Ok. So my husband and I know for sure that we do not want to have anymore children we are due with our third in a month and a half. I know that I can not handle another pregnancy myself as I suffered horribly with hyperemesis with this one along with many other health issues and I am done. My husband who is certain is done is willing to be the one to get sterilized. My question is are we crazy to have him get his done now before the baby. He was planning on calling this next week and we are aware of a required 30 day waiting period which would put his sterilization right before the birth of the baby. Is this crazy. We also like the insurance plan we are on right now that gives us more options as to who he can see and have do the procedure which we will not have in a few months. The insurance reason is not the only reason why we want to do it now in fact we wanted to do it a few months back but them we made a major move and had an insurance change.
I think now is a good time to do it if your sure. the only thing you may want to consider is he may be laid up from his surgery still when you go in to labor so make sure you have a back up support person. also make sure he rests for the required amount of time my husband did not and ended haveing some complications because of it.
I would go ahead and do it he will only be down for 2 days at the most my husband was.
If your both certain, I think now would be the perfect time for it.
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If you are both sure go for it. But be SURE. I am one of those that was totally done and wanted my husband to do it. Then, a year later, I realized I really wanted another child. So, just be sure, that is my only advice.
If both of you are sure you want to do it, Isay do it. If there are any reservations at all, I would wait. With the birth of my third child, I was sure I did not want any more pregnancies, but sterilization was just too permanant for me. I opted for an IUD. They are good for 10 years, and if I ever changed my mind, I could have my Dr. remove it with no side effects. My youngest is now 8 and I am still sure I don't want any more pregnancies, but an IUD is less invasive than surgery, alot less expensive and once it is inserted, it's forgotten!
We knew we only wanted one child. I had several miscarriages within a year, surgeries as a result and painful testing. I also had extreme hyperemesis with my successful pregnancy...IV's for the first 5 1/2 months...my hubby got good at waking at night to change the IV bag, inject vitamins, etc..and I got good at knowing where to barf alongside the highway on my way to work and know which of the home-health nurses worked which shifts..some were better at changing the IV site than others..
In the end my daughter was breech and I had no choice but a scheduled C-section which was fine by me after all of that. My husband had his "va-chop-tamy" (LOL) by a Dr with a wonderful name for his profession, when our daughter was just a month old. The dr's name......wait for it.......Dr Hackett...say it out loud...Dr Hack-it....OMGosh..its a great story!
We were fine with our decision and never looked back.
I don't think it's crazy at all. My husband had a vasectomy at the end of February and he did not have to have to wait for 30 days. In fact, he went to talk to the patient educator on Monday and was able to have the procedure done that Friday! They were mainly concerned about how many children we have (2) and their ages (7 and 11). They said they don't like to see young men that don't have children or men that have a young infant at home. I wouldn't think they would make him wait 30 days since you already have 2 and 1 on the way, unless that is just the protocol of the doctor. As far as the procedure goes, it's pretty quick - just make sure he rests up after it's done and takes the pain meds on time and not to wait unitl it's too late.
My husband wanted to get sterilized when we became pregnant with our third. I was totally against it. I looked into the side effects, emotional and physical, and I wasn't thrilled. My personal belief is that we aren't dogs and can control ourselves without sterilization. Both of us are very thankful he didn't. Several years later we went on to get pregnant with our fourth child. She died at thirty one weeks. Our fifth baby also died before birth. I have never been through anything harder than burying my babies! We had decided that we were finished when we received one of the most wonderful surprises of our lives. Our youngest was conceived. The pregnancy was very difficult and several times we nearly lost her. My husband loves her dearly and is very thankful I talked him out of getting fixed. He now sees that each child is a gift and is more than willing to accept all the gifts God has planned for us. I would do it all over again even knowing the suffering we went through with our two little ones. I know that had we been able to keep either one of those babies, we may not have had our sixth.
If at all possible have him wait! When I was pregnant with our fourth I asked my wonderful hubby to take off for 2 weeks after the baby was born. The baby was due right in the beginning of Sept, when school was starting up and I wanted some help getting our oldest 2 ready and off to school and to help with our toddler so I could concentrate on the baby. My lovely husband went and got his vasectomy 3 days after the baby was born and it was not good. He was in alot of pain. He helped when he could but it was like I was now taking care of 5 kids instead of 4, not to mention nursing the baby every 2 hours.....again if you can....have him wait until you are comfortable with your new family schedule!
Best of luck and congrats on your new little one!
Do you know that there is a procedure you can have done right in your dr. office called ensure (I think that is the correct label for it) it's not having your tube tied or any surgical procedure and it takes like 10 mins and it's permenant. I'd ask your dr. about it, because it would be quick and easy and less painful. It's what we are checking into when we are done having kiddos! :) Good luck with your desicion.
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Now seems the perfect time. After the baby is born you don't want any extra stuff to deal with. A vasectomy these days is an in-and-out of a clinic procedure and he should back to normal in a day or two. I remember picking up my husband from the clinic and going out to lunch. He was sore for a couple of days and that was that!
Be sure that he goes to the follow-up appointment(s) to be sure all the "swimmers" are gone since they can hang around for a month or so. If you don't want/can't have another preganancy then permanent is the way to go!
I wish we had done it before the birth of our fourth. My husband wanted to make sure that everything was okay with the birth before he had the surgery. So, less than a week after delivery, I was dropping him off at the urologist! They are supposed to stay off their feet for a weekend or so, so I was taking care of "two" babies.
BUT not all states have a 30 day waiting period . It is the law in New York and Virginia and if the procedure is paid for by federal funds. It could be a policy of the urologist, so check into it. In Texas there was no waiting period.
