Friendship

In any relationship, honesty is always necessary to have a strong relationship. Being that you have been friends for 20 years, she deserves your honesty. it is not our job to judge our friends decisions however it is our responsibility to be upfront about what we see, think & feel. I would sit her down and tell her that you have not been honest about your feelings. A good relationship can take honesty even if feelings are hurt. I have been thru a similar situation with a friend. It can be hard but it is important to always be honest with your friends and that way she will know why you do not want to attend functions. Be kind but honest.

Wow, I don't know what to say other than I have seen this happen with my MIL. She had a life long friend since she was 3 YO. This woman is like the aunt my husband never had. They were in business together and she sold her share to the woman when she married her recent husband. As well, they finalized their friendship. I still keep in touch with the friend via email and we share information about the kids and small talk about my husband. She never crosses the line and asks anything personal and likewise, I keep the conversation about the baby and my older daughter who lived with her a bit while in college. I am most certain if anything ever happened to the marriage, she would be there and be the friend she has been all along. I honestly think this is my MIL being too stubborn to continue the friendship as well as the new husband trying to be selfish and childish.

If it were me, I would be honest & caring about it, though not in a 'judgmental' way.

Maybe there are details about it which you don't know about. Who knows?

If she is truly a friend, she will want to hear from you your HONEST opinion.

I second Bekah's response. Be honest with as much tact as possible.
Linda