Would You Let Another Family Join You on a Disney Vacation

Go without them.
They are watching their money, and that's fine but Disney really sounds out of their price range - the sticker shock is going to make them miserable and you paying their way will change things - it won't necessarily be pleasant.
You might meet other people.
You can also take a look at "PassPorter's Open Mouse for Walt Disney World
and the Disney Cruise Line" which can point out help for special needs guests that you might not be aware of.

Either way, my thoughts on multiple family vacations are:
•Vacationing with another family is usually more fun.
•Vacationing with another family is usually more stressful -- IF you don't agree on some ground rules first.
When we vacation with another family (be it friends or family with their families), we find it goes WAY better if
•we have separate accommodations (not sharing a house or condo--each family needs that "down/alone" time.
•we make it clear ahead of time that these are separate vacations that are going to have some overlapping.
•No O. has to do anything they don't want to do-- after all, it's EVERYONE'S vacation!
•No O. gets offended if the other family declines a dinner/attraction invitation/plan
•Overlap times are a fun bonus
•Overlap times might need to be ratcheted up or down depending on the kid's moods/behaviors, fun or lack thereof going on that day, etc.

Maybe I'm confused. They are friends that you might vacation with AND hire the man PT to assist your husband and help them pay for the trip? If so be clear the MAXIMUM amount of hours and amount to be paid.
Or are is the man an assistant for your DH with a family who would happen to be coming along?
Either way--you've gotta talk openly about expectations, expenses, responsibilities, BEFORE the trip to have it work!

I would interview several college level, medical bound males and bring one with to assist your husband. If you need a mother's helper then hirer a person for that purpose as well this way you can feed them on the cheap and have no sense of obligation. However if you are really loving this other couples company the cost possibly would be the same you could just call them and state it simply "we would love to go to disney and have you happen to be there again are you free? We could help out your trip by giving this $ amount toward your expenses" unless you plan on working them a lot and will consume their vacation. Yes you will have to compromise if they are paying for part of their vacation and if they have never been. It does sound like you need help though and this sounds like a way to get it.

go without them and hire a private duty nurse for your hubby while your there if you need one. there are a lot of companies that offer that. it sounds like you had fun with the lady and she was helpful but if they are very money worried they won't enjoy disney at all. and then neither will you

I would take the risk. Be sure to plan events separately as well as jointly. Use your joint plans as a way to have an economical meal or activity. Yes, there will be moments of "not quite my idea of how to spend time" travel moments, but if your time together is well-defined, the time together should for the most part make it worth the effort. And if you have to "wait" for them, make it clear you will sit down to eat or will do an alternative activity in the mean time. It's only for part of your vacation, right?

I would say to go without them and see about hiring someone here in Florida (male assistant for your hubby). I have had family visit and my hubby offered to help pay for Disney trips and Universal trips. Let me tell you it adds up very fast and before you know it you can be spending thousands of dollars.

The ads for $2400 are usually the resort cost that is not including meals, park tickets and extras. There are also baby sitters here (in the area) that can be hired to watch the kids if you and hubby want a night out.

Living a few miles from Disney I can tell you that you can find or get everything you need right here (in Kissimmee or surrounding area). The cost would be less than having to bring someone on vacation with you, since you will not need them all the time.

Don't do it. Hire someone local to help your hubby out on a part time basis.

I'd be very leery of going to Disney with another family. Maybe another destination. It is often hard to get a family of 4 on the same plan for touring the Disney parks. There is just so much to see and do. Not everyone will agree on where to go, what to ride, what time to get up in the morning, when to take a break etc. Add crowds, long lines, weather extremes, and expense, and it can be a recipe for disaster.

I think it would be better if you don't plan on vacationing together but maybe plan on vacationing at the same time and same place. That way there are no expectations that you must spend the entire vacation together, you'd be available to meet up when it was convenient for both families, and you would not be obligated to buy.

I'm assuming that you already have arrangements made for your husband so that would be a non-issue?

Go by yourselves.
It's not worth the hassle.
LBC

i think it's asking for trouble... :)