C.O.
You have to always remember that first she is your client not your friend. Once the children are out of your care you can be friends until then she is not a friend first. Her main concern is her child which is how it should be. After your conversation she became concerned about her child's well being. She also became concerned enough to tell other parents about your conversation. It was up to the other parents to cometo you or pull their children out of a possibly bad environment. As parents it is not always easy but we always try to put the safety of our children first. We pulled our daughter off of a sport team right before State competition because her coach was having personel problems and we felt it was not a safe environment for our daughter. It was not easy but if something would have happened we would have felt terrible. You say your husband is not around the children but what if he is home sick or goes into work late. You also say you come between him and spanking your children. This is not some place I would have my children no matter how slim the chance is that they are being expose to your husband's issues. Our children are too precious to take a chance with. Instead of being mad at this other parent try to put yourself in her shoes.