Trying to Conceive Second Child

gree wit Stacy, I found out I had PCOS and need to use medications to get pregnant. I would HIGHLY recommend going to Family Beginnings. Dr. James Donohue is wonderful. He is the man who know what I need to use to have a pretty little 2 year old daughter. I can wait to have a brother or sister for her.

Hi

I have had trouble conceiving and finally we were successful after taking clomid. My doctor basically determined I wasn't ovulating and if I was, it wasn't consistant, and clomid basically helps with that. It worked for us and it is not an extreme drug so you will probably not even see any side effects. My husband is military so I know the added stress doesn't help much.

So basically, I lost a few pounds, tried to reduce my stress level and started clomid and I was pregnant very fast. research it a little, it's not as severe as some fertility drugs! Good luck

A.

Have you tried an ovulation calendar? There are many available at no charge online and that helped me with my second one. Best of luck to you! M.

Hi C.,

I am a licensed massage therapist and birth doula. I have been doing prenatal massage for about 2 years and know something about fertility massage.
I will be taking a certification workshop this weekend that will go in depth teaching fertility massage.

You may certainly contact me for a free consultation.

Best wishes,
P.

Try not to get discouraged. I know it can be hard on you when you really try and nothing happens. My mom suggests the best way to have a baby is to lose weight and buy a new car!! But seriously you may want to look into the Creighton Model FertilityCare system. It is actually a natural approach to family planning. My husband and I learn it from classes at church. Natural family planning is recommened by the Catholic church and the courses are offered at the Charlotte Diosese. The courses were not discussing morality and were not preachy so I think any faith person would enjoy them. You could probably find info on the internet too. Look up Creighton and NaPro Technology.
In a nutshell the course teaches you how to take signes from you boby to tell you when you a most fertile. I found it very easy and within a year I was pregnant. You can also use this information later to avoid pregnancy!
Hope this helps!!
Good luck and God Bless.

I'm sorry this is going to sound so inane, and you'll be able to judge the validity of this assertion given your medical background:

My OB told me birth control pills and amoxicillian (sp?) taken together were a sure-fire baby-making recipe...when we unexpectedly found ourselves pregnant while I was on birth control.

I was able to get pregnant with my first very easily/almost effortlessly; but with my second struggled for almost 2yrs. I was told that I would have to have a couple of surgeries and then there would be a "possiblity" of getting pregnant. My husband and I were not sure about spending tons of money and only getting a possibility in return so I opted to try one last thing before we tried to adopt....we tried Ovulex (which I ordered 3 bottles and only used about 15days worth) and it worked within the first cycle. We had thought that we had missed my optimal time but continued the pills so that my body would acclamated to the pills, but then found out that I had gotten pregnant. I too had tried everything...I mean everything to get pregnant and this worked for us. There is a 100% money back guarantee if you don't get pregnant.

I read all the wonderful advise others gave you, and there are many good ideas. My recomendation is just relax. As women we tend to get all worked up and mess up what should come naturally. I recomend you consider the worst case senerio, "you may never have another child". Will you be ok with that? I am a firm believer that God has a plan, and He has forced me to recognize that what I want is not always what He wants for me. I would love to have another child, but it doesn't look like that's in His plan. As long as I'm ok with what I have, whether I am blessed with another child or not I will still be blessed. I recomend you relax and pray for what God wants for you, and happiness with whatever it may be. God will probably bless you with what you want, when you rely on Him instead of all the human stuff.
God bless you and your family. I'll pray you are blessed with the child you desire.

Hello there!

I would say not to lose hope yet. It took me a year and a half to get pregnant the second time around and I ended up being pregnant with twin boys! :-) They are now 17 months old. I also have a 4 and a half year old boy.

I do remember reading that taking Zinc, Folic Acid, and Vitamin C help with building a great reproductive system. I started those vitamins after a year of trying and then about 4 months later I was pregnant again. Some reports say that coffee can hinder getting pregnant in some people.

Hope this was helpful.
Prayer works too! :-)
B.

I charted successfully at www.fertilityfriend.com
However, I did have to go on Femara - which is a fertility drug, however that was due to a previous problem.

I would speak to your OB/GYN regarding natural fertility options.

The best of luck to you!

Hi C.!

My husband and I tried for several years to get pregnant with our first baby.

