Hi Moms,
I was wondering what you all might have told your child(ren) if they happened to uh...walk in on you and your spouse. This has not happened to us and we are very careful, but would like to be prepared nonetheless. Not sure if it is just me or not, but I swear our 2yo looks at us with the most intense "knowing" looks when we hand her a line about something. If we told her "playing doctor" she would probably turn around and start throwing questions at us (where's the nurse, where's the white coat, where are the bandaids).
I must say, DH & I are absolutely stumped on this one. What do you say?
Hopefully this is not too embarrassing a subject.
TIA moms!
I say, LOCK THE DOOR!! Tee hee. I have no need to worry about this because we lock the door. yeah, it takes the spontanaety out of it, but I would rather that than have to explain why we are together like we are. lol
L.
Please do not LIE to your child.
Depending on the age, tell some part of the truth,
that will be understandable.
Your 2-year-old child is already teaching you not to lie.
She can tell when you're handing her a line, about anything.
So, about mommy and daddy having some private time . . .
at this age. There are times when mommy and daddy
need to be alone together to do grown-up hugging and kissing
and snuggling with one another.
How does that sound?
Not sure if it was right or not...
but...I just said it was my turn to play with Daddy!
Tell her that Momma and Daddy are snuggling...it's the truth...and not any more information than a 2 year old needs. Don't try to "fool" your child...she is learning from you about telling the truth and being forthright with people. Don't give her more information than she needs about any situation but also don't underestimate her intelligence. So many times we adults try to gloss over a situation with a "line" when we could simply tell the child the basic truth and satisfy their curiosity.
I'd just say we were hugging and kissing. For a two year old, that seems like plenty of information. =)
Well...I walked IN on my parents when I was about 10! Not a great experience, but they handled it very well. I was freaking out because I thought they wanted to have another baby (and my sister was driving me crazy already!) ;) But they calmed me down and explained (keep in mind I KNEW what they were doing at this point) that sex was something 2 people did when they loved each other. For a two year old, I would probably just say something that was true, but not the whole truth- like Mommy and Daddy were playing, or wrestling, or having fun.
I have to admit that we almost got caught about a month ago. My supersonic mommy ears heard a TINY creak in the floor, and knew my son was still up. It was a close call! What can you do? You try to be as careful as you can!;)
Good luck,
T.
You have to try to remember to lock the door. If not you have to explain in a calm secure voice that what happened is something that adults do that care for one another. We show our love in a special private way as adults. No more and no less. Every parent has this happen to them at some time or another from 2 to 10. So it is normal.
Have a good holiday season. Oh welcome to another stage of parenthood.
The other S.
I'm with everyone else. Lock your door OR, lock your kid in her room. Both my kids have those child proof door knob covers on the inside of their door. It's for their own protect - don't need little kids wander around the house in the middle of the night.
FIrst, when it's afternoon delight, we make sure the TV is on kid approved channels. When we get interupted (and believe me, the door is LOCKED but the door pounding is inevitable!), my husband tells the offending child (there are 3 under 7 to deal with), that he is just loving up on mommy and we'll be out in a minute- go watch TV!
I agree that you can say something that includes the truth without more information than a small child should hear. You can (depending on what is actually going on) let her know that this is something mommies and daddies do. My kids don't wander at night (they have a lock on their door because they cannot safely be out at night--they knock if they need us and we share a wall), so this is not an issue yet. Whenever we get a house and they are older, I intend to have a latch on our bedroom door. I've had friends who were a bit traumatized and were older. I would simply do my best to avoid being caught. :) I'm not sure a 2 year old would really notice a whole lot, but yours sounds more observant.
When they are under 5, if the lights are out it's easy to just say mommy and daddy were playing a game that is for grown ups.
When your 8 yr old walks in, yes, it happened, then you start locking the door prior to every single time you have sex...
What we said to the 8 yr old was to go back to bed. Then the next morning I asked if she had any questions and I told her mommy and daddy were doing something married couples do, and we were enjoying it. (well, until she walked in, talk about a mood killer!) She was fine with that answer. And a year later when I gave her the talk she didn't even remember that night at all.
We had to say we were..Wrestling for fun once when one of ours was little. When one of my sons was older however he kept pounding and pounding on the door (he used to like to sit with us and watch tv in our room). We said wait and he kept pounding still, asking us what we were doing. Finally I blurted out something about intimacy or things that are among adults or people after they are married or something. He went eeeeuuuuuw (and I wasn't really specific but I am sure he had learned things at the Robert Crown Center before that and from our careful serious discussions). At any rate that never happened again. If we were busy we were busy.
Yes lock the door! LOL
