Getting DH to Agree to Number Two?

Hi C.,

Sit down with DH be calm and not pushy. Ask him why he is so worry about having another child. Let him vent, regardless if you agree or not. My ex-husband always had a what seem at the time a good reason for not having another child. I was 25 when I had my son and I wanted to have my second by the age 30. That didn't happen. Explain to you husband your reasoning and the importance of having another child. If anything is going to happen you both can deal with it. I let my ex convince me to wait. Now that we are divorce he has had two children with is current wife. I can't tell you how devasted it was to me, because none of those reasons now are feasible. (Not that is what will happen to you). My point being don't wait, Explain to him how wonderful parents you are reassure him that you will love him and try to seek out a hidden worry that he may not be sharing. GOOD LUCK and HAPPY BABY MAKING.

Hello. It took me a long time to convince DH to try for #3. I'm not really sure what convinced him, in the long run. I told him I wanted to discuss something with him and when our older children were sleeping, I ran down my reasons I had listed on paper. I gave the paper to him. DH is the an internal type of personality. So it took several weeks before I had an answer, which was no. His reasons were money, being outnumbered, going back to diapers and baby bottles when our older two were already potty trained and somewhat self-sufficient, etc. It was probably six months or so of discussions of being fair with each other and not arguing before he finally said yes.
Good luck!

C.. In my home the roles are reversed. I have 3 kids: 15, 11 & 17 mos. I am done, through. Had it. LOL!! The hubby only has 1 , the 17month old. He thinks it's a great idea to have a football team. I always ask him if he's nuts or what. I remember when I had only 2 kids. I always use to wonder how is it that some families have 4 and 5 kids. I don't know but it just isn't for me. Don't get me wrong I adore the ones that I have. Wouldn't change them for anything in the world. HOWEVER I can't see us having more. The baby is enough I always tell him. But although it's not a priority for me to have any more, I leave it up to the big man.
I would sit down w/ him and talk to him. Don't be pushy because u know how men get when you try to hard and they have their mind set. If he's not totally opposed to it, you might be able to convince him. TALK TALK TALK!!! Good Luck!!
Find out when you're ovulating, get a sitter for the little one, buy a sexy costume ( not lingerie, COSTUME!!) Make a nice dinner w/ wine for the 2 and Rock his world that night!! :)
What r the chances of him saying NO??

If you figure out how to convince him, let me know! I'm in the same boat! :S

Hi there are there helth risk involved or is it that he just does not want another child? I know that being married and having 2 people of the oppisoite idea can be confusing. I an engaged and have to kids 7 & 9 there soon to join a new family when we get married. We have talked about kids and he 90% of the time says that he thinks it would be nice to have one then starts to talk about the what if's! Sounds familular. His work will travel here and there and he has to always take continued ed for his career. He knows that taking on myself ans a wife and 2 kids will be alot and starts to worry that he "we" will not be able to handle a baby! My kids though are tickeled about the idea as well as I am I'm soon 32 and time to me is getting slim. He does not have kids or ever been married!
I would do as I have him sit down and express why you want another on "together" How your life has been blessed with the daughter you have and how diferent it would be and Empty if she would have not have ever happened! Express that you don't want her to be lonely and not have siblings to love and share in life with.
I do not feel guys see the bond a child brings.
I hope you the best and know that there are others in the same situation!!!!