We decided to buy a fertility monitor from Walgreens. It was expensive (I think 200 dollars) plus test sticks (package 50). With the cost, it was well worth it in the end. The monitor is really helpful(more than the 5pack ovulation kits you can buy) because you test every day of the month instead of the days you think you may be ovalating. It is sold behind the counter at the pharmacy.

My family doctor always told us...with a little less stress, a lot of practice and in God's own time..you will get just what you want.

Good Luck!!

C.,

I had problems conceiving both of my daughters. Finally, I had to take progesterone pills to get my ovultation cycle regulated. I'm now working on #3. Progesterone is naturally in your body, you may just need to adjust the level. Your OBGYN can definitely help. Good Luck. J.

Have you tried natural progesterone cream? Have your doctor check to see if you are low on progesterone in your body. One of the signs of being estrogen dominant/low progesterone is infertility. I am part of a yahoo group regarding this with lots of support and information. You can check it out here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HormonallyHealthyWomen
Good luck to you!

Dear C.,

How familiar are you with the Fertility Awareness method?

A little about me.. I am a birth doula and childbirth educator and mom to 4 little ones, ages 7,5,3, and 1.

I myself had no problem with the first child but the second one took 1 1/2 years. I took fertility drugs for three months and got pregnant. I did the body basil temp. every morning before I got out of bed. It was a pain but very well worth it. I since then I have had another child without even trying. Go figure!! Good luck and the drugs are worth it!

Hi Coleen. I know what you're going through. It took my husband and me two years of trying to concieve our first child. We even tried Clomid and other fertility treatments, to much expense but no reward. Finally, we gave up and God just blessed us in His own time. We've now been off birth control but not actively trying for almost as long for our second child. My friend gave me a great book that I just finished reading called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler, MPH. She talks about your body's cycle, and how to tell for 100% certain the exact day that you ovulate. If you are charting your temperature, she says this is helpful but won't actually tell you you've ovulated until it's too late to concieve, and why. She talks about other ways to tell sooner, and exactly what different body changes mean in regards to your fertility. So before you try any medical treatments or drugs, I hope you will read this book. Good luck, and God bless you.

This may sound crazy but it helped me and 2 of my friends.
Have intercourse every other day beginning just before you ovulate. After sex, put a pillow under your bottom and your feet on the wall or headboard. Lay there for 15 minutes.

Good Luck!

Hi C.,

I know it sounds simply silly but try to completely relax and de-stress yourself. I have two friends who were both trying really hard and once they put the baby-making-idea out of their minds it happened and they both got pregnant. One friend was in the process of beginning fertilty treatment and then it just happened. I know it's hard to be patient; just try to do everything you can to get your body ready for pregnancy--folic acid, lots of water...Good luck and best wishes!

Hi C.,

I had some trouble conceiving my daughter, but after doing a few months of BBT (Body Basal Temperature) charting and figuring out that my fertile days weren't the days i thought they were in my cycle and going by my BBT chart, we were pregnant in 2 months. It's kind of monotonouse, taking your temperature every morning and charting it, but www.babycenter.com has an online chart that you can enter your data into to make it a little easier. Hope this might help!!

My physician suggested we have intercourse every other day from the first day after my period until I started agan. We were pregannt the first month. Lacks spontenaity, but it worked :-)

Are you sure you are ovulating? My thyroid was not working properly when we were trying to get pregnant the first time and it was because I wasn't even ovulating due to thyroid problems. Good luck.

C.,
My husband and I also were having some problems comceiving our first child. We heard about a fantastic doctor by the name of Dr. Michael Henry that specializes in infertility. When we met with him, he ordered some tests and found out that I wasn't ovulating properly. He told us what our medical options were and made us feel so comfortable. Shockingly, we ended up getting pregnant without the drugs. Dr. Henry still was very active in the first three weeks of the pregnancy to make sure that everything was going okay. I can't say enough wonderful things about Dr. Henry and his staff at Reproductive Care of Indiana, ###-###-####. His main office is in Indy, but he also makes monthly visits to Terre Haute, Bloomington, and Lafayette. I truly think you owe it to yourself to give them a call. He won't push anything on you and might even have some non-drug suggestions for getting pregnant! Good luck!

A.

