Downsized. Feeling So Lost, Worried and Stressed

Updated on November 16, 2013
S.D. asks from Saint Louis, MO
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After 16 years at the same company, I was downsized last week. Everyone says don't worry, you are smart and a good employee, you'll find another job. I am feeling pretty down on myself though...worthless comes to mind. I know I have to break this mindset and pick myself up and dust myself off. I am just so worried I won't find another good job.

I've applied for other positions within the company and am exploring options outside the company. I have some training I want to do and some contacts I hope will lead me to a better job. I am trying to take advantage of the programs and support system the company has. I still feel really ALONE.

I'm just a bit panicked and scared and LOST.

Have you ever been in my position. Advice? Helpful hints?

What can I do next?

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C.B.

answers from San Francisco on

On the day of President Omama's first inaugural speech, I was called in to my boss' office and told that, as of that moment, I was part time. I would be leaving at 1:00 that day and every day thereafter. I had absolutely no time to process it before it was in effect!

I took the President's words to heart - these are trying times and people need to start thinking outside the box. I immediately got on the phone and started contacting attorneys that I knew asking for contract work. By the next afternoon, I was filing my ficititious business name statement, starting publication and opening a business account at the bank. Within one week I was earning as much, or more, than I was working full time.

You can do this. Just start contacting people and really think outside the box. Can you transfer your skills to something you can do on a contract basis?

You CAN do this!

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S.B.

answers from Dallas on

Take a deep breath! If the company offers outplacement services, go and take advantage of the resume service. Make a list of all the people in your rolodex - other employees, key customers, vendors - any one you would seek out for a personal reference or network with to find a new job. You are being downsized - which has impacted a lot of people and a lot of jobs in the country. You did nothing wrong, so don't feel down on yourself. Don't feel ashamed. Make a list of all the things that you are good at and that are good in your life so that when you feel down, you can refer back to it. Were others downsized from your company?? You are probably not alone. Ask them for coffee - it may expand your network. Perhaps if they get a new job first, they will see an opportunity for you in their new company.
Are you getting a severance package from your company? You can also check into state unemployment. Some states allow you to collect it while you are getting severance pay, other states make you wait til your severance pay runs out. Don't feel bad about collecting the first phase of your unemployment, your employer has to pay into a state fund to pay for this. Good Luck and don't panic now. You were a good employee and now you will be able to use those skills to find a new job.

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R.X.

answers from Houston on

I have downsized myself several times when I was caring for a dying parent, hated my boss, moved to join military husband.

Use the between time to rest your mind, clean house and refurbish yourself via journaling, yard work and just reconnecting with your family. Good luck.

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E.P.

answers from Tampa on

I just found out last week that my editor (of a major newspaper) was let go. It feels like nobody is safe anymore.

My husband's boss and another coworker/ friend were let go a year or two ago. His boss had been with the company for 30 years. Now someone else is doing his job but at a lower salary.

My husband's good friend, Jane (same company) has been unemployed for two years and is about to lose her house. She is living off of food stamps. She can't find a job. However, my husband saw that his department has an opening for a tech rep. The pay is significantly lower, but he told Jane to apply. So, she is applying to the same company that let her go two years ago but for a different position.

This is happening to everybody. Don't feel alone. I'm sure there are support groups out there if you need someone to talk to. My church has a job seekers support group.

Some good will happen. When one door closes, another door opens.

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J.S.

answers from Hartford on

EDIT: Look for seasonal work in retail, especially the mall. They will hire starting around $11/12, which is what starting assistant managers make but they start you that high or a little higher to draw you in. And they can handle it because it's only seasonal and the time of the year that they make the most money and will be in the black most days.

Apply for unemployment immediately. Your employer shouldn't contest it, but if they do then you need to appeal immediately. In a situation like this you should qualify for unemployment benefits, and you are entitled to them. Employers have to pay into that system so that when this happens the employees they downsize/fire/terminate/pink slip/lay off will have a form of support during the transition of being "in between jobs."

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If you haven't already the first thing you need to do is update your resume. Modern resumes will be streamlined and clean looking and focus on skills and talents rather than job duties. There shouldn't be any lines or decorations on the paper. They take up too much room and are distracting.

Name
Address I Contact Info I E-mail

Skills Profile
Here you actually use brief partial sentences describing your skill set. Start like this: Goal oriented individual interested in a _______ position. Adept at ______, _____, and _____. You want to describe in this section tasks that would be typical for the kind of job you're looking for and that you've done and excel at. Keep it to three or four sentences. It should be a short/medium paragraph. Avoid words like "comfortable with." Include things like: Office skills include facsimile, electronic mail, Word, Excel, excellent telephone and organizational skills, 65 WPM. Able to self-direct and work in a team environment.

Okay. Then you move on to listing ONLY relevant jobs in the past ten years unless you can go back further with relevant jobs. If you have "too many" then keep it to ten years back. So it should look like this:

Smith Relations, Inc Saint Louis, MO
Service Specialist April 2008 - January 2010

You can use bullets and then list what your most important job functions were. So here you would put something like;

Responsible for ____ and _____.
Duties include ______, ______, and _____.

Then do that with each job. Try to keep the job duties to only three or four lines total.

After the job listings, list any special certifications and where you received them from and when.

After special certifications list your continuing education information including graduation dates.

No need to include high school information if you attended college. It will be assumed that you attended high school if you graduated from college and it will save you space.

DO NOT put anywhere on the resume that you can provide a list of references upon request. Simply have the list printed out professionally already with those people's permission and ALL of their contact information and have it ready to give when they ask for it.

