Tubal Ligation - Montclair,NJ

I had one after the c-section of my 2nd child. For me it was a no brainer. I definitely did not want anymore and I have no regrets. I was just so set on it, it did not affect me at all adversely.
If you are having any doubts, I wouldn't do it. If you are certain that you are done having children, then go for it. I had a little pain that came and went, but no real problems related to the tubal. Good luck.

I haven't but one of my SIL did. She knew without question that she was done having children, even if she ever remarried. I have to agree with other posters that if you have any doubts at all NOT to do this yet but to find something like the Mirena IUD or the Paragard IUD. Mirena has a very low dose of progesterin (lasts 5 yrs) and the Paragard is made of copper (lasts 10 yrs).

L. -

I had a tubal done in February 2002, and have had no problems since (emotional or physical). I would recommend it if you are serious about not wanting to have more children. If you are unsure about whether you want more children, I would recommend other options (ie birth control pills, iud's, birth control implants, etc) - as a tubal ligation is expensive to have reversed to my understanding.

One thing that I was asked when I had the procedure was did I want the ends "carterized" (which means they burn the ends after they tie them off). I chose to have this done as I am not looking to have any more children - and wanted to be more "sure" that the procedure would prevent that. I was also told that there is less than a 1% chance that you can still get pregnant even after having your tubes tied, so that is something else you may want to consider.

But all in all - I would recommend the procedure if you are positive that you are done having children. Nothing negative to "report" from me on the procedure. I had mine done laproscopically on a Thursday or Friday and was back to work on Monday with no major side effects and no real limitations.

Good luck!

L.,
I just had it done last month. As far as the physical after effects, I was sore for about a week or so, then everything went back to normal. Emotionally, well, I had a little bit of trouble for about 3 weeks, second guessing myself, wanting a baby. Now, everything is back to normal though and I realized that I made the right choice. Realisticly, I didn't want anymore children, couldn't afford anymore and was ready to make that a commitment, I enjoy my daughter, my husband and my life now and really don't want to boil bottles, change diapers or worry about birth control. I am sure if you have the surgery scheduled, that you have thought it through and made the choice that is best for you and your lifestyle. Between us girls - my husband and I have already enjoyed the "freedom" that this has given us - wink wink. Take care and feel free to message me if you want to ask anymore questions about my experience.

Hi L.,

I realize I do not know much about you, bu I do agree that if you are unsure, then don't get it done. I do want you to know though, that it is not the end all be all of birth control however. I had a really good doctor who did mine when I gave birth to my son (mine was done for health reasons). I asked her if it could ever be reversed, and she said that, there are techniques suture and open the tubes back up (but insurance will not pay for it). Another thing, did you know that an IUD is more reliable in birth control than a tubal. In fact, after my tubal, I had a miscarrage (early on in pregnancy).

I suggest finding another form of birth control until you (and your husband) are sure you don't want another baby.

Good Luck.

L.

I had my surgery after my second child was born. The doctors kept asking me if I was sure that I wanted to do it because I was only 30 years old. I was content with two children a boy and a girl (and my stepdaughter) in the household. I will be honest, there are still times that I wish I could have just one more baby, I think everyone gets those feeling every now and again. But I know I made the right decision, We couldn't afford any more kids! And I didn't want to be on birth control pills for the next 10 or more years. As far as the physical part of it, My husband said that the surgery only lasted a half an hour. I was laid up for a day or two at the most. It just felt like having regular period cramps. (Motrin took care of that!) The scar is barely noticeable, it has faded and was less than 1 inch long. I can't even see the scar in my bellybutton where the other incision was. It is a big decision, I hope this helps a little! Good Luck!

Hi L.! If you are even slightly questioning whether you are making a mistake, do NOT go through with it. You have to know without ANY doubt that it's the right thing for you to do. After giving birth to my second child, I knew, without a doubt, that I didn't want any more children. My husband was in complete agreement. My OB still made me wait 4 months to be absolutely sure that I wanted to do this. I now have no regrets. The surgery was outpatient. I was just tired for about a day. Some people experience a gasiness feeling from the stuff they use to inflate your abdomen. I didn't have that at all. I was a little sore around my very small incisions for about a week, but it wasn't anything major. I recovered very quickly (a day or so) from the tiredness. I had absolutely no emotional after effects, but that's because I was SURE that it was what I wanted to do. My mom actually encouraged me NOT to go through with it b/c she had one done after the birth of my baby sister, and then later my little sister passed away. She couldn't have another child, and regretted having a t.l. I'm not saying that will happen to you! I am just giving you her perspective too. Needless to say, if you are sure that you only want one child and no more down the line, then go for the t.l. I wish you the best!
M.

Hi L.,

I had the procedure done two months ago when my son, Om, was born. Physically or emotionally I have experienced no side effects. You have to be certain that this is what you want to have done. I have two kids, a boy and a girl, and both my husband and I felt that this was good enough for us. We talked about it over and over. If you are uncertain, you should hold off. Good luck, and be happy with whatever you decide.