C.,
Hi! My name is M. T., and I am also ttc. I have an 11 year old daughter, and a 2 1/2 year old son.
I have been trying to conceive since March 2006, and was really disappointed when I didn't see immediate results!
About a month ago I found a website: fertilityfriend.com, which you chart your temps everyday the same time and also it gives you info about other signs to look for before and after ovulation period.
The first month is free, and then you choose 3 different ways to pay for their online service.
I've really found this website with alot of info that helped me not feel that I'm in the dark at what to look for before ovulation & etc.
I hope this helps you and anyone else out there that is ttc.
Good Luck, M.

C. - I understand where you are coming from completely! My husband and I tried for almost 3 years before we were willing to consider infertility treatment (we actually did go that route in the end). But here are a couple of suggestions that I can give you - both of which I believe were integral in my conceiving.

#1 - give up ALL caffeine if you haven't already. That doesn't just mean coffee - most teas (including green tea) are loaded with caffeine. So is most soda - and not just the colas...and unfortuneately so is chocolate....I know this one was tough for me.

#2 - have you tried acupuncture? This was a big surprise to me, but I believe that is what finally gave us our son. I started out with an American trained acupuncturist, but found that it really didn't make any difference. I then switched to a Chinese woman that had been trained in China and moved to the US. She was awesome! I would love to give you her information so that you could go see her, but she is back in Massachusetts. Check around here - I'm sure that you will find someone.

I wish you luck in your wish to become pregnant!
S.

Hey. My name is B.. I have a 3 year old son and we are expecting again in Dec. I know what you are going through. It took us 14 months to get preganat with my son and we had a miscarriage in Jan. and it took us 13 months to get preganat with the one we lost but only 2 months to get preganat with this one I believe because of the miscarriage. We live in the Boiling Springs area. If you want to talk more email me at ____@____.com. Thanks, B.

Hi C.! I wouldn't worry too much yet, I've heard of a number of woman who have trouble getting pregnant the second time. For some reason, women who had no problem at all getting pregant the first time, sometimes take longer to get pregnant the second time. My first questions would start with...are your periods regular? Irregular? If your peroids are regular, you can estimate when you are ovulating by dividing your cycle number in half (ex 28 days, would be 14) and then giving it 2-3 days each side of day #14. This would mean trying to conceive somewhere between day 11 to day 17. I'm sure you have probably already been trying this, so my suggestion would be to get one of those over the counter ovulation tests. They are a lot like pregnancy test, but pretty accurate in telling you when you are ovulating. They come with complete instructions on how to best utilize the tests and you can usually pick them up at any drug store (ie. Eckerd, CVS) My cycle was pretty irregular and after trying for a while, I did this with my 2nd. I discovered that I was ovulating much later in my cycle than I thought. Thus, we tried it and were pregnant the next month! Good luck!

My name is K. and I have a daughter that just turned 5 today. I am pregnant with my second child and all I did was use an ovulation kit. I am also the spouse of a military man. Are you from Urbandale I am not we moved here from Texas in July and I do not know anyone. I would love to set up a playdate for our kids. I know this sounds strange, but I am not working right now and have been here for almost 2 months and still do not know anyone.

hey C. im actually pregnant for the third time and i think you have to just relax and not worry yourself about it, things will happen were the time is right. My husband was active duty army for 4 years we lived at ft campbell where my first daughter was born and we also lived in virginia, i hope everything works out dont worry it will happen

My husband and I had to go through IVF but learned a lot about the female body in the process. I know several women that went on the fertility drugs and after 2 years when she finally went off of them they ended up pregnant within 6 months, go figure. I know that tube blockage (which was my problem) can occur for several reasons, if this is the case they can do an HSG (dye test) to check for blockage and from what I understand in a large number of cases women became pregnant after the test since the dye is forced through the tubes and ends up clearing them at the same time. This test was very painful for me and other women I know. Some women I talked to didn't have problems. Suggest to be put in a 15 min. sleep mode just long enough to have this procedure done if possible. They have the drugs to do it since I was under only 15 min. for the transfer of embryos through our IVF procedure. I would most importantly talk to an endocrinologist to start with. Skip your OBGYN if possible. High levels of stress can cause infertility and believe it or not your hormone levels, which most all doctors will not test you for, can also cause problems. I have found out recently that after having my son and having horrible depression (not post partum depression), aches and pains in my joints, severe mood swings, no libido, fatigue, and periods that were very painful, all this from my progesterone levels being very low. I found out this out from a friend that did lots of research and started using bio-identical progesterone cream to help with her symptoms that were somewhat different. I started on the cream 2 months ago and have no more symptoms. Bio-identical just means natural with no added synthetics. I am 36 years old and have a 15 month old. I hope some if not all this info. is helpful. If you have any other questions please let me know. If you find that IVF is the only option for you I know of several clinics that offer 3 to 6 tries for a one set price.