A resume CAN be longer than one or even two pages as long as all of the information on it is relevant AND the information is succinct and easy to read. Have your resume be proofread for grammar and repetition. Absolutely NO abbreviations. Don't assume that someone knows what a business abbreviation means. Spell out facsimile rather than using fax. Spell out electronic mail rather than e-mail. The only thing that's all right to abbreviate on a resume is "words per minute" to WPM. Time yourself several times typing and average those times together to get your WPM. Once you choose a tense ie. current tense or past tense, stick with it. Try to use current tense. No "was responsible for" in job list descriptions or "produced" even if it feels wrong. Reword the whole thing if you have to, but keep it as if you 're performing those job tasks now.

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A.V.

answers from Washington DC on

I've been a rat on a sinking ship before. You dust off your resume and start applying and interviewing. You think positive thoughts. You are not worthless. The company is struggling. Being laid off is about them, not your worth. If you cannot find a job quickly, then look into unemployment benefits. Consider volunteering your skills to show that you do want to work and have current experience. Network. Talk to people. Think about all your skills not just your job title.

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K.C.

answers from San Francisco on

I'm sorry to hear about this. Let me give you a bit of advice that, while hard to hear at first, may make the process better for you in the long run.

November and December are the worst times to find a new job. Very few employees choose to leave right before the holidays because they are waiting on end of the year bonuses and because they want the financial security for the holidays. So yes, that sucks for someone who needs work now. But, there are two bright spots:

1. Tons of people leave their jobs in January, so you should see a spike in openings in about six weeks. Don't get discouraged by what you see now, just know that there will be much more coming soon. Obviously, continuing to look within your company and following the leads you have is great, just don't stress if nothing pans out right away.

2. If you really do need the money for the holidays, consider getting a retail job. Most companies hire extra employees for November and December to cover the longer store hours and the heavier customer load. While retail might not be your thing, know that it is temporary and you can still look for full time work at the same time. Also, consider applying to stores where you would be most likely to take advantage of the customer discount.

I have been laid off in the past. I know how awful it feels. I know how much it feels personal even if it isn't. I get it.

One last thought - don't settle for the first job that comes along just because you are afraid you won't get anything else. Make sure that you accept a job where you will be happy.

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K.D.

answers from Jacksonville on

My husband actually just went through this. He has found a position at the same company and loves his new job, so it all worked out. But, he was very upset at first. I made him realize that this is NOT a reflection on his (or your) work. This is.not about him (you), its about the position. He (you) did nothing wrong. Are they offering a severance package? If so, have an attorney look over it thoroughly before you sign anything. Also look into unemployment and anything that the company is offering in terms of job placement assistance. My hubby's company had an H/R person dedicated to researching jobs that he was qualified for within the company and matching him with a department. It was a blessing in disguise for him -he was miserable at his old job (but hey it was a job) and the downsizing pushed him to ty something new. I sincerely hope everything works out well for you!

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M.J.

answers from Sacramento on

You're not worthless ... the company is for getting itself in a position where it needed to lay off employees. THEY made the mistakes, not you.

My best advice is to consider doing some temporary work until you line up a full-time job. Getting yourself right back into the workforce is going to give you not only a paycheck but also some more business connections and a sense of purpose to your day. Staffing firms may also know of full-time openings or temp-to-full-time opportunities.

Also, look for job seeker support groups in your area. It may be helpful to sit in a room with others going through exactly the same emotions and talk it out.

What field are you in? A lot of professions, like IT and accounting, are doing great right now and you may not be out of work very long.

Remember, the layoff wasn't personal. It was strictly dollars and cents. They laid off your paycheck, really ... NOT you as someone they just didn't like anymore.

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D.D.

answers from New York on

I'm so sorry. My company downsizes and reorganizes all the time. Most people can usually find another position in the company so it's not a huge issue. It's just hard to hear "You are a wonderful worker and you've done nothing wrong but sorry you don't have a job anymore." Take a couple days to deal with your feels and remember that you are entitled to have feeling about this. Panic, sad, scared, hurt, disappointment are all normal feelings in this situation.

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J.C.

answers from New York on

Make yourself a timetable/list. Give yourself aple time to digest this all and destress about it. Take a few days to yourself and do some of the things you always need to do or want to do and do it. Sleep, clean - whatever!

Then update your resume - make it look fantastic.

Then, make a list of things to accomplish throughout your day. Check jobs sites, call contacts, cook dinner - everything. It will help you to stay organized, focused and productive. It's hard to go from 60 to zero but you will not be there for long. So make the most of the time off and when you go back to work, you will feel refreshed!

Good luck.

P.W.

answers from Dallas on

Of course you are "a bit panicked and scared and LOST." But, you are also right that you have to break the negative mindset. Do your best to look at this an an opportunity to make positive changes in your life.

In the meantime do what you can to scale back on and spending. Consider doing some downsizing yourself. Look at your living situation and see how you can save? Move to smaller apartment? Invite a boarder into your house? No more eating out. Cancel HBO....... you get the idea. Relieve the pressure a bit and jump into finding a new job. It may be that you choose something totally out of your field. When I was out of work I was not beyond sales or even packaging at the grocery store! No job was below me. Part time work meant I could continue to job hunt while bringing in something!

Ideas to perk yourself up......
Sit down and make a list of all you are grateful for.
Learn to meditate.
Visualize yourself happily working (don't need to see what you are doing) and lots of money in your bank account!
Talk to your friends and family.

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