Hi I am a mom of 2 kids (boys). My hubby and I decided even BEFORE we got married that we only wanted 2 kids no matter what they turned out to be boys or girls. We stuck to that.
I consider my kids ALLOT of work ! I had a tubal ligation done about 6 months after my 2nd child was born. Easy procedure and recovery time was only about 2 days. You only end up with 2 tiny scars one in the belly button and the other just above the hair-line. Still the BEST decision I ever made ! No cost for birth control ever again and no worries either about becoming pregnant. I had this done 5yrs ago still no regrets !

I haven't had tubal ligation, but if you have any doubt about it, I would suggest that you get mirena inside. This is an IUD and it is actually more effective then tubal ligation and it last up to five years. Also, if you decide to have me kids you can always have it remove. Another IUD is paraguard. That lasts up to ten years. I have had mirena for a couple months and I am very pleased with it.

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When my 2nd son was born c-section,after they took him out she tied them right up. I have never regretted it. Depending on your age I would REALLY think long and hard about it. I was 39 and didn't want a 'surprise' when I was 45. I also wanted to make sure my oldest had a sibling. Put it off for now, you can always resked.
Good luck!!

L. i don't think you are making a mistake at all, i got a tubal ligation 6 months after my son was born and i was neither emotionally unstable, nor physically inbalanced.........i made the decision to have it due to having my children so close together 10 months apart and also with the decision to not wanting anymore children.......but if in fact your husband wants more children, i would think about it, but if the decision is both of yours not to have anymore then i would say GO FOR IT!!!!!

I have experience in tubal ligation.I had one done 6 years ago I had no problems and it was a quick recovery.The only thing I suggest is make sure you don't want anymore kids.Once you do it there's no turning back.I had no emotional or physical effects and the make is at the belly button so you can't really see the mark where they did it.Good luck and you'll be fine.

If you even have to pose this question with the procedure just a week away, I would say don't do it just yet. Take some more time to think about the truly long-term consequences of this very important decision.

Hi!

I read through most of the responses and it seems you have a lot of good thoughts on it. I just wanted to go ahead and add my feelings.

I feel it is not for everyone. I had a tubal when I left my husband and decided to be a single mom. I knew I couldn't have anymore children at that point nor did I want anymore. I had no complications. It was an easy procedure for me. Back to work in 2 - 3 days. I have since remarried. My new husband has no kids of his own nor do we want anymore. My point being you have to be really sure this is what you want. It is expensive to reverse. And How does your husband really feel about it? You can't live for the what if's!!

Good luck!!

I HAD MY TUBES DONE AFTER MY THIRD CHILD. I WAS 27 YRS OLD,NOW MY CHILDREN ARE AGES 15,12,AND 9. AT FIRST I THOUGHT I WOULD REGRET IT ,AND I WOULD HAVE LIKED TO TRY FOR ANOTHER GIRL. SO MY DAUGHTER WOULD HAVE HAD A SISTER. NOW THAT THEY ARE OLDER I'M HAPPY I DID IT. DON'T GET ME WRONG I LOVE CHILDREN ,I'LL JUST ENJOY MY GRANDCHILDREN LATER ON DOWN THE LINE.

Are you sure you are through with children? I would have given anything to have a second child - a only child is as much or more work than a pair - believe me. Also, I think siblings are good to have around when the parents are gone..I am from a large family - and am glad my mom had many.

I had a tubal, but that was when I was 46 - my daughter was born just before my 44th birthday - that is the only reason there she is the only one...I was just too old to go through it all again.

I had a tubal done 15 yrs ago when my twins turned 3yrs, they were my 4 & 5th child. I had only one regret because after
that I got divorced, not because of the tubal though. I met some new he was 40 he said he didn't want any more children,I really didn't either, but it would have been nice to have one between us. But now we're happy we have 8 grand children to spoil. But if your having doubts, please think about it, you might feel in 2 or 3yrs you might one another.good luck in your decision.

Well I had mine done after my second c-sec delivery and ever since my periods are very long and heavy now along with alot of cramping.Since my tubal I've gone in twice for endometriosis which is basically from scare tissue.I have pms syndrom which I never had before and I go through hot flashes and sweat alot more.I have no sex drive at all any more.I've also developed alot of ovarian cysts which rupture and pain.My husband also got fixed lol after my tubal cause it wasn't 100%.So that's my feed back and I know everyone is different.So good luck!

Hi L.:
My wife asked me to download her e-mail. I saw your topic and felt the need to reply.

My wife was on the pill for a long time and we adopted our two children. We decided that we did not want to be outnumbered ( nor did we want Trey on chemical control for the next decade or so. I spoke with my urologist and he stated that a vasectomy was simple procedure on a male with no real negative side effects. The tubal ligation for a female is much more invasive and has significantly more potential side effects.

I decided on the vas with Trey's concurrence. Better a low risk procedure for me and a weekend on the couch with a bag of frozen peas then an invasive procedure for her.

As stated by someone else in the thread, if you are having doubts, don't.

Tom

L.,
I had a tubal ligation in March 2000. It was the best thing I've ever done for myself. There are different types of tubal ligation - the one performed on me was done with a laser, so it cauterized the fallopian tubes as it cut them. I didn't have any emotional effects. The only effect I had was some soreness. I was assured that the soreness (in my neck and shoulder area) was the result of the anesthesia. After 4 days, I was back to my normal self. Did you go through with yours?