K.
Hi K.
Speaking from experience, I would take a VBAC any day. My first was a c-section due to breech presentation. I had a VBAC 12 months ago and the difference in both me and my baby was night-and-day. For me: recovery was amazing. I left the hospital 36 hours after the birth, feeling great. I went for a nice walk with my 2-day old daughter for a quick weigh-in at the clinic. Nursing was easy. I was thrilled that I could play with my 2-year old son.
For the baby: my son (c-section) had a lot of crud in his lungs and spent the first few days coughing it all up. My daughter (VBAC) had none of this, having had it all squeezed out during the birth. My daughter weighed 1 lb more and "cooked" for 2 weeks longer than my son. She was much more robust and seemed much stronger.
Given that the risks to MOM are roughly similar (though a vaginal birth will be a MUCH easier recovery, in my experience) and the risks to babies are significantly lower for a vaginal birth, I would advocate for a VBAC. Especially if you are considering the possibility of having a third child.
As for your husband, sometimes re-phrasing how the risks are stated is helpful. There's approximately a 0.5% chance of uterine rupture for a VBAC. that means there is a 1/200 chance, or conversely, a 99.5% chance that it will NOT happen. The risk of uterine rupture is not zero even if you have not had a c-section before. In one study ("Maternal and neonatal outcomes after uterine rupture in labor." OW Yap, ES Kim, RK Laros Jr - American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology, Volume 184(7)June 2001 pp 1576-1581) out of 38,027 births there were 21 ruptures, 17 of which were in VBAC patients. There were only 2 deaths and those babies were 23 and 25 weeks gestation. All babies who lived had no signs of any damage. So you see that even in the worst-case scenario, the risks are quite small, and those risks even exist if you are not a VBAC.
I would strongly encourage you to stop by the next ICAN meeting (International Cesarean Awareness Network). This is a great group of women who have either had or are planning VBACs or just want to learn more. You will be able to speak with many people who have been there/done that who can help you strategize and work through any concerns you might be having to make the best decision for yourself. There may even be someone who has VBACed at the hospital you're planning to give birth at. Here's the meeting info:
ICAN of Chicago monthly meeting
Date: Sunday July 12, 2009
Time: 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Location: Mother Me Inc.
Street: 3717 N. Ravenswood Suite 213
City State Zip: Chicago, IL 60613