/MyMommyMeetup/
https://www.activitytree.com/kids-classes-lessons-and-cam...

Really?
No car?
How about he car pools with someone or you drop him off/pick him up from work?
What would you do if you had to run a kid to the doctor or emergency room?
How do you get groceries when he's away?
Never mind the dog.
Hubby needs to get you a car - mini van would be my preference - but not everyone likes them.
Find a Carmax near you and do some serious car shopping.
Getting a car will make your social situation much easier.

Additional:
This really sounds like an unworkable marriage.
Get a divorce and you'll be in charge of your life and socializing again.
Your husband is isolating you - and that's a red flag.
Talk to a womens shelter, get some legal and financial advice, save up some cash, make your plan, take the kids and leave.

Additional:
You are making excuses for him and his behavior.
You are not happy - and your reasons for not being happy are good ones - and it has NOTHING to do with wanting/getting a puppy.
A stocked fridge, AC running and tv/book you say is all he thinks you need - and you really NEED a car - especially with regard to any sort of emergency with the kids and to help your social situation.
PLEASE get some marriage counseling ASAP or you are going to have a unending unhappy miserable life with this man.

what B said.
hes isolated you. thats a red flag. hes made you dependent on him another red flag. he is not compromising with you on anything: red flag.. i would definitely talk to a counselor or find a mommy group like mops or something to get friends. but definitely think about why you are with him and why your staying in this marriage. from what you have posted its all about him and his needs. and not about you and yours

I know there is no "tone" on the internet, so let me be clear that I'm saying this with concern and worry in my voice: You don't need a puppy. You need a therapist because the puppy is a symptom of a much bigger issue in your life: you are married but feel unloved and alone, and you need someone objective to help you figure out what to do about that.

What gyms have you gone to? All of them have in house childcare so why does it matter if he won't watch your child.

Take/your/child /and/go/back/home/to/your/family/and/friends./This/man/is/neither/a /husband/nor/a/father./Don't/subject/an/innocent/animal/to/this/already/unhappy/situation./Go/back/to/the/people/who/love/you!!!

ETA after your addition:

Oh my. This is so much more than you originally talked about. This is about your husband making rules for you and not looking at you like a partner in your marriage.

Do you have a family where you feel safe and loved and can go back to? If I were you, I'd be taking a long look at whether or not to be married to a man who doesn't love his child enough to want to take care of her.

This is not the way a marriage is supposed to be. Your husband has no right to order you around. Not being able to afford things is one thing. What is happening here crosses that line, and then some...

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A dog is not going to take the place of a friend. After the novelty wears off, you will be in the same boat. And have more responsibility on your shoulders.

You should look for part-time volunteer work or a job. You might like being a stay-at-home-mom for your child's sake, but you are personally withering on the vine. You are in the same place as many mothers are, especially moving to a new area.

As far as your husband is concerned, he's being wishy-washy and frustrating. He knows that saying no sounds like he's your father. Ugh. So he says yes, but he really does NOT want another dog (he lives in your house too) so he is making excuses about the different dogs. He ends up stringing you along and making you both miserable.

A new dog is not the answer to your problem. You need to get a life outside of your home, and the dog is going to make that even harder. Start now looking for something and finding alternative care for your child. And make it stick, even if you don't really make any money doing it.

Can you walk to the gym?
Julie S. is correct, most have childcare. It is also a great place to meet other moms.
Can you walk to the library? They usually have mom and me classes, and again a place to meet other moms.

Is there a bus, trolley or transportation system you could walk to get to?

I agree with the others that his isolating you is a red flag.
Where is your family?
Do you have a phone? What about your old friends? Your family? Is there contact with them?
Can you talk to your husband about what you need in this partnership?

The other posters have pointed out some concerns about your marriage. If you agree with them, it might be worth a phone call to talk to a counselor at a women's shelter and see what options you have to help yourself and your child.

Your post and swh are scary. You are isolated. Your husband is abusive and manipulative. Don't get a puppy. Work on getting yourself back into a decent life - with or without your husband if he is not going to budge on anything. You can't live like this and neither can your kid. Do you want your child seeing this type of relationship? I doubt it. Take the great advice of all the posters here and start making a plan to live like a human being again.

I think the problem is not the puppy.
You are isolated.
You are not being respected (it's your "job" so he doesn't have to help)
Your husband is refusing to parent his child (watching her, playing with her)
He isn't allowing you to go to the gym...or anywhere?

This sounds "off" to me. This relationship is not equal. I am sorry.