Hi C.,

Have you tried acupuncture? A collegue of mine (massage therapist) told me that one of her clients had trouble conceiving her second child, and that she went to Abby Miller. They had great success conceiving and delivering. Her information is as follows.

Abby Miller
3810 Ingersoll Ave, Ste B
###-###-####
http://www.balanceandbuild.com/case.html

Good luck!

Hi C.. I had just the opposite problem. I needed fertility drugs and treatment to conceive my first child and then my husband and I had our second child with no help. If you look in to fertility I would HIGHLY recommend going to Family Beginnings. Dr. James Donohue is wonderful!!!!! If it wasnt for him, I would have never been able to get pregnant with my son! They have a website and I believe it is on here(I think) In order to conceive my son we had to have an intrauterine insemination. If you want more info or to talk, email me at ____@____.com.

thanks,

S.

Have you had your thyroid levels checked? A friend of mine had the same problem and her thyroid levels were off.

Have you been to the doctor? With our first, I had no reason to believe that I would have any trouble conceiving, I had never had any health problems of any kind. However, I had been on the pill for about 7 years when we started trying to get pregnant. It turns out that taking the pill can mask a problem that may otherwise cause you not to have regular periods. I didn't know that I had any problem because the hormones in the pill cause you to get a period every month regardless. I had cystic ovaries that were not releasing eggs each month. So if I had not gone to the doctor we could have gone on and on trying with no success. With my condition, I was really lucky. I didn't have to take drugs and have procedures done for months and years. I took one or two different drugs for a few days for a couple of months. Nothing major at all, so don't be so quick to say you don't want to start the whole fertility drug thing. You might be surprised how few you have to take and that fertility drugs don't always involve all that we think they imply. We got pregnant with our daughter about 9 months after I first went to the doctor and now we are pregnant with our son who was conceived with no medical help at all. Keep your chin up!

I read the book about "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weichler (not sure of last name)... followed it to a "T". Was pregnant the first time in 3 months (miscarried), pregnant the second time in 1 month (miscarried) and pregnant the third time in 4 months... however we had to use chlomid (fairly small dosage), estrogen and progesterone to conceive. Depending on what fertility drugs you take, some are not all that bad. Fairly costly, but not too bad with insurance.

As a doula I suggest acupuncture to all my clients to help prepare for childbirth ~ it is a wonderful way to balance the body. And it is great for fertility issues as well. There are a number of acupuncturists who specialize in women's issues in Durham and Chapel hill.

Have you tried acupuncture? It really worked for me, I was pregnant with my first in one month after trying for two years. I know there are a lot of acupuncturists in NC esp. in Ashville. If you want a name let me know and I'll see if I can find one for you. My guy is in Columbia, SC. Hope that helps.
Ann Blair Kennedy

Quit TRYING...My only suggestion and it helped me after 1 year and no pregnancy!

Dear C.,

I am a registered nurse as well. I have worked in OB for the last ten years. I am just interested in what methods you have tried so far, and then maybe I can be of assistance if you are still interested.

It took me two years with my first, and a year and a half with my second. It was so upsetting every month not to see that little freakin' line!!! I know what you are going through!! If your cycle is pretty regular I would try after every monthly.... wait 8-10 days after your period first begain and go for broke girl!!!!

Ask your OB about Clomid. It worked for me after trying for 8 months.

Just an idea from things I have heard. Stop trying. Continue having sex with your husband but don't be worried about trying to get pregnant. From what I have heard, that usually works a lot of the time. Also, prayer works well. Good luck! =)

Clomid worked for me. Took 3 months, and quite costly. The procedure is somewhat invasive as well.
Sometimes, relax is really important if you try to get pregnant naturally.

