Hello! I have two boys, ages 4 and 1. We concieved both through IVF-ICSI. We are thinking about trying for one more but are wondering if we've "used up" all of our good fortune by using fertility treatments for the two healthy children we already have. Has anyone dealt with this already? I am just trying to convince myself that IVF is just a means to an end. Any thoughts would be appreciated as I desperately would LOVE to have another child.
Go for it!!! Children are miracles regardless of how they are conceived.
There is no such thing as using up the good fortune.
Hi K.,
I don't have any experience with multiple IVFs, but I do have experience with infertility. I don't believe that you can use up your good fortune. Believe that you deserve to have another child and that it is possible. Surrender the outcome to whatever higher power you believe in and proceed with the IVF if you want to.
I can tell you that I had my first child at 41 and now, at 45, I am pregnant with my second. This is after I was told by fertility doctors that I only had about a 1% chance of getting pregnant.
I wish you the very best,
B.
Well, I just wanted to say, we got our daughter with the same process, and we're trying for a 2nd. I feel like there's no way it'll happen, especially because I'm 42, and my doctor already said it's really a longshot, but you've given me some hope. In trying again, I feel that it's helpful to be realistic about it with myself, that chances are not good it will happen, but that I'm just not ready to let go, but if I expect the worse, it will be an easier let down. I don't think negative or positive thinking has anything to do with this issue, infertility is infertility no matter how you look at it.
If you're younger than me, your chances are obviously much better, and I don't think how many times you have success affects the chances of the next cycle. In fact, I think with IVF, statistically, if you've had success before, you have better chances in the future.
If you can afford it, I say go for it, just be able to accept if it fails, and move on, for the sake of your other 2 children. If you don't try, you'll always wonder. I always feel, I would cherish and be so thankful for another child, but I never thought I would get even one, so I feel like the luckiest woman ever to just have her, even if my 2nd cycle fails. That thought and my daughter is what helped me get through a failed frozen cycle recently.
Good luck!
I think that we all contemplate this idea of "using up all our good fortune" when we already have healthy kids and are debating adding to our families no matter how we conceived. This being said, regardless of the steps we take to get pregnant (whether completely naturally, with a little assistance or a lot of assistance), it is always a miracle. If you and your husband desire another child then go for it! I am sure you already know the statistics for IVF/ICSI but if it worked for you twice already, maybe that makes your odds of conceiving the third even higher?? Really though it is all a leap of faith.
My own story is my first son was conceived after a year on Clomid. My second son was conceived naturally on the first try (much to our shock and delight.) Lots of debate just like yours about having a third. This followed by 2 1/2 years of trying, a bunch of rounds of clomid, 2 miscarriages and finally a round of injected FSH/LH and bingo - my little girl began her life journey. It wasn't easy but worth every moment of fear, heartbreak, pain, exhaustion & more trips to the doctors than I could have imagined. My family is now complete and I am so glad we took the chance!
Good luck K.!!!
Kids are a gift of GOD. No matter how you conceive, if your commitment is strong and you have the power to face in consequences than no one can stop you. IVF is the best treatment , no doubt these days
No need to fear.. go for it!!! This has been a miracle that God has given you a chance to have kid third time through IVF. Many couples often tried hard to get succeed in the treatment, but fails. Even I have a son through this process, which was performed in Israel’s hospital whose detail is present at http://www.ilexmedical.com/products.php?id=211 and now looking for a second one as well. IVF is absolutely an appreciable technique that gives hope to many couples that don’t become parent due to infertility or other health concerns.
Just curious if you went for the third. I am debating if I should do IVF for my third.