If this is supposed to be your puppy since he already has his dog why does he have to approve of it? Get the puppy you want, you will be the one caring for it after all. But I don't think this puppy will solve your problems, you need to try to find some classes, a playgroup, a mom support group, or something where you can connect with other people. See if you can find something like a class you are interested in that is during the time your husband is not at work she he can care for the toddler (and no this is not "babysitting", he is as responsible for that child's care as you are) and you can have some real adult time. You have to advocate for yourself, don't let him control what you can and can not do, people treat us the way we let them.

Added: based on your so what happened your issue is not a puppy, it is your husband thinking he gets to control everything including you and not realizing he is just as responsible for the care of that child as you are. You have to stand up for yourself. Don't ask permission, if you want a job get one and arrange child care, if you want to go to a gym tell him you are going and that he has the baby, and then leave. You have to make your own happiness, it will not come if you are waiting for his okay. Stand up for yourself now or he will continue to walk all over you.

I think you are being a little too passive with your husband. You are letting him call the shots and decide things for you. This is a bad habit you should break yourself of. You are your own person and you can have different opinions than him and made your own decisions! If you want to get a part time job and use that money to pay for part time child care you should do it! I really recommend this. I worked part time and it saved my sanity. If my entire earnings went towards child care it was worth it to me because I was interacting with other adults, doing something I enjoy, and getting a break from the kiddos. I also joined a YMCA which has a child care room. I would drop off the little ones and go take a class. I think I did this about 3x a week for about 4 years. I made some good mama friends there and we would chat and sometimes get together for coffee. Another idea is to join your local MOMs group. Around here they met once a week at different people's houses or at the park. Some of these women became good friends. Another idea is to go to free programs for little ones each week and talk to the other moms there. If you like someone invite her to meet you at the park or at a kid friendly coffee shop or whatever you have near you. Free programs here include library reading time, music time at the library, the environmental center has a free toddler/preschooler program one day a week, etc. I don't think a puppy is going to help your loneliness...he will only add to your responsibilities. Keep talking to other moms and keep inviting them....invite them over for coffee at your place, invite them to meet you at an event, invite them for a kid hike/walk at a park/trail, invite them to meet you for a picnic lunch, to meet at the pool, etc. I found that I had to keep chatting with people, sharing something about myself, asking them about themselves, and keep inviting them to meet me occasionally and then suddenly you get a yes...and slowly you start making friends. Remember, your toddler will be in school before you know it...this phase is temporary. But you do need to do things for yourself and keep working hard at making friends with other women. What do you enjoy in life? Can you take a class in the evenings or volunteer somewhere doing something you love? Stop letting your husband's opinion influence you...if you want to do it then do it. He can protest all he wants but he doesn't control you. Make your own decisions and be your own person. Again, I highly recommend getting a part time job. I found another mom who would watch our son part time when I started work. Later I found a different mom who ran a home day care with 5 kids and my son loved it! When I had my daughter my son started Kindergarten and I found a woman on Care.com who wanted a part time nanny job. Then I signed her up for part time preschool. Be your own person and make your own decisions in life. The man of the family does not make the decisions. Your opinions and desires are just as important. Good luck!

I agree with Doris.

I didn't quite follow when you said you're trying to make friends at the park - but then bring up getting a puppy.

I understand why you're feeling lonely, bored, cut off from the world, and want friendships. Getting a new puppy won't help any of that. Deal with each thing separately.

I find when you try too hard (especially where you say this is difficult for you), it never works out. Maybe you're not a super social outgoing person. I am not. I'm quite reserved, quiet and introverted - but I love my friend base. What worked for me was getting involved in groups. Meeting the odd mom where it just happened naturally. I'm not someone who goes over and strikes up conversations with strangers. If I try it, I just look awkward and uncomfortable.

So I can relate - but it's when you're not trying, and you're happy on your own (with what you've got going) that you attract people. Ditch the this sucks mentality (I know, it's hard sometimes) and be positive - and people will be drawn to you.

I think your husband feels as we do. It's not going to solve anything to get a new puppy. If you want your husband's support, have him watch the toddler and get out and join a gym, or a group where you can meet people. Or as Doris says, if you want a part time job or to work (some people are not cut out to stay at home) look into that option too.

I think he is being very controlling, and your marriage is in trouble, even if you don't entirely realize it yet. I recognize so many things from my own failed marriage. If you end up divorced, you could be stuck in St. Louis, away from your friends and family. You may want to work on convincing your husband that you are not happy in St. Louis, and get back to your home town. You will probably be happier near your support group, and ultimately if things don't work out, at least you won't be stuck in St. Louis until your child is grown. I am so sorry you are going through this. Having marital problems is tough, having no support system must be brutal. Good luck.