How can you politely tell a friend to stop making uncalled-for comments about your children when you've already approached her once before with this same subject? Is it rude on my part to ask her again to stop or is it better to just let it go (though I've tried and,to my dismay, I feel she's crossed the line one more time)? Maybe I am being over-sensitive but, even though I feel there's trust between us, I feel this will definitely hurt our friendship.
I am a mother of 2 and have 2 grandchildren. I am sure that I a older than you but your "friend" seems a little insensative. If you have asked her already I would ask again. It is unappropiate to cross the line with comments about your children, especially if you have already asked her to stop. If it hurts your friendship with her, the friendship seems a little one sided. Does she have children of her own?
Don't stop asking her to stop, especially if your children are around to hear her when she's being obnoxious. If what she says is hurtful I wouldn't even be around her with my kids. There are ton's of friends out there who wouldn't do this....I'd look for better friends.
If she is making negative comments about your kids after you told her to stop i would question the friendship anyway. Tell her this. I appreciate your interest in my childrens behavior and i see that it upsets you when they behave a certain way but as their mother I would like to handle it. Can you please refrain from the comments. If she won't talk to you after that oh well! her loss
I know it seems like it may hurt your friendship but once it is out there things will be fine. Starting that conversation is scary, just be quick and be honest and don't apologize for your feelings.
A friend of mine has a daughter the same age as my oldest. The girls have been friends for 3 yeasr as have my friend and I. Well, our girls really have kind of a love hate thing going. And for many reasons her daughter is very sensitive. Well, last week my friend called me up crying and told me that although she likes me and still wants to be my friend she doesn't want our daughters to hang out anymore. Now, my daughter hasn't done anything bad or wrong it is just the personalities of these girls. My feelings were hurt at first, but I completely understood. I know that call was very hard for my friend to make. We've since gone out to lunch and had a great time.
I know it is scary and you wonder if it is just hormones. But it's not and I honestly believe this will only strengthen your friendship.
....i would say something like...I know you are trying to be helpful......i'm probably sensitive right now because of the pregnancy and hormone levels and all that.....but I am just really not wanting to talk about that right now...
Hi C. I would approach her if she is your friend you should be able to talk about this and she should understand how you feel. I would never make comments to my friends about their children. My children are not perfect either, but whos are? if you don't talk to her it will just keep building up inside.
