I am a sahm with 3 boys. we cant afford to put them in preschool so i am home with them pretty much 24/7. about a year ago i started to have some major changes in my cycle. my periods got a little off, heavy bleeding and cramping, major mood swings. i started to notice that my kids behavior was changing in direct relation to where i was at in my cycle. it was like my little boys were having pms. i have since gone on birth control pills to regulate my hormones and i feel 100% better. no more mood swings, periods are predictable and shorter. i have also noticed that my kids are back to their sweet selves. no more whining and fighting for the most part. I just wondered if anyone else has noticed this while staying home with their kids or am i just crazy.
I have definitely noticed this. Not exactly when on my cycle, but whenever I would get in a mood my son would go off too. They're like little sponges.
I'm not at home with my kiddo 24/7, but I know he seriously picks up on moods. It's kind of like the "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" saying. They pick up on you being cranky or short with them, and they become unhappy too. I think most kids are like that - it's probably just more evident since you're around them all the time!
Glad you're feeling better!
Well your not crazy, but when you were having these modd swings little things probably set you off that usually wouldnt, like now, if they act up, you feel better dealing with it. I know exactly how you feel, but I dont think its the kids. =)
Our kids feed off our emotions and behaviors. So when they read that we are happy and perky, so are they and when they read that we are frustrated or short-tempered, so are they. It is very likely that their behaviors stemmed from what they read from yours. On the other hand, 2 and 3 year olds are ticking time bombs anyway! ;)
I'm glad you have seen improvements!
Your children love you and want you to be happy. When your not, they are not. At any age it;s really that simple:)
K., i have noticed this from day 1 with my son, who is now 2 1/2. mine doesn't have to do with staying at home around him a lot, or hormones due to my cycle, or anything like that, just plain old stress and day-to-day living. if i am worn out and unhappy, so is he. it's not in your head - i fully believe our children pick up on our moods, no matter how hard we try to hide them. my son has always been very sensitive too, so that may explain it...but we have always had that kind of connection. it can make for a lot of guilty feelings on our part - but it can also be positive because the one thing that cheers me up is spending time with him, so there ya go :) one of the joys of motherhood!
Good Morning K., Thank your Hubby again for us all for giving of himself for our Safety & Freedom's.
I didn't notice it so much with my own son's but it probably did happen, I had terrible periods and hormone fluctuations. I do notice it more with our gr kids. If I get grumpy for whatever reason or I don't feel well one day, it affects how the two I keep behave. Sometimes Corbin is very sweet little guy and wants to take care of Nana, so I will feel better, brings me water, wants to take my temperature etc... Other times he is on the move even more, cause Nana isn't moving as quickly.
Our youngest son's wife has terrible mood swings around her period, to the point all of us walk on egg shells around her. I used to love to gaze at Full Moons, now I usually dread them as I know she is going to flip out soon. I feel she is also Bi-polar, but her Dr. says Nope.
Like another Mama said our little ones are just like sponges they absorb everything around them. And some of it Ain't so Great!!! lol Attitudes, moods, words we use or shouldn't use, stubbornness, I can do it Myself like things.
So glad you are feeling better,
God Bless you with wonderful days full of Memories to last a life time.
K. Nana of 5
I know for sure that kids pick up on our vibes, moods, etc. I was even given an example of this last night!
When I got the kids home from daycare, my daughter (almost 2) was determined to destroy our house one way or another. I was literally cleaning up one mess while she making another. I made her help, of course, but a 2 y/o can create more messes by 'helping'. Anyway, my son (almost 5) was observing all of this, and was watching my temper rise. I was trying to get a grip, but finding it difficult as she is having a great time slinging his dinner across the room. Before I could say anything, my son says, "I think we all need to take a deep breath....in (breathes deep)...and out (exhales). See, that's better."
I was floored! I was so proud of my little guy...not only for helping me keep my cool, but for keeping his cool (it was his dinner!) and trying to resolve my frustration....boy did I need that.
Anyway, just an example of how kids pick up on our mood swings.
Hope this helps...certainly glad to share!
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