Toddler Waking at Night, Sometimes for Hours

Updated on March 01, 2012
C.M. asks from Syracuse, NY
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My 23 month old son has been waking up at night at least once a night (sometimes for HOURS) for the past 3 weeks. He had the stomach bug about 5 weeks ago and then an ear infection after that. During those illnesses, he struggled to sleep and we had to spend more time getting him to sleep each night. Now, he is all better (except for a lingering runny nose & cough) but wakes at night wanting to be rocked. You can sometimes get him back to sleep this way but if you try to lay him down before he is ready, he will get very upset and cling to you. If you leave him at this point, he icries and usually does not go back to sleep. He still sleeps in a crib, He used to sleep very well and fall asleep on his own with no issue. He falls alseep on his own for naps and usually at bedtime. I realize we have probably created this problem but am desperate for some advice. I am expecting my second child in 12 weeks and have not slept for more than 3 hours at a time in weeks. Help!

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M.M.

answers from Chicago on

Welcome to sleep training a toddler!
It's much harder than babies, since little personalities are involved. But basically, you need to start from scratch.
Choose a method to extinguish the behavior. Whatever your comfortable with. But recognize that how YOU respond to him overnight will dictate how long this lasts, and what he continues to do.

He's waking up and screaming because he wants you to go in there, and you are. Totally understandable when he's sick. But now it's time to reset the message that night time is for sleeping.
For mine, at that age, he got 1x that I would go in. (I could tell if there was a bad dream involved.) Beyond that, I tucked him in, told him I wasn't coming back until the sun came up. Took a few nights of crying it out to get back to sleeping again. But he got the message.

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A.N.

answers from New York on

I second the last opinion. I go through this every time after the little ones are sick. It takes a night or two (or three) to get them back to bed on their own. But what can you do? When they are sick they need the comfort. But you have to get back to a routine for your sake and for his sake. I wish you the best of luck. Hang in there. Now is the time to be consistent.

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M.T.

answers from New York on

If he's up for hours, it could also be that he's at an age where his nap schedue needs to be adjusted. I'd say give him his nap earlier. Also, when he wakes, for now go in and comfort him but without picking him up.

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K.C.

answers from New York on

What about introducing a new stuffed animal named "Sleepy Sam?"
This 1 particular stuffed animal can accompany him for the bedtime story and for bedtime.
Keep the bedtime routine consistent. Realize that it does take a while.
I used to have to tell myself to stay calm. Otherwise, my daughter would sense the impatience.
I do agree that he will need to get himself back to sleep.

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