What Would You Tell Your Daugheter?

I would be right there, with a police escort if needed, to get her, her children and her belongings out of there as soon as possible.

It would depend on the situation.

Is she willing to admit that she is being abused? If so, I would not only give her the Domestic Violence Hotline number, but I would be with her getting a restraining order, providing a place to live and meals until she can get on her feet, etc. I would be making formal statements with the police detailing any pertinent information, and seeking out others who know of the situation to do the same. I would do everything in my power to help her get out, feel safe, and prosecute the man abusing her.

If she is NOT willing to admit, and is in denial... I would make sure that she had the information, but I wouldn't push too hard. I have known enough people in abusive situations to know that pushing them too hard to leave someone will only make them cling that much tighter. I would make excuses to visit as often as I can... but not push her to get help too hard; focusing more on letting her know I would be there for her if she needs me. I would document EVERYTHING... If she told me about something that happened, had new marks on her face, new holes in the wall, etc. taking pictures when manageable. I would also try to find a counselor who specializes in battered women, and make sure my DD had her contact information. I would likely see this counselor myself, and follow the advice she gives me. During this time, I would also notify CPS and start court proceedings to try to get the kids out at least.

Get the hell out. My door is open if/when you decide to leave.

Have her talk to a women's shelter.
She needs to make an escape plan and then do it.
Unfortunately SHE'S got to want to.
If she's uncertain or waffling about it, there's nothing you can do till she's worked out what she wants to do.
Some women will stay for YEARS before doing anything.

I'd tell her that a real man never abuses a woman or child.
I'd tell her she deserves better.
I'd make sure she knew who to call in an emergency.
I'd make sure she knew that she could leave at any time, with her kids, and have a safe place to go at a moments notice.
I'd tell her to start socking some money away.

I'd tell her the truth, love is gentle and kind.

I would tell her to get out... I would also tell her that she always would have a place to come to.....

Well if she's being abused physically, I would advise her to leave. For her sake and the children. It's not a safe environment for anyone. I don't know the extremities but I would let her know that she had my support in whatever decision she makes. Just try to be there for her and the kids. Good luck!