Easter W/ Family ?

Maybe because I grew up learning that family is not just flesh, but if they do not care about you and your child to forgo the drugs until after you leave, they are not really family. Let your child celebrate Easter and spring in a positive environment- go out to the park, to the children's museum, etc. And you never know - you not allowing your son to see this may just be the motivation they need to get their acts together.

However it goes, may your holiday be happy.

Dear S.,
Draw the lines now and don't go. Once I stated to my family that I would not be present at family events if certain toxic family members were going to be in attendance, those people were not included in future family events. Those that love you will respect your stance.

Your children and your health must come first. Who cares if you are black balled from the family. If drugs are prevelent why would you want to be a part of them? Family doesn't automatically get to be a part of your life. You are putting yourself and your child in serious danger when knowingly attending an event with drugs. God will bless your decision and give you the strength to say no and stay with your husband to celebrate the resurrection of our Lord and Savior. Focus on why we celebrate Easter.

Happy Easter.

Don't go. Looking the other way while family members do drugs is condoning their actions. Let them know that as long as drugs are being used, you will not be attending family functions. As far as the rest of the family; if you have good relationships with them, invite them over, or arrange time to go to dinner, lunch or breakfast with them another time. Find the book "Boundaries" at your local library and read it.
Best of luck.

S.....I probably just wouldn't go. Take your son to church to learn the real meaning of Easter. If your family questions you tell them you don't want your son exposed to the drug scene. They will respect your higher standards. God bless.

I would not take my children where drugs were a prevalent part of the day - whether done in the other room or not. Maybe the non-drug users should start hosting events and not permitting that behavior in their homes. Then those who are using drugs can decide whether or not they want to attend under those guidelines.

Given your high risk pregnancy and the potential situations that could arise....I would not risk it. I would let them know that due to your high risk pregnancy, that you feel that you need to skip this year and stay home where you can more easily take care of your son and get the rest that you need.