Am I over Reacting?? - Tinley Park,IL

Updated on December 09, 2008
K.C. asks from New Lenox, IL
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I have had my daughter at Mary Sears in Orland Park for a little over 16 months (She is 20 months old). She is there 2 days a week. In that time, she's been bitten twice (really bad bites!), fell off playground equipment and now yesterday slapped across the face by another child which left a scratch all the way across the entire left side of her face. When I picked her up yesterday not only did she have that scratch but she also had another scratch (smaller but deeper) on the other side of her face and a swollen lip. They knew nothing about the other scratch or swollen lip. I just feel like she's getting hurt too much for as little time as she is there. I know I know....kids will be kids....trust me I am not one of those mothers who doesn't think anything should ever happen to her baby. But I am a mother who is upset by the fact that she keeps getting hurt. So I ask all you fellow Mom's out there.......is this normal for a daycare? I feel as though they aren't keeping a close eye on her and I"m considering changing daycares. We will be changing anyway in December after our home is built but wondering if I should do it now. Also.....we are switching her to Living Waters Children's Center in New Lenox. If anyone has info on them I'd really love to hear from you!

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Thank you for those who responded! I feel much better knowing that I am not just being an unreasonable first time mother. Whenever I talked to them about these incidents that's how they made me feel. I have decided to move her to the other daycare as of Monday. I did get accident reports on one of the bites and when she fell off the playground equipment but not on yesterdays incident or the other bite she had. This will be the LAST daycare we try. If this one doesn't work we will just have to bite the bullet and pay for someone to come to our home. Thank you again and please.....if anyone else has comments...SHARE!

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I do not think you are being overly cautious or over-reacting. I will add that we chose to go the nanny route (I had 2 under 2) as it was financially better for us, much easier for the children and family over-all, and know that they are 2 and 3, the nanny helps with preschool runs, takes them to classes that I choose (so they are still getting socialization, etc. If you've any questions about other pros/cons, etc., please feel free to send me a message.
Good luck!

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I do not think you are over reacting. My daughter is 22 months old and at the Bobbie Noonans in Homer Glen. She is a little clumsy and will fall down frequently. Anytime she has even a little scratch they will fill out an accident report which explains exactly what happened. One time she was pushed down the slide by another child but besides that she has never been injured by another child. My 4 year old daughter is also there and I have been very happy with them. You should be able to feel like your child is safe when you drop them off. I have not heard anything about the day care you mentioned in New Lenox but I do know that there is a Bobbie Noonans there also. Hope this helps.
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As a teacher, I can tell you, any child who gets hurt, you should get an accident report, all the time!!! When my kids were in daycare, whenever they got hurt, the had to give me a report, they are liable for my chid's safety while my child is in their care and I would never stand for any of what has happened to you!!Yes kids fall down, yes kids get hurt, but even when one of mine fell, I had a report, they are SUPPOSED to document everything! I can guarentee if your child came in with those marks, they would document it and call DCFS. Make them do their jobs, raise hell until they do or take your child elsewhere. Demand accident reports and document when you dont get one! You are not over reacting, if anything you are under reacting!
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I have my daughter in Tiny Treasures in New Lenox and they are absolutely wonderful! Very caring bunch of ladies, fun activities, great communication and my daughter loves it.. thats my recommendation. :) I had my daughter in La Petite Academy and she would come home looking Filthy, it drives you nuts wondering what they do all day and whether they are getting the attention you hope they are.... Best of luck in your switch.

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D.G.

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Go with you gut instincts. i would report them to the state.

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M.F.

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I would take her out. My son experienced a bad day care too. That is why I decided to do home day care and just keep my kids home. I watch 3 children on full time basis, they do get hurt, but not like you have described. Kids fall off stuff or run into things, but your daughter is being tormented! If she has marks, they should be able to explain where they came from, if they can't then they are not watching her properly. I would switch her now. Good luck with your daughter, the new little one and the house!

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Just an FYI. Have you looked into Home based day care? I found them to have less children per adult. They still get socialization and age appropriate play and the adult care giver is often a Mom. This is a good sight to post if you are looking. There is also metrodaycare.com and Will County Child Care Resource and Referral.

By the way, I absolutely agree with your decision. My daughter was hurt 1 time in 3 years at a home daycare and my son hurt once as well (although his bonk on the head was caused by his sister!)

Good Luck with your new child care. I know how horribly stressful it can be.

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T.K.

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Wow, I definitely don’t think you are over reacting. I can relate to you regarding the added stress your going through since I too am pregnant with, have a 11 month old son and my husband and I are living with the parents while our house is being built. My son goes to an in home daycare where he has had a few scratches but very minor and the sitter always tells me what happened. If I was in your shoes I would be very upset and look at other options for the time being.. a family member/friend that could possible help watch your daughter for the time before she starts the new center. Or if possible though it may be an inconvenience for you now, see if you could start your daughter at the new center early. Good luck!

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Oh my goodness no, you are not underreacting. there is no way that your chld suppose to be expeiencing that. That is not acceptable. YOu need to speak with that school and possibly report the to DCFS. That is crazy. Your precious should not be experiening that. Hurry and take action.

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Hi K.,
My son Isaiah 23 mths old is @ a wonderful daycare in Oak Lawn- typically 8-12 children with 3-4 teachers EVERYDAY.
I feel they are very involved with the children, but my son has also been getting bit and scratched. I totally know how you feel... I just picked him up today and he had a big bandaid on his forehead. Another child left a nasty scratch mark. I freaked inside for about a minute, then figured... well... he looks fine now, and was playing nicely w/ the others when I arrived. I did speak w/ the staff to let them know I was concerned when the biting started. I wanted to know what their protocol was, how they treated the hurt child and also what happened to the other child. I was happy with their feedback. My son has also bit other children... I feel really bad when I arrive and see an incident report waiting to be signed. Again, my daycare has been very helpful to give me positive feedback on what they do and how I can teach him @ home- NO BITE, NO SCRATCH.... and so on. Speaking w/ them helped me.
Hang in there...... Your definately not alone.
A. B.

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