My 3 and 5 Year Olds Wont Listen and There Behavor Is Gettng Bad What Can I Do

I have two girls ages 1 and 3. We use Love and Logic with them and it has worked great!! Complete change in their behavior (espeically my 3 year old, we're just starting it with my 1 year old). We used time outs, rewards and sticker charts but non of it really worked well for her. Check out www.loveandlogic.com and specifically look for the book "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood" there are tons of resouces on that website. The idea behind Love and Logic is to teach your kids responsibility for their actions (best thing from there that I've used is the "enforceable statements" wow, huge change in my daughter's behavior). Hope this helps!

Consistent discipline. You're the parent! Watch Supper Nanny or Nanny 9-11 for some great tips on age specific disciple. You have to win EVERY TIME! :)

I loved the book 1, 2, 3 Magic!. The cd of the book was good, too.

I've found if kids are acting out, it's usually because they need a structured, CONSISTENT, regular schedule. Typically, they're acting out because they're feeling insecure because they have no firm boundaries. Primarily try to focus on praising them for positive behaviors instead of negatives. Catch them when they're being Good. Verbal praise & hugs are great rewards! If you find you're losing patience I always found giving myself a "Mommy Timeout" worked wonders. If they have a regular schedule and plenty of positive reinforcement and are still acting out, I suggest reviewing their diet. Are they getting too much caffeine, sugar etc...? Check for possible food allergies.Use good manners, they're little copycats and will imitate behaviors that they are exposed to. Be aware of the TV they're exposed to, make sure it's age appropriate. The main thing is to be consistent & follow through. Say what you mean & mean what you say. Try taking a couple of deep breathes before reacting when stressed out by challenging behaviors. Enjoy this time with your girls, before you know it they will be graduating. Hope this helps. good luck!!!

Start discipling them. Have a time out chair, make rules that if the rules are violated they will spend time in the time out chair. Be clear what is not acceptable. Especially to you. Nip this in the bud now or THEIR behavior will only worsen and escalate.