Very Stressed Crazy Pregnant Women?

So has all this happened while you were pregnant or was it like this before?

Sounds pretty miserable and awful - quite frankly. I can understand why you are upset.

I would a) stop the screaming and the fighting. That's not good for you or the baby and b) if he won't stop the controlling behavior, I'd go see a counsellor (myself) and get advice on how to proceed.

The whole spreading lies thing - that's just warped. I can't imagine my husband doing that.

Do you have friends or family you can reach out to? I'd start there. Stop the fighting on your end though - just don't engage. Walk away. Leave the room if you have to.

You need a marriage counselor.
Don't scream. Never scream.
Stay calm. Can you try taking up meditation and some deep breathing exercises?
Your health and the baby's health come first.
You both need some serious counseling...pacing by the door, controlling, lying, fighting and screaming are all absolutely not acceptable.
I don't think my husband and I have ever once raised our voices at each other. Please do marriage counseling. Don't worry about what others think. I wish you well.

Well, pregnant or not, this is ridiculous. Why are you allowing yourself to act like this? Maybe it doesn't matter if you are or aren't evil. If you're acting like it, what's the difference?

GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR. You need counseling more than you need a friend. Take him with you. War of the Roses isn't appropriate anytime, much less when you're pregnant. Screaming at him to leave you alone is getting both of you nowhere. And if something bad happens in your house, the neighbors will be testifying at your trial.

If you want a divorce, go to a divorce lawyer and get your ducks in a row. Don't tell him that you want one. Regardless, get marriage counseling.

Counseling. Now.

You do sound really wound up and I have no idea if it's hormones or not. But hormones don't cause husbands to tell stories and they don't cause other people to believe what he says. No idea why you worry about those people and their opinions more than you worry about a screaming husband who controls you. I assume you mean he controls you in other ways than worrying about the bathtub. That sounds neurotic but not the worst form of control.

I am very worried about your screaming at him. That's not a good way to argue. And this high level of stress is really bad for you and your baby. Get help now. Call your regular doctor or your OB/GYN and ask for the names of therapists (psychologists, social workers, doesn't matter) who accept your medical insurance.

World War Three is totally unhealthy. You must get this under control before you have an innocent baby to care for and this situation becomes dangerous.

Question, how is life with hubby when you're not pregnant?

That answers your main question.

How do/are other people perceiving you? Same responses?

That answers your main question. If it's him then they say you're fine and nothing is new. If they say you seem upset, angry, high strung, wound up, then I guess it's you.

IF it's your hormones then hubby is probably just reacting to the stress you're putting him under. Don't know what else to say than talk to your doc about that one.

As for the rest. It sounds like the two of you need to sit down side by side and talk, listen, talk, listen.

Really - the fighting and stress aren't good for the baby.
It's exposing him/her to all sorts of hormones that a more peaceful pregnancy never experiences.
How was your marriage before you got pregnant?
Did you fight then?
Did this fighting develop while you were pregnant?
Because if it has - then it's probably hormones that are doing a number on you.
I heard of one woman who was Jekyll before pregnant and Hyde while pregnant but fortunately returned to her sweet self once the baby was born.
While pregnant she had her husband in tears she was so hateful in the things she would say.
Perhaps you should find a support group of pregnant women who need to talk things over.
Your doctor might be able to help you there.
I don't know if your husband is controlling or not but it seems he cares a lot about you to be so worried.
Being a single parent is no picnic - and the baby will need his/her father.
It makes it so much easier to recover from birth when your husband helps with the baby.
Talk to your doctor about the wild mood swings you are having.
Maybe keeping of journal will help you gauge how you are feeling from day to day.
I kept a journal though my whole pregnancy - kept Dr's appointments and test results and thought about baby names and it really helped me stay focused because I had a hard time concentrating on anything for very long.
Just wait until after the baby is born and you are settled (at least several months) before you make any rash decisions.
You've got a lot of changes coming your way without adding any more to it for the time being.

It takes two to fight - you are just as responsible for your behavior as he is for his.

How old are you? You sound awfully young and somewhat paranoid.

Why would you continually be trying to get pregnant if you knew you were married to a controlling person you fight with all the time?

Oh this poor little unborn baby . . .

counseling as fast as you can get an appointment for it!