Sometimes, babies/young children, are different at night, versus at daytime napping.
Some kids, do self-soothe, some do not until older.
Both my kids napped well, but at night kids/babies can be different. It is a different time of day, there is also the "witching hour" etc. and also, "night terrors" starts to occur, even from 1 year old etc. Night Terrors are developmental based. It is not the same as a baby just waking. You can look it up online. Some kids get night terrors at a later age. Mine got it from about 1 year old.
Many things can wake a child at night. At this age, it is very common that they may wake. Also their REM cycles are changing too as well as their cognition too. Or they get hungry. And some kids, like my daughter, was very sensitive to external stimuli... she'd wake, even if a toilet flushed down the hall. And no self-soothing, would soothe her. Things like that, just woke her. Kids react to wakings or things waking them, differently.
Your Husband, is good about helping his baby at night. MANY Husbands wouldn't even do that.
Many Husbands, don't even do "night duty." At, all.
Its nice, he is attentive and cares.
I have 2 kids, and my Husband never did night duty. This is not uncommon.
Your daughter is young. Some say just do the cry it out.
Some say don't.
Some say that biologically, a child will, at an older age, just naturally start to sleep for longer intervals and self-soothe. Which is my case. That is what I did with both my kids as babies. But that is just me. My son, WOULD self soothe readily. My daughter, would not. She was very sensory sensitive. And for BOTH my kids, how they napped/slept during the daytime... was much different, than going to bed, at night-time. Many kids/babies are this way.
Some kids, will not cry it out. Meaning, they WILL cry... and cry and cry and cry and not stop, no matter how LONG the parent has them cry.
Some kids, will after 5 minutes of crying, just fall asleep. But they do this mostly because, they tire themselves out crying so much.
My son learned to self-soothe on his own.
My daughter, was much harder, at night, to sleep.
Both my kids woke a lot. But both had different proclivities and cues/sounds which I knew very well, and that determined whether I went in there or not, to check on them when they woke.
A baby's sleep patterns, are also never the "best" for the parent. Because, babies/young children, simply wake. It can be due to developmental based changes or teething or many other things. And a parent does not go through this, per their own sleep patterns. But a child does. So a baby's/young child's sleep patterns/awakenings are never copasetic for an adult.
I don't know, if that were me, I'd be glad my Husband was doing the night duty. Or you can wait until she is older, to see if she matures in development to then sleep for longer periods or by pass teething wakings etc. Then see, if she self-soothes on her own, naturally.
Does she have a Lovey to sleep with? Or anything cozy to sleep with?
Both my kids, LOVED that and still do.
OR tell your Husband... that NOT ALL BABY NOISES means that he has to go in there!
Really.
He needs to KNOW her sounds.... and HE may be the one waking her, by going in there for every little darn noise she makes.
Unless she is screaming crying... there is no urgent need to go in there. She might fall back asleep in a couple of minutes.
Babies... routinely make noises, during sleep.
Just like an adult.
