6 3/4 Yo Not Wiping for #1 or #2?! - Boulder,CO

Please don't shame her. She will only start getting better at lying to you and she will start hating you. Shaming a kid into anything is rarely effective.
I would just keep reminding her each and every time she uses the potty - but not in front of others. When she excuses herself just give her a little "don't forget to wipe and flush".
Sometimes you just have to be a broken record and it will be a while before you see results. Parenting rarely provides quick fixes.
My DD is 5 and often "forgets" (or is too "busy") - I don't think it's a big deal... they will eventually get it.

Take her to the store and get some cottonelle flushable wipes. Let her decorate the outside of the box the way she likes with stickers etc. and tell her she needs to start using these because she is a lady. If you see that she is using them, you will buy more when she runs out. I would stop telling her or asking her to wipe in front of friends/family. That will shame her and even if she doesn't express it on the outside, she will internalize it as she is bad and other feelings. Instead, when you see she is using the wipes, praise her privately and tell her your glad she is taking care of her body.

As far as if she chooses not to, let her see the cause and effect. If she is stinky and someone tells her she is--she will stop her behavior. If she gets an infection, she will see what she is doing is hurting her. Hang in there and hope this helps.

I suggest that this is a fight not worth fighting. Not wiping will not make her sick. Yes, remind her to wipe but not in front of others. You're right to not want to shame her. Perhaps get her the packaged wet wipes so that wiping is more fun but don't stress over not wiping. She will eventually wipe.

She does not have hair so there is very little if any urine left on her body. The skid marks are not fun but she will eventually not like them herself.

My grandchildren did not wipe consistently and they never had a body odor until they were 10 or so.

Make a friendly, colorful sign with pictures to put on the bathroom walls at her eye level as she sitting on the toilet. List steps for toileting. 1. Wipe - with a picture of a toilet paper roll. 2. Flush - with a picture of a toilet. 3. Wash hands - with a picture of a sink with someone washing their hands. If she is looking at it every time she goes it will quickly become ingrained within her.

From personal experience, I think this is pretty normal for many children. As one mom said, just gently remind her. While it's not the cleanest thing in the world it isn't something that's going to hurt her.

My battle with my 6 year old is different ... he wants to wear the same shirt to school everyday. I'm very concerned that other kids will notice and say something or make fun of him. So far I don't think this has happened and I think I have noticed other boys doing the same thing, but I'm the momma that wants her boy to fit in and not get picked up.

My husband has said the same thing Marda did. It's not a fight worth fighting. I've tried to encourage him to wear other shirts, and he does occasionally, but he has to do what makes him happy.

I can't imagine it will be too long before she notices it itching or hurting. You could try telling her that if she does not wipe that it will probably become very irritated. (This works with my 3 year old ... we tell him "no owies on the bottom.")

I think you just have to gently remind her and try not to make a big deal about it. She'll figure out for herself that this is really something she needs to do.

I understand that you cannot flush the wet wipes however what you can do is have her use them and then throw them away in the bathroom trash. I know that is a little ewww but I've found that using wet wipes is often easier on some children. Along with wiping I would hope that you make a point to have her wash her hands each and every time she uses the bathroom. This is something that is worth making an important fact of life not a battle.

Could she be constipated? We have gone through that a few times with our 9 y/o son. It hurts to go #2 so it hurts to wipe. Just a thought.

Speak with the school nurse or her doctor because I am sure they have run into this before. They may have suggestions. I have found my son's school nurse to be very helpful.

I would continue to send her back in the restroom to complete her business, however, not in front of friends.

With mine it was washing her hands. So one day we went around the house together and cleaned all the light switches, doors, and stair rail. She was disgusted, so it was the perfect opportunity to tell her that not washing your hands is gross.

Her other problem was sucking her thumb. It is a habit and one she has had before birth. We had her pretty well broken and only sucked her thumb while she was tired or upset. It happened...she got caught! She told he yesterday a boy in her class caught her and announced to everyone that she was sucking her thumb and she has quit. Except that she was just now curled up in the bean bag with her thumb in her mouth. So at least she is now aware and trying to quit on her own.

Help her remember and she will fix it on her own time. Don't forget to make her go back in and flush.