Worried About My Future Childcare Job

I am so sorry for your loss.... I would probably have the same concern... (I am paranoid and am always considering what someone else might think). I think it's great that you are handling this so well.

If I were you, I would simply talk to your friends and tell them what happened, but that it will in no way affect the job you will do taking care of their son. Just discuss your concerns with them... I'm sure they will be relieved if you talk first, because it's so hard to know what to say when someone loses their child. (especially if you have a child... you feel like you should avoid just in case the mere presence of a child will upset, etc...)

Good luck!

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. It's a stillbirth. You seem to have a lot of love and peace in your heart and I'm sure your future job is safe. If you're concerned, why don't you address it up front with them letting them know that you still want the job? It might give you some peace of mind to have the air cleared.
You might also consider a support group for people in similar circumstances. I am so sorry for the loss of your baby.

I must say first that I am so so sorry for your loss. this must be so hard to process, I am truly sorry.
as for your question: why would they not want you to watch him? if you are okay w/ it then they should be. they might worry that it will be hard on you so they might think you are not ready to watch him, but if think you are then it should not be a problem.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think they will say that. It really doesn't make sense for them to assume you couldn't watch their child. I know because of your loss and hormones and stuff, you could feel a little paranoid or out of sorts. Just rest up until it's time for you to start watching their son. Good luck to you and I'm praying for you.

Yes-I do think that you are being paranoid. I would not bring this up with your friend. You will be putting ideas into her head and she may start to think that you WILL have a problem with it b/c you brought it up.

So sorry for your loss.

It is ok to be worried but do not think your job should be in jepoardy. I think that you have some time to heal. December is four months away. I am sorry for your loss. I am sure when the time is right you will get pregnant again. Take care of yourself for now.

Hi, T.:

The baby is still your baby and there is no label. You are losing a baby.
Grieve your loss, it is a part of who you are. Caring for another's baby will help you heal from your loss.

Usually, women are very kind and considerate to share their child/ren with other mother's who have lost one.

Ask the what she thinks. Good luck and I wish you the best with your healing journey. D.

There is no use worrying about something they might do.

But if you are worried they might decide they don't want you to watch him out of worry that it would cause you grief, you could always take action and let them know how you feel soon, so they've had time to feel comfortable by December. Just say, "Hey, this may be WAY out of left field, but I was just thinking that you might be wondering if I'm feeling weird around kids after what happened to me or something, and I just want to assure you that I still love all kids and it doesn't make me uncomfortable to be around your son or any other babies at all. It actually encourages me for the future." Something like that. They may be wondering and worrying, they may not, but this will be good for them to know no matter what. Blessings to you.

i don't understand. why would a stillbirth make you unfit for a job watching someone else's child?
i'm am so very sorry for your loss.
khairete
S.

You are being paranoid and if you dont want to share what you experienced you dont have to. Still borns happen for many reasons and if your not drinking/using drugs or being extreme its not your fault. Sorry for you loss...I hope the best for you in your new job