S.C.
I had the same problem, did the same things and found nothing in particular that worked besides making sure they were nice and tightly fastened. I felt bad squeezing the diaper around my son's waist but otherwise all I did was clean poop off of him, off his bouncy seat, off of everything. He even pooped on me while I was trying to changing him!!! Probably because you're a firt time mom you're scared to hurt him like I was but honestly, you won't. It's not like we're talking about using a bungee cord. But I've gotten over it. I put those things on nice and tight because now that he's older, he just pees out the top if I don't. >: )