Dear C. B:
I know this sounds a little strange but we do this in our family: If you know someone (preferably close but doesn't havae to be) that is already pregnant, ask them if you may rub their belly. You would use both hands and rub their belly and then rub yours afterwards. This is suppose to be an old wive's tail but it has worked everytime. It can't hurt so why not try! K. M

Hi C.!

I was pregnant w/ my first son w/in 3 weeks of trying. My second took 21 months and we did end up having to use fertility methods. I found I was not ovulating at all. Had to take meds to make my body work as it should...then what ended up helping was getting my tubes 'blown', can't remember the medical term, but they cleaned out my tubes and looked for blockage. I was pregnant w/in 2 months of this procedure. I'd recommend getting a blood test done to ensure you're ovulating and go from there.

Good luck! I know it's hard, very hard emotionally.
-Cassidy -

What worked for me was this. I have a very irregular cycle. I spoke to several drs who said i was not able to conceieve. They were very wrong. After speaking with a girlfriend that lives int eh UK she informed me of checking your vaginal mucous. Very simple. IF you have alot but are mostly wet it is too soon. when it gets slimy clear and stretchy its a perfect time to try to concieve. it will get dry and ball up when you have missed your conception time or are about to start your period (if you get one, if not this happens also even if there is no cycle to follow as in my case as well)
I missed it the first time But when we tried the second time we succeeded and that was after 2 years of trying before this method. Hope it helps
Tiff

Just relax. sometimes when you try so hard, you actually block the ability to get pregnant. I have heard of people trying then giving up and opting for adoption then whala! Pregnant! Also, if you exercise allot, that too can slow down the ability to get pregnant. Have you talked to your doctor? That is another option before fertility pills. Good Luck!
D.

C.
Don't try. Be with your husband just because you want him. I know this from experience. after our first two we didn't conceive for six years! After four years passed and there wasn't another baby we gave up and found joy in our sensuality.
then we had our daughter and another son

I will tell you to ask yourself;are you tired and are you eating well and how content are you? Sometimes if there is no physical ailment then sometimes it's just stress and lack of time. Dumb as it sounds forget about your future baby and concentrate on your husband and it wouldn't hurt for him to see if he's okay too.

Sweetie, I don't have any advice really, but please know that you are now in my prayers. Hang in there!!
A. A.

We have used the Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor with both our first child and the one we are expecting. It is a bit expensive but we got ours on ebay. (I also sold ours on Ebay after I got pregnant for the second time and I got the same amount back that I paid for it). You also need test sticks that come to around $14.00 a month but for us it was defenitely worth it.
Good luck!

There is a wonderful method that is inexpensive and it is all natural. I highly recommend it. Tracy Comer, RN with Creighton Model Fertility Method in Huntington.

It is different and highly effective--not just for fertility but, also, for birth control, tracking your own cycles, finding hormone imbalances, etc.

I hope this helps you, I wish you so much luck!

A. B., doula

It took us 1 1/2 years to get pregnant with our first boy(probably age related infertility). After 1 year of trying for our second, a couple of rounds of the lowest dose of clomid worked. I had to choose between having a second baby with the use of artificial hormones or not having another child. He was born when I was 39. Good luck -

Relax.....it will happen :o) Me and hubby tried for about a year and a half with our first and when we finally relaxed...it happened. This has happened for several people I know...so maybe it does really work and it wasn't a co-winky dink :o)

You mentioned that you've tried the "natural in the books" thing so you may have already tried this...

I got pregnant with the help of charting. The book "Taking charge of your fertility" shows you how to chart your cycle so that you know when you're most fertile. I highly recommend it.

-K. R.

I was married at 32 and immediately tried to get pregnant. When I was unable to conceive I had blood tests for fertility and was told that I had an FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) of 54 and would not be able to have children. Even though the doctors knew that I had been diagnosed with Hashimoto's thyroiditis since age 25, no one bothered to check my thyroid levels. my TSH was measured at .001. My Synthroid dosage was lowered. a friend advise me to contact a spiritualist who help with fertility with her medicine, i collected her contact an explain my situation to her she prepared for me a herbal medicine which i took as describe I by her. became pregnant very quickly, I had a successful pregnancy. I have my baby august 2014. to get pregnant at age 35 with my 2nd child in september 2016, thank you mama , this is her email contact if you require her help ____@____.com