What Would You Do/perfer?

Ask her. If you start a fever in the next few days I would not go. It is nearly a week away after all.

open communication! Let her know this wkend....& then update her on Tuesday. Allow her to make the judgment call....

unless you're wanting to use this as an excuse not to go! :)

Let HER make the call...Thanksgiving is still 5 days away.

Attitude is everything - you can convince yourself you are going to get sick and BAM! you'll be sick...the mind is a powerful thing.

Call her today and tell her what's going on...let HER make the choice. Or even call on Tuesday. You will most likely feel better by that point but who knows!!

Sounds like you are making excuses not to go because she's pregnant? I don't know - I could be wrong or totally reading it wrong.

If I was pregnant or not - and you were sick - high fever? No. I probably wouldn't want you at the house. However, coughing and a runny nose? It's that time of the year - frequent hand washing does wonders to combat viruses!!

I would give your friend the heads up and just be honest about the situation. Tell her you really appreciate the invite and want to come, but didn't want to make anyone sick especially since she is pregnant and has a toddler too. If I was in her position and a friend I invited suddenly became ill, I would appreciate that honesty. It would make me feel like they really cared about my well-being and everyone else attending the dinner.You could always see how you feel by Thursday, but at least she would know one way or the other to expect you or not.
HTH,
A.

When I am sick, I go no where. My MIL wanted to come over last night to bring a get better basket and told her, "I love you, I appreciate the gesture but if you get this you will be on breathing treatments for the next month so please do not." I would not even let her just drop it on the door step b/c I know her she would still try to come in!!! It is just not nice to share with anyone. My son's first parent teacher conference is monday and we have both been sick since Wed (at home w/ meds) if I am not better tomorrow I will ask the teacher if we can do it over the phone. It's just not cool to go anywhere sick and it is not cool to be invited somewhere only to find out they are sick when you get there.

REAL picky here per sick people. Because, I have kids, a Husband, I have Asthma and Mom that lives with us who is, a senior.

SO... NO WAY, do I want ANYONE, who is sick..... to just come over... and assume its okay.
UGH!
I expect, the person so CALL ahead, and tell me, and ask. First.
And certainly, IF I were pregnant at the time, I would be REAL IRKED... if someone came over, that was sick or is getting sick.

I would tell them, don't come. No offense, but please don't come. I don't want to get sick nor my entire family.

If I was invited somewhere and I was sick, I would MOST definitely call the person and say, I am sick or think I am getting sick.
Before... infecting.... them.... too.

To me, it is a no brainer.

BUT, bear in mind, that some people don't want to appear rude, so even if they prefer you not coming over, they will still say "oh, its okay.... that's fine..." But so make a personal decision. Sometimes you just have to say... I really don't want to get you sick... so if I can take a rain check.

Myself? I would NOT want sick guests coming.

I don't want sick guests coming EVER.

I think it's always nice to tell the person and let them decide. However, don't just TAKE illness. We don't have to be sick. You have days to eat your veggies, drink you juice, drink chicken broth, sleep extra, take vitamin c, AND, if you are a believer in the word, study healing scriptures. There's no reason to believe either of you need to still be sick on thanksgiving day.

I would give her a heads up now, and let her decide what she feels would be best. You might end up being fine and your daughter may not be contagious at that point, so why not let her know where things stand right now and then play it by ear?

One year my SIL hosted Thanksgiving dinner at her house - but failed to inform us that both of her young sons (ages 1 and 5 at the time) had been sick with a stomach virus the previous 2 days. Didn't know anything about it until we got there. She said she didn't want to cancel and "ruin Thanksgiving for everyone". Yeah, well, it still got ruined all right, because everyone ended up with the same stomach virus and had throwing up and vomiting for the rest of the weekend after. I would have rather been told dinner was cancelled and ended up eating in a restaurant than have dealt with being as sick as I was for 3 days.

So if I were you, I would let her know what is going on right now, then how you are feeling in a few more days, and let her make the call.

Thanksgiving is in a week. I'm sure you'll all be better by then. I'd still let her know what's on, though & let her decide.

Call. Give her a headsup and do your very best to put mind over matter and heal up your body by then! Lots of rest, chicken soup, vitamin C etc. Runny nose is not a biggie, kids get them all the time, if you didn't go out when your kid had one, especially if you have 3 kids like me, you'd be home 24/7.

We are scheduled to be at my in-laws for thanksgiving. My SIL has a 1 month old infant. I have a 7 month old who just got croup. My ped says he should be absolutely fine by Thanksgiving and not contagious at all. I specifically discussed the 1 month old, as my main concern. My MIL is DYING for us to come, has already bought almost all the food, my other kids are very excited to see their cousins, and everyone else etc. My SIL is VERY nervous about us coming. I suggested she check with her own ped about it, and I am going back to my ped on Tuesday for a re-check on the baby and will ask again then. I am being positive that things will be fine and we can go.

I would call them and explain the situation and then together decide what's best for all of you.

I don't care if I'm pregnant or not, if my other guests, my family and I could catch something from you, I'd want you to stay home.

i would probably stay home. calling her and giving your apologies is perfectly acceptable. just tell her that your DD is just getting over something and now you have gotten it too, so it's probably not a good idea. feel better!

I would call and give her a heads up of where you are today and let he know you will keep her in the loop and let her make the ultimate decision (make her pinky swear :) ). Your situation could change in 5 days, you never know.

Let her know what's going on now, and keep in touch as it gets closer. You could be completely better in a couple of days, but if your not better, letting her know earlier rather than last minute is a nice thing to do.

Your contagious period will be over well before Thanksgiving but I would call her today, and let her know that you and kiddo have a cold and might need to back out of Thanksgiving if you are not better. Chances are you will be fine. Remember to wash your hands often and teach your DD to do the same so you don't pass it to others now.

Let her know how you're feeling and let her make the call. Maybe play it by ear and check in on Tues or Weds to make the final decision. Fever, nasty runny nose, and hacking cough? No way. End of a cold with minor left over congestion? Not a problem for me. You should start taking Cold-Eaze immediately and get plenty of rest. That may just knock out the cold by Thanksgiving. Hope you have a happy, healthy Thanksgiving!

I would not want a sick person coming especially if I have a little one and pregnant. Just call and tell her how sorry you are this has happened but better to stay home than spread the germs. Let her know you will visit when everyone is well, after the baby is here. She'll be glad you did. I've had people practically curse me because they thought I gave them a cold. And hopefully you're not getting what was going around which lasted for what seemed forever.

The best to you and your little one