J.W.
My daughters were around 4 when I finally was able to let them independently cleanse themselves post bowel movement. I did as some of the other moms have suggested. But I would have them use tissue paper and then a baby wipe. That way they could see how well they doing and manage to stay clean. I smile when I remember this because when I first explained to my older daughter that it was time for her start doing it on her own... She looked astonished and exclaimed... I'm not touching that! That's gross!