hey my 11 year od is a profesional dancer she competes this is her second year last year she was in two dances , today the audition camp was over she tried really hard but shes scared shes not gonna be in that many shes really upset because she tried but i don't know what to do? she wanted to be in at least 3 or 4 and she thinks they didn't put her in that many because she was the only one in her age group that didn't get called back for a dance she tried out for but that can mean they didn't need to see her again i need help on what to do to make her feel better because they aren't telling what dances there in untill the end of next week.
hey guys she got her dances shes in three of them but shes having problems please answer my new questing dance,nervous?please help #2 its about what happened thank you every one :)
I think you can give her a big treat for her good work and efforts and show her how proud you are of her dedication regardless of the outcome; therefore, any good results coming are the silver lining...
If she were mine, I would tell her SHE WAS TOO GOOD. Sometimes some children are way above the rest and are over achievers which make the under achievers feel badly. Sounds like the rest of the group were not to her standard. She is special of course, probably better than all the others but they cannot tell her maybe thinking they will hurt the others. She sounds confident, reassure her that she will be called when others reach her standard. Her time will come, assure her of that, she must be patient, and encourage her patience so she can be alleviated of her anxiety. Treasure her, luvu
Is she really nervous because she has to wait to see what dances she is in? If so, have her keep busy and try to think of other things. If she is nervous to perform, have her use her nervousness to her benefit! She sounds like she is a really good dancer! Congratulations!
First of all, hugs to you both. This is tough competition, as professional dancing is all around and this is par for the course. I think the best thing to do if she is subject to this intense pressure is to just reassure her that winning isn't everything. She wins automatically because she works hard and tries and puts herself out there. The truth of it is that it might work out and it might not-- and in the end it might not have anything to do with her dancing. It might be her height compared to other dancers, it might be the color of her hair, it might be that the competition is the director's neice so stressing out about it isn't useful. The only thing you can do is take deep breaths, dance your heart out and then sit back and relax.
Change the focus from outcome to just being there, just dancing, just living for the moment that she's auditioning because in the end she has no control over who wins. You can't tell her she will win, you can only set her up to be proud of herself for giving it her all. It is a tremendous burden for a child to carry but if she learns to focus on the joy the she might learn some very valuable lessons that it takes the rest of us a few extra decades to learn. And if through the joy she ends up dancing in front of lots of people, then that's a bonus.
Good luck.
Just let her know all she can do is her best and if they need her they will call her and if they don"t just don"t give up because some of the best dancers and actors were not always picked it doesn't mean they are not good.
Tell her to hang in there.
Good luck.
N. Marie
ahh...Welcome to the dance/entertainment world....my girls are not at that level...but....all she can do is try, try again the next year if she continues to dance....if she doesn't get in to the dances she wants....she needs to accept and move on..yeah, I know..it's hard for an 11 year old..but hopefully she can get feedback on whey she was not selected and WORK on what needs to be done for next year.
What qualifies her to be a professional dancer? Competitions in the whole "scheme" of dance are not a big deal at all. If she truly wants to be a professional dancer, technique classes are the way to go. You should start teaching her that, instead of trying to be the best at getting a gold that won't mean anything to a professional choreographer. I'm a dance teacher who has danced my whole life. I went to college for dance. Have you ever noticed at the dance competitions that 99% of the dances get a gold? It is all about money for probably 90% of the competition chains out there.
A., who ever said that we get to have it all our way all the time? It is a good age to learn that not everyone can be on ateam, can be part of all the activities and that some times a person is better suited for something the instructor wants than you are. Soetimes to have an elite group of danceers in so many things it can leave out another person who wants it just as badly.
I had one daughter that trained with Coralaine Duane herself. She was wonderful about teaching the youth boys and girls that in a profession like dance and theater arts that not always will the one you think be choosen. So do your best keep the Smile pasted on your face and get on with life. That is part of being in that choice of field.
Being in that many dances is very expensive! I know that we had costumes that cost us $100.00, so to be in that many could add up maybe she needs to be aware of the extra burden tis can put in the family at a time so many are having financial trouble. Not to mention all the extra hours of practice you get to drive and sit through. So now it is time for the hard lessos of reality in life to be taught and you as the parent get to do it. This is only the start of many more to come. Nana Glenda
