A Few Questions

Move her to her room after she has fallen asleep. If she gets up and moves back do the same thing until she gets it.:)

Ok I had the same problem with my two year old and I pretty much resorted to flat out bribery. I wrap small gifts and put them somewhere she can see them. If she lays down after we read books and goes to sleep(quietly), she gets one of the presents in the morning. They don't have to be big, just something from the dollar store that is wrapped with fun paper. Of Course it takes a few nights for her to figure it out. And she really just needs the gifts until she gets the hang of it. That's also how I got mine potty trained, now she doesn't need the gifts, she just does it, so we moved on to the bedtime issue..

I completely understand. My first child always loved to snuggle and it was difficult to get him to sleep in his bed when his brother came along, but a Thomas the Tank Engine bed seemed to help do the trick. My second child on the other hand has been quite difficult. Since his birth, he has litterally been trying to stay as close to me as he can. have finally gotten him to sleep in his bed by at first laying with him at bedtime to sitting beside his bed and leaving when he's asleep to now I tuck him in and he goes to bed. Of course we have those occassional problem nights but you have to take the good with the bad.

As far as the eating, they both went through the running and eating phase. Just keep trying to sit them down at the table and encourage them to eat. I find it easier if I am sitting down with them, the tv and radio are off to take away distractions.
Goodluck.

I would do the cry it out method. Just keep the youngest in your room for a few weeks while she becomes somewhat used to it. You can go in the room and give a hug and tell her you love her and it's bedtime, but then leave the room. And actually with the youngest being one, she should be falling asleep on her own too(if she dosen't already). We did this with our daughter Kaylee, and the first couple weeks were tough, the first two days more than anything. But she is great a going to bed. She has been since we taught her at 7 or 8 months and still is at 21 months.
Trust your gut. You can tell if they are crying to get what they want or crying for a real reason.

well, my husbands cousin has had the same troubles with her kids, and there is no way you can get her to sleep in her own room without bothering her sister, you just have to keep at it, put her in her bed, and when she gets up, put her right back, you may have a few sleepless nights but when she figures out that she isnt going to be able to get her way, she will quite possibly start sleeping on her own, and about the eating thing, it is going to be very hard to break them of this, since its been going on so long, but if you have like the booster chairs or highchairs, that would be your best bet for right now, and explain to them that they could get hurt eating and running, and when my little girl started that, I would tell her that when you get up from the table your dinner is over, and its a hard thing to do but after a few times of them getting up and then deciding to come back to the table and there is nothing there...they will learn that they had better sit there and eat

I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old. I would not dream of putting them in the same room for the same reason you are having problems. My 2 year old sleeps in his room and the baby sleeps in our room where his crib is. We're actually thinking about switching them because we think the baby will sleep better by himself. And if you set a schedule for your 2 year old it shouldn't take but a few days and he/she will be able to go to bed/nap at the same time each day. It may be hard for the first few days, but it's MUCH easier knowing you'll be able to get rest.

I've done the same thing the first mom suggested, and it eventually worked for my daughter who is about to turn 4. It was easier to let her fall asleep in our bed, and then we move her to her bed where she sleeps all night, and she is always proud of herself for sleeping all night in her "big girl bed". There have been a few times she actually wants to fall asleep in her bed and I think eventually this will be the norm for her. Her pediatrician suggested the "tough love" route of putting her in her bed at bed time and making her stay there without going to her rescue when the tantrum began. We tried this for a couple of weeks with no success. I know it takes 5-7 days to set a new habit/routine. YOU are more in tune with your child and you have to follow your gut on what might work best for her. Good luck. As for the picky eating...some of that is normal; toddlers tend to graze more than actually sit and eat a full meal. But if you want to use this as family time and teach them to stay at the table,(where they might also eat off their plate) you might try getting them to stay at the table and color or look at a book while you are all together. This worked for us at restaurants so well that we tried it at home and it worked to keep our daughter at the table while we finish eating. While she is there, we ask her about her day, and use the time to teach table manners. Some other things to consider is to save their plate and when they ask for something to eat later, warm their plate and ask them to sit at the table to eat. Necessity is the mother of invention, and if the two year old thinks she has to sit at the table to eat, and if she is hungry, it might increase your chances for compliance. If you can get the two year old to comply, the 1 year old will follow suit most likely...monkey see, monkey do.

I don't have much advice for sleeping since our kids always slept pretty well in their own cribs. For the food, though.... all my kids went through this stage. Once they hit about 18-20 months, we just told them that if they left the table, the meal was over. They got 1 warning... they left the table, we told them to return or we'd take the plate away and no food until next scheduled snack or meal. After about 2 days of ending meals early, they all got the message and before their 2nd birthday, they were all sitting well at the table until they were done. Yes, it's hard to stick with it, especially the first time. But they won't starve in 3 hours. We do the recommended 3 meals and 3 snacks for toddlers/preschoolers... morning, afternoon and bedtime snack. Their tummies are so small that they need to eat more often. But the snacks are usually healthy stuff, smaller versions we'd serve at a meal, so we don't mind them eating so often.